To think a therapist with a personality disorder is concerning?

Yes they either seem to be super duper skinny or vastly overweight. I’m yet to see one that appears a healthy weight.

I suspect a high number of dieticians have had issues around food

i think a significant proportion of mental health nurses have mental health diagnoses themselves…..

Seems likely normal I’d say. As in therapists having their own demons and possible mental health issues.

Think of it like this you might be amazing at telling your friend to leave her pos boyfriend. But you might not be good at leaving a bad relationship yourself. You could give great money advice but be shit with your own impulse spending.

Do as I say not as I do and such.

Unfortunately jobs in psychology/mental health do attract mentally unstable people in my opinion!

It is a bit of a worry how unregulated it seems to be. I have had many therapists, good and bad, and I wouldn't know if they were genuinely trained and legit etc. it's expensive, sometimes £50 an hour etc. They might send you a certificate or whatever, but I wouldn't know if it was fake or genuine. They're potentially exploiting people when they're at their most vulnerable. I wish that it was properly regulated

I came to say something similar. I know many people that trained in similar areas primarily to understand themselves/try and self heal.

I doubt that it is unusual tbh. Most therapists go into the role to self heal or self explore.

I've seen lots of mentally unwell and sometimes very cruel/manipulative people go into caring roles! Especially mental health nurses!

Yes, it's hard when there is no regulation around the title therapist or counsellor etc
Nothing you can do so maybe just distance yourself, it's not your business. Some people are good at compartmentalising but at the same time you never know what is or isn't bleeding into her practice

Personality disorders are quite dodgy science in any case - they often serve as “dustbin diagnoses” and are gradually being replaced with less nebulous and more pertinent labels. If the therapist has well-managed and treated long-term MH conditions, that’s not uncommon at all in the therapeutic community and can actually be an asset. I think I would mind my own business.

As I thought
just butt out
of she was doing a crap job, she wouldn’t have patients as they’d leave
No one is forcing anyone to see her

Sadly, there is nothing that stops anyone from calling themselves a ‘therapist’ and hanging out their shingle. Frankly, I know some mental health professionals (one an addictions social worker, another a clinical psychologist) who are mad as a box of frogs. The social worker was having sex with one of her clients for a time. The clinical psychologist does drugs and knowingly turned a blind eye to a paedophile having contact with a young child without telling the child’s parents or reporting it as a safeguarding concern.

There’s a therapist local to me who is forever on our local facebook group advertising her services with big long rants about her own fragile mental health and how much money she has to spend on therapy for herself because of how traumatised she is by work with her clients.

Honestly, people have to do their due diligence about anyone they hire. Therapists should be engaging in supervision and CPD where hopefully someone can flag up serious concerns to the professional body they may be a member of. But how far a complaint or safeguarding concern would actually go remains to be seen. It won’t stop people practicing as anyone can flog their services on Facebook or their website. I agree with you it is worrying though.

Your ex partner’s new girlfriend
or your new partner’s ex girlfriend

by any chance?