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School run perfunctory smile

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iThinkYouAreWonderful · 31/01/2026 08:11

So, I live in a small neighbourhood. I work from home so I do the school run everyday. Morning and Afternoon.

During the school run, I walk past neighbours and other parents that I have had limited interactions with. I think they are OK, but we're not friends. We've chatted for 5 minutes here and there, but not much to say.

But I KEEP bumping into them. Multiple times a day or week. And there is only one sensible route to school.

What do people do in this situation? Just keeping making a perfunctory smile? I've had a couple of people start to just walk right past and pretend not to see me. Some look down at the floor, mobile phones, some just stare straight ahead. (the pavement is narrow, no getting away). I find it rude when people you've chatted to from time to time just start to completely ignore you. It just seems really rude. I find it hard to do that.

But equally this fake acknowledgement smile feels, well fake. What do other people do please.

Question: Can I just walk past neighbours, parents in my kids class, etc multiple times a day and not acknowledge that we know each other?

How do other people cope?!

OP posts:
ThatWasMyLastFatFreeFrush · 31/01/2026 08:37

"Morning!" (or whatever time of day it is) and keep walking.

mynameiscalypso · 31/01/2026 08:36

I normally just smile, maybe a quick hello or slightly awkward wave as I walk past. Sometimes I don’t acknowledge people if I’m not paying attention, if my mind is elsewhere then I can be totally blind to my surroundings but I don’t mean to be rude.

newornotnew · 31/01/2026 08:34

I just always say hi.

RedRiverShore6 · 31/01/2026 08:32

If it's people I have spoken to I would just say hello and carry on, it I had never spoken to them just carry on.

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