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To seriously recommend Ireland

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Ionablue · 29/01/2026 18:00

Before I start I completely get that it can be expensive, the weather is bad and many Irish residents are emigrating for accommodation & opportunities. But....
A very very large proportion of the Irish people seem put on earth specifically to restore visitors faith in human nature. Genuine and warm, great sense of humour
Many women in particular supposedly find Ireland blissfully relaxing, not just because it is a laidback culture but because the general male culture seems to revolve less around making women feel uncomfortable than in other countries.

Some of the countryside and heritage is literally heavenly. Co. Waterford, especially its western extremities eg Dungarvan. Ardmore, Lismore, is an undiscovered gem.

Yes its not cheap but the food can be exceptional.

Most ordinary people seem exceptionally well disposed to foreign visitors and many have relatives abroad.

In rural Ireland you can drive for miles without seeing a car.

The music is brilliant and the people seem enormously invested in live music.

Well, that's my tuppence.

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Icelap · 31/01/2026 19:39

Oakbud · 31/01/2026 19:03

Just curious if you think South Korea and North Korea is the same country?

The person who I was referring to said Belfast isn't in Ireland. That's like someone saying Pyongyang isn't in 'Korea'.

I am going to guess that you were neither born nor raised on any part of the island. I merely surmising that you have no first hand experience of the deeply ingrained cultural idenities at play in the issue of being from the North of Ireland, or you are really playing devil's advocate by using this comparison. Maybe you're an Ulster loyalist? Northern Ireland is in Ireland.

mathanxiety · 31/01/2026 19:12

justasking111 · 31/01/2026 19:08

Too hilly to build on?

Nope.

mathanxiety · 31/01/2026 19:11

Oakbud · 31/01/2026 19:03

Just curious if you think South Korea and North Korea is the same country?

They're both on the Korean Peninsula, and the fact that there's a border there is due to conflicting imperialists, not due to any innate differences in language or culture.

Obviously, cultural and economic development since the division of the peninsula has been in radically different directions. This doesn't diminish the fact that the two halves are part of an ancient culture that was distinct from neighboring cultures.

Like many borders all over the world that the Conservative Party had a hand in (in Eastern Europe, Africa, and the Middle East) the one dividing Ireland is also highly artificial.

nzeire · 31/01/2026 19:11

caterpillary · 29/01/2026 19:28

Also very clean

? Wtf ?

justasking111 · 31/01/2026 19:08

mathanxiety · 31/01/2026 19:04

You know why the Highlands are so empty and picturesque, right?

Too hilly to build on?

mathanxiety · 31/01/2026 19:04

GreyfriarsJobbies · 29/01/2026 19:57

It's perfectly nice but I suspect your rave review can be attributed to a large degree to the fact that you were on holiday. We went over a few years ago to (mostly) Kerry and while there's a lot to like, my abiding memory is of lovely countryside spoiled by bloody horrible bungalows everywhere. We'll save the ferry trip and stick to the Scottish highlands tbh.

You know why the Highlands are so empty and picturesque, right?

Catladywithacat · 31/01/2026 19:04

Never been would love to go

Oakbud · 31/01/2026 19:03

Icelap · 31/01/2026 18:48

Of course its Ireland!! Northern IRELAND.

Just curious if you think South Korea and North Korea is the same country?

ReturnOfTheToad · 31/01/2026 19:01

Icelap · 31/01/2026 18:48

Of course its Ireland!! Northern IRELAND.

You know what she means. The country of Ireland. Northern Ireland isn't part of Ireland the country. There is a border. Northern Ireland is part of the UK with the pound, the NHS, different social services, different leaders, a different history, different politics, different laws etc. They aren't one and the same no matter how many people might want them to be. Correcting people wrongly because you very much want them to be one and the same still doesn't make it so.

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To seriously recommend Ireland
Icelap · 31/01/2026 18:48

Hollyhobbi · 30/01/2026 18:55

But Belfast is a different country! It’s not Ireland!

Of course its Ireland!! Northern IRELAND.

Icelap · 31/01/2026 18:45

Lavender14 · 31/01/2026 17:59

And I think this is amplified for those living in border areas who are spending as much time in the south as in the North. Both are home.

100%

And I get irked by non Irish people telling me I am not from Ireland. Northern Ireland is a very specific type of Irishness, as you said, but Irish all the same.

Martymcfly24 · 31/01/2026 18:19

Catsbreakfast · 31/01/2026 18:09

Worked for an Irish company and sexual harassment was rampant and brushed under the carpet. OP
sees to live in some fantasy world

Did you live in Ireland and was this your experience in your day to day life here?

Catsbreakfast · 31/01/2026 18:09

TwentyFourHoursToTulsa · 29/01/2026 19:26

Have you ever actually lived there, OP?! It's a country like any other. And one strongly based on historical religion, and its abuses.

And as for this:

Many women in particular supposedly find Ireland blissfully relaxing, not just because it is a laidback culture but because the general male culture seems to revolve less around making women feel uncomfortable than in other countries.

I've got some laundries to tell you about.

Worked for an Irish company and sexual harassment was rampant and brushed under the carpet. OP
sees to live in some fantasy world

Changedname9999 · 31/01/2026 18:06

Hollyhobbi · 30/01/2026 18:55

But Belfast is a different country! It’s not Ireland!

many of us believe it is Ireland. The clue is in its name. Northern ‘Ireland’

Lavender14 · 31/01/2026 17:59

MoreCraicPlease · 31/01/2026 15:06

People assume that those of us who are talking about Northern Ireland femicide aren’t Irish which is a bit of an insult in my case. Born and bred Irish, strong NI links, lived between UK and Ireland and beyond at different times. We are not talking about someone who came on the boat for 5 days and doesn’t realise which side of the border they’re on.
Of course I know the Gardai don’t have jurisdiction in NI but this much more than a point about the culture of women suffering and dying than about policing.

@Anonanonanonagainliterally no-one is talking in clichés like leprechauns.

And I think this is amplified for those living in border areas who are spending as much time in the south as in the North. Both are home.

Lavender14 · 31/01/2026 17:57

Icelap · 31/01/2026 17:27

No, I am from Northern Ireland and absolutely consider myself Irish, as being from Ireland; I was born on the island of Ireland and have an Irish passport. I live abroad but my official nationality on all of my documents is 'Irish'. It wouldn't cross my mind that I am anything other than Irish, as much as I don't rate the place much.

Yeah I certainly don't see myself as British. Northern Irish maybe in that we have a very specific shared legacy in trauma in the North but I still see it as the North of Ireland. I certainly don't feel any connection to the English for example.

fairfat40 · 31/01/2026 17:55

To expand: the outlook and perspective on the world is totally different IMO. The thinking is not the same. Im doing some family history and within living memory, if you played rugby as opposed to the Gaelic sports, you would not be allowed to play Gaelic sports in the future. And the Irish hate being tacked on to the British (especially the English 😂).

fairfat40 · 31/01/2026 17:50

JoannaTheYodelingCowgirl · 31/01/2026 17:32

Isn't Ireland just like Britain but with a different accent, more beer and Taytos instead of Walkers crisps?
Its not like going to Japan or Portugal Grin

Yeah, you’re kind of right. But the people see themselves as completely different to the British culturally. They see themselves as European, with more in common with say the Spanish than the English.

JoannaTheYodelingCowgirl · 31/01/2026 17:32

Isn't Ireland just like Britain but with a different accent, more beer and Taytos instead of Walkers crisps?
Its not like going to Japan or Portugal Grin

DandyDenimScroller · 31/01/2026 17:28

Butterbeersallround · 31/01/2026 17:16

Yes, MIL-to-be I should have said.
Surprised that’s the only thing you took from my post 😅

Well aren't you lucky no one has said anything nasty like that about your dad. Honestly, some of these posters...and I'm the unintelligent one 🙄

Icelap · 31/01/2026 17:27

Butterbeersallround · 30/01/2026 22:51

I think when lots of Irish people say Ireland they generally mean the state also known as the Republic of Ireland, not the island.
I know I do. (The official name of the state is Ireland, not ROI.)

I think it may be different for Irish people in Northern Ireland or indeed for people in the rest of the UK, so we may all be talking a little bit at cross purposes here.

No, I am from Northern Ireland and absolutely consider myself Irish, as being from Ireland; I was born on the island of Ireland and have an Irish passport. I live abroad but my official nationality on all of my documents is 'Irish'. It wouldn't cross my mind that I am anything other than Irish, as much as I don't rate the place much.

Butterbeersallround · 31/01/2026 17:16

DandyDenimScroller · 31/01/2026 16:26

Read my post. It says ex fiance.

Yes, MIL-to-be I should have said.
Surprised that’s the only thing you took from my post 😅

Anonanonanonagain · 31/01/2026 16:34

Yep absolutely a WHOLE country and all we do is try desperately to cause trouble. Sure what else would we be doing with ourselves like.

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Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.