Am I unreasonable for being offended

I think your secretly bothered it’s another boy. Sorry to say.

I don't think you can ask people to guess the gender and some of them not say they think it might be/would love it to be a girl. Surely that's just obvious. If someone had two girls they'd get a certain amount of people guessing a boy or saying it would be nice to have one.

They also may be assuming, albeit incorrectly that you'd slightly prefer a girl as you've not got one yet.

Most people if given the choice would probably like a mixture of the two. But of course people love their child of either sex and it's most important that they're healthy.

Anyway her message was not insulting or rude in tone and I would be extremely surprised if your brother would take it as offensive.

Your mum’s message was lovely.

Congrats on your new boy.

There is nothing in your mother's comment that is offensive.
She wasn't being mean about your brother and it was sweet of her.

I think hormones may be making you a bit unreasonable.

Same….

this is clearly looking for problems where there are none, there’s nothing to be offended about in that message

YABU - you asked for guesses and I don’t think there was anything wrong with your Mum’s message, she was actually paying you a compliment 🤦‍♀️

Jesus Christ almighty. I feel sorry for your mother.

It sounds like a very sweet message to me, with an acknowledgement of how much she values her relationship with her daughter.

Yabu because you invited discussion on the sex of your baby. She said being healthy was the main thing and that your baby would be loved either way.

I don't understand everyone saying that it's okay because the OP asked for guesses. Her Mum didn't guess, she gave her unrequested preference!

I hate to call fellow women hormonal but…

This. I’m very impressed with your mum’s tact, she sounds lovely. Asking people to guess the gender and then being offended when they don’t answer in exactly the way you want is a bit silly.

I would have seen your perspective if you hadn't asked for guesses. And she wasn't being rude to your brother, she didn't say it was MORE special than having a boy just that it was special and its something women can say to each other I think? its also meant as a kind nod to you as her daughter I guess? I get why you feel defensive but I think maybe YABU as you invited this

I wonder if - considering you have two boys already - she took you asking them to guess as a hint that it wasn't the same again? I might assume that

She'll be taking it as a given that she will love them regardless but if you need her to say it that's also understandable and you can lightly say I hope you'll love him just as much!

No idea but is there a chance you could be directing some of your own disappointment (totally legit and normal btw) towards her for expressing something you may be repressing yourself?

And btw huge congrats!

Your poor Mother. I feel so sad for her

Yes I would have been a little offended .. I had a similar response from my mother in law.. she had two boys and always wanted a daughter, she said when I was pregnant with second ‘if you have a girl it will be extra special but we will love whatever you have’ always left me feeling like I’d let her down a little and to be fair my own mother was disappointed when I had a second son .. found it very hurtful and irritating 😠

You created this situation by asking for guesses.

Your mum's message was perfectly nice. Do you secretly really dislike her or something?

I think it’s a lovely message from your Mum. I’d have read it as she thinks having YOU as a girl baby was pretty special.

I have 5 boys and very happy with my family of boys! Would have been just as happy if we'd had a girl though 🤷‍♀️ I don't think your mum was being offensive at all - she was saying how much she loved having a daughter and thinking it would be nice for you to have a daughter also. That doesn't mean that she doesn't love your boys or will not welcome your new son. You're being over sensitive I'm afraid.

Yes, you are unreasonable for being offended. Please don’t now be offended by my response (and the many, many other similar responses)

I’m pregnant again and we already have a little boy. I’ve asked for guesses and a few people have said how lovely it would be to have a girl but healthy is all that matters. I’ve not been offended at all. I’d love another boy, and I’d love a girl too so I’m happy either way.

Just tell people you’re having another boy as you already know. Seems like you’re trying to get your feelings hurt or something x

I would read it as "a girl would be special because you have 2 boys already", rather than girls are more special than boys...
I think reactions of this nature were unavoidable in those circumstances, from your mum or someone else, so it would have been better not to ask them to guess.

You asked her to guess, she guessed and said why, then she said whatever sex the baby is she will love it.
I think you are being over sensitive. I think it was a lovely message from your mum

Think you’re letting you’re hormones get the better of you! She was in no way offensive and I wouldn’t give it a 2nd thought

You asked, she answered. It was naive to assume you wouldn't get any such comments when you invited guesses like you did. I think she was trying to be nice.