Inspired by another thread where someone asked how people would view a parent with two NC children.
Im in therapy and hoping to get the resilience and coping mechanisms to go no contact with my mother (only parent). She has a lot of friends, some for decades. My sisters are in contact with her. Shes a wealthy woman who provided a materially rich childhood (private school, horse, luxury holidays etc) and can be very charming. She volunteers for charities and has helped friends financially. She has never physically or sexually abused me.
I believe she is a deeply unpleasant person who has made my life extremely unhappy (either through emotional neglect or abuse) and I want to cut her out so there’s no risk she could hurt my child. her friends don’t know this, they’re her friends, I don’t have an independent relationship with them.
If you were friends with someone like her. Friends for decades, see her charity work and material provision etc would you think I was cruel to cut her out of my life? Would you assumed I’d acted because I wanted to hurt her or just didn’t want to provide care in her old age? Or would you wonder if she wasn’t the person you thought after all these years?
thank you.
YABU I’d think you were being unkind and ungrateful
YANBU I’d wonder what she’d done that forced you into this position.