Do I end this based on hearsay.

She was and I am allowed to take it that way, or is your opinion that counts? You were quick to think I was a man too. Heyho.

So we will have to beg to differ, she also picked up on my thread and didn't take it as a response to someone else.

However, I think it is unkind to detail the OP's thread with our petty squabbling when she could do with some help and guidance. For that reason alone, I will bow out of writing again.

Also; its not hearsay. Its important. Is he implying that if you were to break up with him over this it is because you accepted rumor over fact? Its not. His statement isn’t true, just his assertion. She hasn’t made any statements to you or with reference to you at all and you don’t have any way of knowing that his accusation is true. That is you have no evidence that she ever accused him of anything.

She wasn’t aggressive.

Common sense says. If I get a sense this guy is problematic, end it.

common sense says don’t stay with someone with this amount of drama early doors it will only get worse.

common sense says anyone with this sort of high conflict between them and their ex is going to be a nightmare.

common sense to me says there’s a chance this man might batter me I’m not hanging around to find out.

the legal burden of proof is irrelevant.

Honestly, the moment he said 'I swear on my child's life', he was telling you that he did it.

I've never known anybody, let alone men trying to get their feet under the table with a free childminder, say that and not be lying.

Good point and I am all for it

Urm.

The way I was spoken to was aggressive. I am allowed to say that when met with aggression.

Nothing about shutting up a woman, nothing about me (not) being a man.

I guess common sense is not common after all.

You don’t have to be a man to display misogynistic opinions and behaviours. Many women have ingrained misogyny, unfortunately.

What on earth point do these guys on here think they’re making?

They may be making a different point from what they think.

I did no such thing. I don't know who you're mixing me up with, but I never pressured (remember your words here for continuity) the op to date anyone.

I am not a man. But thankyou 'sir'.

Next it’ll be “why are you being hysterical?”, followed by “Must be on her period”.

Interesting also, that suddenly both of them are back…..it’s like they’re on mind…..oh…..wait.

No one has red flags at first. You’ve only been seeing him 6 months. There’s already a child and a messy breakup with the mother in the picture. And he might be violent. I would walk now if I were you.

The law says innocent until proven guilty.

common sense does not.

As the post trail will show, you denied that a person telling the OP about all these women who lied was suggesting that she should date this potentially violent man. Continuity, sir.

If being contradicted on the internet by a woman reads as aggressive to you, you might want to think about that for a bit.

Am I man?!!!

Are you joking 😂It is worth reading to comprehend and not just reading to respond. Quote my words and point out where I accused any woman or poster here please of what you are claiming - I will kindly wait.

A - "you've accused women of "finding someone guilty" "
I simply pointed out that common sense says "innocent until proven guilty or make an informed decision" and not "believe someone just because of their gender, your own bias, ignorance, some sort of man/woman code, shared interest, relationship to the party etc". False accusations are a thing and yes, anyone is entitled to decide if they stay or leave, even without waiting for facts to be proven, it is very much a self choice(I bet you will my words again)

B - You stated "assuming the stories are even true🤔" You see? You seem to feel entitled to doubt my own factual story just yet claims that a woman should not be doubted anytime a claim is made (you see the double standard in your judgement and twisting of my words?; I bet you do not just because it challenges your narrative) . FYI, in my case, it was proved by law enforcement to be false and by actual evidence in the court of law. You proved my exact point in point "A"

I am a woman but I bet you will challenge that too

You did so. It’s absolutely a standard tactic to shut a woman up to call her aggressive.

The word is no mate.

This is a textbook, misogynistic attempt at shutting a woman down. She wasn’t aggressive in the slightest.

Who pressured a woman? Wasn't me.

So countering you on the internet is aggression, but pressuring a woman to keep seeing a potentially violent man to prove she's a good person is...

There’s a chance that he told you because he knows someone else might say something if all his friends/family have already been told so he’s just trying to get in early so if someone mentions it he can say oh I told you about my crazy ex making up stories.

Even if it’s not true do you really want to bring the potential chaos of dating a man with a child from a tumultuous relationship. He still has to co parent and it could mean further potential allegations.

Do you have kids OP?

Honestly, I think that this is a no brainer and would be ending this now before you get any further involved.

Why risk it?

“No red flags” at all, is sometimes a big red flag in itself.
As is a stormy break-up. There is no smoke without fire.

And I don’t trust people who swear on their child lives - they are over compensating.