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To seriously recommend Ireland

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Ionablue · 29/01/2026 18:00

Before I start I completely get that it can be expensive, the weather is bad and many Irish residents are emigrating for accommodation & opportunities. But....
A very very large proportion of the Irish people seem put on earth specifically to restore visitors faith in human nature. Genuine and warm, great sense of humour
Many women in particular supposedly find Ireland blissfully relaxing, not just because it is a laidback culture but because the general male culture seems to revolve less around making women feel uncomfortable than in other countries.

Some of the countryside and heritage is literally heavenly. Co. Waterford, especially its western extremities eg Dungarvan. Ardmore, Lismore, is an undiscovered gem.

Yes its not cheap but the food can be exceptional.

Most ordinary people seem exceptionally well disposed to foreign visitors and many have relatives abroad.

In rural Ireland you can drive for miles without seeing a car.

The music is brilliant and the people seem enormously invested in live music.

Well, that's my tuppence.

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MoreCraicPlease · 31/01/2026 10:41

Dappy777 · 30/01/2026 15:38

Rural Ireland is kind of similar to rural England, but without the overcrowding. English people love rural Ireland because it reminds them of what rural England used to be like. I remember saying “isn’t it quiet” to my partner, but then thinking “hang on… this is normality. This is what the countryside is supposed to be like. It’s rural Essex, with its endless housing estates and country lanes clogged with traffic, that’s abnormal.”

I agree.
My other half was pushing me out of the bed on a bank holiday in Ireland to get ahead of the crowds going to be beach. He was confused to find almost no-one else there (west coast).

TheIceBear · 31/01/2026 10:28

DandyDenimScroller · 31/01/2026 04:44

Hi Brenda 👋

Yeh because every single person in Ireland is a clone of Brenda. It is usually people of lower intelligence that judge an entire nation based on a bad experience with a handful of people

romdowa · 31/01/2026 08:15

Im irish and can agree on some points although I dont find it very relaxing. My husband from se england loves it here though and wouldn't ever move back to the UK, especially while our dc are young.

SpaceRaccoon · 31/01/2026 08:13

I honestly feel.like I miss something when it comes to Ireland, my least favourite European country. Dublin is bloody awful, the rural areas can't compete with Scotland, and the friendliness must have been taking a week off.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 31/01/2026 08:02

Soonenough · 31/01/2026 07:58

@EmeraldShamrock000 Oops. Sorry yes you are right . From Mumbai .

I really liked Leo V as a leader, modern, well spoken, well dressed, articulate and educated as an ex GP he knew people. 🥰

Soonenough · 31/01/2026 07:58

@EmeraldShamrock000 Oops. Sorry yes you are right . From Mumbai .

EmeraldShamrock000 · 31/01/2026 07:53

Leader was a half Egyptian married gay man.
Indian …
It is far from the worst but there is a lot of learning to do and awareness about domestic violence

EmeraldShamrock000 · 31/01/2026 07:51

Peachandpassionfruit · 30/01/2026 23:45

So it’s not under Irish jurisdiction and not policed by an Garda Siochana.

Come on? Violence against women in the republic of Ireland is a huge problem, everyday some fucker is in court for torture, abuse, burning, scalding, beating his partner/ex partner. That is not counting the women who died, familicide is an issue, son’s beating mothers, murdering their mother or father.
I don’t know why pps aren’t more aware of the violence or are blissfully ignorant about it.
They’re the cases reported.

Soonenough · 31/01/2026 07:45

The violence against women being talked about refers to Northern Ireland figures . However unfortunately the majority of these are domestic violence issues . So being murdered or maimed by their own partners .

I have lived many places including UK and think Ireland is the best . No country is without its world wide issues like housing healthcare, illegal immigration.
You don't live in Ireland for the weather but when it is nice , my God it is beautiful. I also think despite our religious background we are quite tolerant about diversity. First law approving gay marriage in Europe , first to implement plastic bag guidelines , great response to Covid . Leader was a half Egyptian married gay man .

And one of the best sense of humor, is craic on the planet.

DandyDenimScroller · 31/01/2026 04:44

TheIceBear · 30/01/2026 20:13

The fact you just said “idc” and “fuck you, you nasty cunt” just goes to show what a rude person you are yourself .

Hi Brenda 👋

TrishM80 · 31/01/2026 02:00

CraftyNavySeal · 29/01/2026 20:07

Because the Scottish were cleared out of the Highlands and sent to NI/US. A handful of wealthy landowners own it all now.

My mums family is Irish and I have spent many a rainy summer there but I’m in no hurry to go back. I find the friendliness quite fake. Watch the Irish Traitors and you will see what they are really like underneath it all!

How'd you know it's fake, you a mind reader?! 😂

BigBadBarrie · 31/01/2026 00:53

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Peachandpassionfruit · 30/01/2026 23:45

Lavender14 · 30/01/2026 22:18

https://www.wrda.net/blog/when-will-northern-ireland-name-femicide

Unfortunately it is not "total bullshit".

It's complete fact. And here's the receipts. It's very worrying.

So it’s not under Irish jurisdiction and not policed by an Garda Siochana.

PurpleLovecats · 30/01/2026 23:36

We lived in Ireland for a while and when I was younger I was also engaged to an Irish man. There is certainly a lot to love.
But when we lived there we really struggled to integrate. People were quite hostile sadly where we were and my husband in particular found it really difficult, he was ostracised at work for being English which was very unexpected to me.

justasking111 · 30/01/2026 23:26

organisedadmin · 29/01/2026 19:57

As an Irish person obviously Irish people are the best!

We are, but living in Wales I've enough feckin rain do they have to share it so generously here 🤣

Dontlletmedownbruce · 30/01/2026 23:22

Lavender14 · 30/01/2026 23:17

This very much depends on your politics I guess. Some people very much see it as part of Ireland and some will see it as the UK.

Perhaps, but how a person identifies is different from the reality. It is officially part of UK and if you are quoting criminal statistics the jurisdiction is very relevant.

Martymcfly24 · 30/01/2026 23:21

Lavender14 · 30/01/2026 23:17

This very much depends on your politics I guess. Some people very much see it as part of Ireland and some will see it as the UK.

Legally, politically and economically it is part of the UK.

As much as a Unified Ireland is the desire for some for statistics like this it is under the umbrella of the UK .

Lavender14 · 30/01/2026 23:17

Dontlletmedownbruce · 30/01/2026 23:13

So you are referring to part of the UK then? Not sure how that is relevant to the thread

This very much depends on your politics I guess. Some people very much see it as part of Ireland and some will see it as the UK.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 30/01/2026 23:13

Lavender14 · 30/01/2026 22:16

Northern Ireland is now ranked the second most dangerous place to be a woman in Europe due to how many women are murdered regularly. (Apologies I said most rather than second most in error). We have a significant problem with VAWG.

So you are referring to part of the UK then? Not sure how that is relevant to the thread

Butterbeersallround · 30/01/2026 22:51

Lavender14 · 30/01/2026 22:16

Northern Ireland is now ranked the second most dangerous place to be a woman in Europe due to how many women are murdered regularly. (Apologies I said most rather than second most in error). We have a significant problem with VAWG.

I think when lots of Irish people say Ireland they generally mean the state also known as the Republic of Ireland, not the island.
I know I do. (The official name of the state is Ireland, not ROI.)

I think it may be different for Irish people in Northern Ireland or indeed for people in the rest of the UK, so we may all be talking a little bit at cross purposes here.

Holdonforsummer · 30/01/2026 22:22

My friend went and said it was like holidaying in a car wash.

Martymcfly24 · 30/01/2026 22:19

Lavender14 · 30/01/2026 22:16

Northern Ireland is now ranked the second most dangerous place to be a woman in Europe due to how many women are murdered regularly. (Apologies I said most rather than second most in error). We have a significant problem with VAWG.

Oh right. Under the juristication of the UK government so.

Lavender14 · 30/01/2026 22:18

Peachandpassionfruit · 30/01/2026 21:01

some parts of Ireland are now ranked the most dangerous place to be a woman in Europe due to the high rates of homicide against women

This is total bullshit.
Ireland isn’t paradise but having lived in both, it’s a better place to raise kids than the UK for me.

https://www.wrda.net/blog/when-will-northern-ireland-name-femicide

Unfortunately it is not "total bullshit".

It's complete fact. And here's the receipts. It's very worrying.

When Will Northern Ireland Name Femicide? — Womens Resource and Development Agency

Northern Ireland has the second highest rate of femicide across Europe. The statistics are harrowing. The Police Service of Northern Ireland (PSNI) responded to instances of domestic abuse every 16 minutes since 2023. The law is apprehensive to tackle...

https://www.wrda.net/blog/when-will-northern-ireland-name-femicide

Lavender14 · 30/01/2026 22:16

Martymcfly24 · 30/01/2026 17:06

Where is it in Ireland that is rated the most dangerous place to be a woman in Europe?

Not being smart just genuinely surprised at that statistic.

Northern Ireland is now ranked the second most dangerous place to be a woman in Europe due to how many women are murdered regularly. (Apologies I said most rather than second most in error). We have a significant problem with VAWG.

SingtotheCat · 30/01/2026 22:06

I get my impressions of Ireland from “Bad Sisters” and my one visit to Dublin 20 years ago.
The people all spoke to one another! It was nice. It seemed to be normal.
I like a little contact with people and a laugh with them, if I can. You can do that with the Irish, the Greeks. Nice. I wouldn’t mind living in Ireland.