Do I end this based on hearsay.

I am not sating definitely dump him

I am.

Even a Clare's law request won't uncover anything if there was never a conviction and even if it's true, there probably isn't because there usually isn't, even when it happened.

Plus swearing on his child's life. Horrible man, probably lying.

My ex husband was physically and emotionally abusive during the last few years of our 20 year marriage and this is exactly what he says.

Swears on the kids’ lives none of it happened, he even denies it to the (now adult) kids, even though they were there and sadly aware! They know he’s lying but the constant cycle of gf don’t.

Yes, run.

Quite, I have never done this and never would
It smacks of over the top desperation to be believed when its actually lies
I am not sating definitely dump him but be very cautious

He told you because he knows he's going to hear it from someone else and he wanted to get in first. He's lying.

Believe women when they tell you things about men.

Get out, you've been with him a few months, he has yet to show you who he is. It's not worth the risk.

Adding my voice to those recommending a Claire's Law disclosure request.

Agree seems the only people that do it are the one’s lying. Never sworn on the life of anyone ever.

Run.

To be honest if he did hit her, I don't see why he'd raise the subject at all. Like why put that seed of doubt in your mind if he knows that's really what he's like. He'd just say they had a bad relationship. Or maybe even allege DV from her side.

Though I guess he might think it will come out and he needs to cover his arse before you hear it from others?

I'd say give him the benefit of the doubt. But be on alert for anything remotely dodgy.

It does happen that people try and smear their ex's name and saying that is obviously going to be ruinous so it's not unheard of to exaggerate or lie about it. Though it's more often sadly the truth.

What, somewhere between he hit her and didn't hit her? What on earth does that mean?

This is the fallacy of moderation. The truth is not always between two sides. If Alex says the daytime sky is blue and John says the daytime sky is red, it does not follow that the daytime sky is purple. Alex is right, John is wrong.

Do a Claire’s law application

but just for balance an ex of mine was in a relationship previously with someone who made a number of extremely serious allegations against him, there was slightly more context than I can provide here, however in summary I believed him and he never showed any aggression or violence towards me throughout our 6 year relationship (turns out he was a knob and things ended anyway, but definitely not a violent knob)

This

I just wouldn't want to get involved in the future drama, true or not, if it's true then you clearly know it's time to leave, if it's not true then his ex is going to be full of drama forever especially if she doesn't get what she wants.

For him and perhaps because of his own actions, it's a lose-lose situation for him and any future relationship, can you really be bothered @Emotionstorn ?

I would end it.

Men lie about this type of thing.
Women also lie about this type of thing (although probably not as much).

Imagine the truth is somewhere in between.

I would leave as it’s about 6 months - why take the chance the ex is right?

The only people I know who have sworn on someone's life are liars.

I wouldn’t risk this especially if you have children.
Statistically you are more at risk given your previous abusive experiences.
Why would this woman claim he hit her? If he starts saying she’s crazy, then you need to run.
Is he worth the uncertainty?

Also, even if he does turn out to be wonderful and completely innocent, do you actually want to be around a situation that got that ugly? With children involved there's never a clean break.

I think you should be very very cautious on multiple fronts.

You know yourself that you wouldn't see any red flags this early on op.

I would absolutely walk away based on him swearing on his kids life, and based on the fact his main concern was to convince you he didn't do it. It's also well known that abusers often tell their next victim a tiny amount of information in order to make their lie convincing if/when the truth comes out "oh remember I told you she would say that".

The risk of walking away and him being innocent is a couple of months of getting over a relationship, the risk of staying and him being guilty is much, much worse.

Agree wholeheartedly.
I switch off whenever I hear it.

Do a Claire's law.

Also consider why he told you that she'd accused him of DV. What does he have to gain from getting his side of the story in first?

Don't rely solely on swearing on the life of his children, or that there's no red flags so far - the very worst abusers are often the most charming at first.

From what I’ve read - victims of DV are likely to fall into the hands of another - so I would take this hearsay as a red flag.

Also - when someone starts swearing on lives - it just says liar.

Would you ever claim someone had hit you, just to make them look bad? The father of your child? I know I wouldn’t.

It isn't actually something I can imagine a decent person doing even if they're telling the truth.

It's not about fearing some higher power will kill anyone if they're lying. It's just a really awful and horrible thing to do.

Swearing on the life of a child is meaningless. They won't die if the person is lying!