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Jogger shoulder barged me today.

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Notsuchafattynow · 29/01/2026 19:07

I was walking my dog this afternoon, when out of nowhere, a male jogger shoulder barged me. It was very intentional and my shoulder still aches now.

He carried on jogging, and we had the following exchange.

Me: excuse me! You just could have said excuse me!
Him: you took up all the path
Me: thats why you say excuse me! You wouldnt do that to a man.

He jogged futher on then said 'yes I would' and gave me the v's.

I live in a small village so likey to see him again. Should I report?

He was wearing a very distintive jogging outfit, but he kept his back to me, so I could not see his face. His legs were bare, so I could guess he was 60 plus as they were old man legs.

I feel like I was assulted!

OP posts:
Kelvinator1 · 30/01/2026 07:04

I haven't been barged, but as an often solo dog walker I find an increasing number of people just won't move...even a tiny bit....eg. walking three abreast taking the whole path, and I'm expected to go off into the bushes to make way for them.

User0311 · 30/01/2026 07:01

I would 100% be posting a description on the local Facebook page! It might make him think twice about doing it again in the future

endofthelinefinally · 30/01/2026 06:57

Mammut · 29/01/2026 19:26

I’ve really noticed an increase in shoulder barging by men recently. It’s happened to me several times.

It is a trend and has been discussed on MN at length. Remember the Putney Bridge jogger who shoved the woman into the path of a bus?

Bimpy · 30/01/2026 06:57

Woman walking dog mindlessly taking up whole pavement gets jostled out of the way by runner as he tries to pass. ‘Assault’? Get a grip!

BitOutOfPractice · 30/01/2026 06:30

Give it a rest with the “old lady” and “old man legs” shtick op. 60 is not “old”.

Other than that YANBU. People’s awareness of those around then has deteriorated massively. Men’s aggression around “their” space has skyrocketed. (And no I’m not going to apologise for saying men here).

I’m glad you’ve reported.

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canklesmctacotits · 29/01/2026 22:49

Bloodycrossstitch · 29/01/2026 22:06

or just say ‘excuse me’ like a normal human being?

Why didn’t I think of that the first 2,000 times this happened

🙄

grumpygrape · 29/01/2026 22:38

Notsuchafattynow · 29/01/2026 22:20

Thanks for the support, I have logged it online. So at least there's a record of it.

I feel better for making a record of it incase there are other reports or next time it's one of the old ladies who walk that path daily.

Get a GoPro for when you are out and about ? Useful for all sorts of things. Like a pedestrian's Dash Cam.

cosimarama · 29/01/2026 22:29

Well done. If it’s only you it’s awful but you haven’t lost anything except - a little time -by reporting it. If it isn’t only you, then there’s more chance that he’ll be stopped. Someone who does that so brazenly, gives justification and has no remorse may well want to do it again.

Notsuchafattynow · 29/01/2026 22:20

Thanks for the support, I have logged it online. So at least there's a record of it.

I feel better for making a record of it incase there are other reports or next time it's one of the old ladies who walk that path daily.

OP posts:
elfendom1 · 29/01/2026 22:18

That is an assault. Male/female perpetrator, still the same, you don't cross a physical barrier with someone intentionally (and his words suggest it was completely deliberate) without it being defined as an assault. I'd be out to get him. Report it or watch and wait, whatever you feel suits you, but you did nothing wrong and were assaulted. and you must feel so angry right now. And everyone knows he damn well would not have done that to another male.

CinnamonJellyBeans · 29/01/2026 22:17

canklesmctacotits · 29/01/2026 21:21

I do that now. I am absolutely sick of people with a stroller and a dog on a leash on the school run, allowing the dog to sniff around on the other side of the pavement from them, basically setting a trip wire for other people with the dog leash. Occupying the ENTIRE width of the pavement with enormous stroller and dog on a leash forcing people to jump over the leash or nudge the dog away - or most often, wait. Wait for their fucking dog to finish its sniffing. I stop a little too close to either the dog or the stroller and they suddenly realise that a stranger is in what they deem to be their personal space (the entire pavement) and move. People are so bloody inconsiderate.

This is true, people are inconsiderate, but you don't need to assault people just because they're in your way.

OP: You should put this on your local facebook and log it with the police.

FishFingerSandwichs · 29/01/2026 22:07

Redpeach · 29/01/2026 22:04

Not me no, im v happy to move/share the space/ wait/stand aside on pavements and pathways, its not something i mind.

Well here you have been policing the posters experience so maybe cross over now

Bloodycrossstitch · 29/01/2026 22:06

canklesmctacotits · 29/01/2026 21:21

I do that now. I am absolutely sick of people with a stroller and a dog on a leash on the school run, allowing the dog to sniff around on the other side of the pavement from them, basically setting a trip wire for other people with the dog leash. Occupying the ENTIRE width of the pavement with enormous stroller and dog on a leash forcing people to jump over the leash or nudge the dog away - or most often, wait. Wait for their fucking dog to finish its sniffing. I stop a little too close to either the dog or the stroller and they suddenly realise that a stranger is in what they deem to be their personal space (the entire pavement) and move. People are so bloody inconsiderate.

or just say ‘excuse me’ like a normal human being?

Redpeach · 29/01/2026 22:04

ThisBoldFinch · 29/01/2026 21:57

Seems like you’re the one taking up all of the room on this conversational pavement and refusing to budge when this lady stands her ground

Not me no, im v happy to move/share the space/ wait/stand aside on pavements and pathways, its not something i mind.

Notasbigasithink · 29/01/2026 21:59

Notsuchafattynow · 29/01/2026 19:07

I was walking my dog this afternoon, when out of nowhere, a male jogger shoulder barged me. It was very intentional and my shoulder still aches now.

He carried on jogging, and we had the following exchange.

Me: excuse me! You just could have said excuse me!
Him: you took up all the path
Me: thats why you say excuse me! You wouldnt do that to a man.

He jogged futher on then said 'yes I would' and gave me the v's.

I live in a small village so likey to see him again. Should I report?

He was wearing a very distintive jogging outfit, but he kept his back to me, so I could not see his face. His legs were bare, so I could guess he was 60 plus as they were old man legs.

I feel like I was assulted!

Its called assault when someone deliberately uses physical force against you with the intent of inflicting pain. Regardless of the circumstances, I would report to the police. What if next time he deliberately shoulder barges an elderly/frail person to the ground and they break a hip or bash their head??
He doesn't own the path, its there for everyone to share ffs.

ThisBoldFinch · 29/01/2026 21:57

Redpeach · 29/01/2026 21:52

Wouldn't standing your ground be more confrontational and anxiety inducing? Whats wring with a small excuse me please and a smile?

Seems like you’re the one taking up all of the room on this conversational pavement and refusing to budge when this lady stands her ground

XenoBitch · 29/01/2026 21:56

Redpeach · 29/01/2026 21:52

Wouldn't standing your ground be more confrontational and anxiety inducing? Whats wring with a small excuse me please and a smile?

Why should I excuse myself for not stepping into traffic to avoid a group of people who are so self absorbed not to notice someone approaching them in the opposite direction?

When you at the point you have to say excuse me, you are already too close.

Redpeach · 29/01/2026 21:52

XenoBitch · 29/01/2026 21:50

No. And the best I can up with is "sorry", like I am apologising for existing.

But in future, I will just stand my ground. I hope that is ok.

Wouldn't standing your ground be more confrontational and anxiety inducing? Whats wring with a small excuse me please and a smile?

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 29/01/2026 21:51

FishFingerSandwichs · 29/01/2026 21:29

People are saying women barge too - yes they do but other women

we are talking about men CHOOsING to barge women instead of other men

Exactly.

I was shoulder barged by a female jogger while minding my own business, stupid decision on her part as I was taller and stronger than her; I sprinted after her and give her a dose of her own medicine.

If a man had barged me, I'd have done nothing.

XenoBitch · 29/01/2026 21:50

Redpeach · 29/01/2026 21:40

So you can't say excuse me please?

No. And the best I can up with is "sorry", like I am apologising for existing.

But in future, I will just stand my ground. I hope that is ok.

OnTheBoardwalk · 29/01/2026 21:49

Absolutely log it online or with 101 as this could be a pattern

and also put it on local social media sites

swingingbytheseat · 29/01/2026 21:46

Over adrenalised knob jockey. Name and shame

greengreyblue · 29/01/2026 21:45

Notsuchafattynow · 29/01/2026 21:30

Yes, it's a narrow pavement with a grass verge to the side. If he'd have said 'excuse me' I would have stood to the side, as I do when I meet anyone on that path.

I'm not entitled to think the path was mine alone. I am happy to share it!

A guy walked right up behind me, nudged my shoulder and over-took me one night after work. It was a quiet path and I jumped and kind of gasped. I said “ Hey you scared me, you could’ve said excuse me.” And he told me to shut my white mouth!

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