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To thnk that airlines should not allow lap babies on flights?

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Frannyhy · 29/01/2026 12:19

I’ve not flown for a few years, so I don’t know if lap kids are allowed by all airlines. I’m in South America at the moment, on a big trip.

My flight between cities was delayed yesterday due to bad weather. There were a lot of hot, tired people by the time we got on.

I was in the aisle seat and a woman with a baby arrived and indicated she was in the same row. I got up for her and she said something I didn’t understand and waited. Finally, she reluctantly sat in the middle seat with the baby on her lap. Her partner appeared from the other end of the plane and gave her some baby stuff.

She started complaining to the cabin crew, pointing at my seat. By now I understood she wanted to be in the aisle. I said no, and one of the cabin crew said to me in English, “Don’t worry we haven’t got time for this, we’re already an hour late. It’s only a 90 minutes flight so she can manage.”

I’m left wondering why lap babies are allowed on flights. He wasn’t restrained so if anything had happened, it would have meant he probably would have been seriously injured or worse.

I was on a cheap flight so I don’t care that I had to sit next to a wriggling baby. I just ignored him and read my book.

But I do think allowing babies on laps should be stopped. It’s fucking dangerous.

OP posts:
Ponderingwindow · 29/01/2026 17:56

If you are getting on a plane, sometimes you have to buy a small carseat that is easier to travel with. I don’t understand why people are acting like this is new or difficult.

strap baby in during takeoff, landing, and turbulence. Take them out as needed during calm periods of the flight.

LittleWeasel · 29/01/2026 17:55

I flew in Central America as a child in the 70s.

One of the passengers was holding a live chicken as he boarded the flight, which he held in his lap the entire flight (no extending restraint/lap-belt for the chicken lol!)

There also appeared to be more passengers than seats, as there were people standing up for take-off and landing.

FancyPantsDressup · 29/01/2026 17:55

Maybe they should store them in the overhead locker?

TheNightingalesStarling · 29/01/2026 17:50

Cyclingmummy1 · 29/01/2026 17:41

We put 10 month DS in a car seat 18 years ago. Do people not do that anymore?

Car seats have got bigger and are attached in more advanced ways now, instead if seatbelts.

So ironically... not as easy to attach to a plane seat with a lap belt. We deliberately chose a Britax seat 14 years ago as it could ve used on a plane, but wasn't isofix for example.

notimagain · 29/01/2026 17:43

Evaka · 29/01/2026 17:34

Babe, if the plane crashes it doesn't matter a fuck where or on what you, the baby or the pilot is sitting.

Rowlocks....and I say that as someone who has worked with a few air crash survivors, including someone who was one of the cabin crew at Kegworth and ended up suspended upside down by his seatbelt in the wreckage.

But if you are planning on being fatalistic please book a window seat away from an exit.

Cyclingmummy1 · 29/01/2026 17:41

We put 10 month DS in a car seat 18 years ago. Do people not do that anymore?

notimagain · 29/01/2026 17:38

@FairKoala

This idea that child seats must end up flying around on turbulence is nonsense and I'm not sure why it keeps being claimed.

What happens is dead straightforward:

Get on aircraft with an approved seat (and infant).

Thread aircraft seat belt through structure of car seat (if seat hasn't got suitable structure then chances are it's not an approved design and you'll get a ..from the cabin crew..and handed an infant lap belt)

Buckle up the aircraft bely and really tighten it - cabin crew often assist and also remember (?) unlike a car seat there's no inertia reel to slacken things off...it should stay tight the whole flight.

Insert infant, buckle them in, buckle yourself in and go flying.

When working I must have flown hundreds of thousands of miles on flights with some kids onboard in car seats, through turbulence at times, and I never once saw or heard of a car seat or infant coming adrift, lose, or ending up on their heads.

People are imagining a problem that doesn't really exist.

Usernamenotav · 29/01/2026 17:37

Octavia64 · 29/01/2026 12:53

I’ve never heard of car seats being used for airline travel before.

guess you learn a new thing every day.

Most people don't bother, because that means paying for another seat when they can just be on your lap for free

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 29/01/2026 17:37

PullingOutHair123 · 29/01/2026 12:48

We put ours in a cat carrier, and then in the hold. Much easier, and they stay where you put them. Otherwise they crawl all over other people luggage, get in their suitcases and you can't find them at the other end.

As they get older will use larger dog crates.

If only......

FrostyPalms · 29/01/2026 17:37

Dinoswearunderpants · 29/01/2026 15:14

Yes I absolutely would. It's really not going to be inconvenient for me to sit in a middle sit for 90 minutes instead of sat next to a baby.

In the OP's situation she still would have been sitting next to the baby! Just in the middle seat with the baby in the aisle seat instead of vice versa.

StripyHorse · 29/01/2026 17:35

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/01/2026 12:26

Car seat and a booked seat for the baby. At a reduced cost ideally.

Why at a reduced cost? It takes the same space.

Usernamenotav · 29/01/2026 17:35

Frannyhy · 29/01/2026 12:38

Okay so I’ve learned something, I didn’t know that some airlines require babies to be restrained. However this didn’t happen yesterday.

I could have swooped with the Dad? To a middle seat? No way.

Just restrained for take off and landing, not the whole flight.

Evaka · 29/01/2026 17:34

Babe, if the plane crashes it doesn't matter a fuck where or on what you, the baby or the pilot is sitting.

Usernamenotav · 29/01/2026 17:33

You think a baby sat in a plane seat is safer thah on their parents lap?
If you think anyone is surviving a plane crash because of that little seat belt, you're nuts.

Swissmeringue · 29/01/2026 17:30

Nesbi · 29/01/2026 12:44

Unless we were only travelling with hand luggage we normally put ours in the hold.

Send them freight, it's cheaper and you get a nice first week on holiday without them there

Bitzee · 29/01/2026 17:22

ChimpOnMyShoulder · 29/01/2026 16:30

The issue with car seats on flights is it’s not just about the safety of the baby. Plane belts are not designed to hold car seats. So in the event of severe turbulence etc you have a massive heavy unsecured object in the cabin that could hurt someone. For all the people saying car seats are safest, if anyone could show CAA guidance on car seats on planes I would be interested.

It’s more of an American thing. Many car seats there are airline approved and tested. I used to have an FAA approved toddler car seat with a specific airline belt routing path and instructions. It’s also common for infant carriers to be fitted only using the lap part of the belt as opposed to the ‘European belt routing’ so they can easily be fitted on a plane too. Whereas there are currently no CAA approved toddler seats on sale in the UK so it just isn’t a thing here.

Interestingly on the point about the safety of lap infants it’s widely accepted that it’s dangerous. The FAA had banning them on a wanted list of safety improvements for decades but never went ahead with the changes because they reasoned that if forced to pay for the extra seat many families would opt to drive instead and because air travel is so much safer than car travel it would likely cause more kids to be hurt in car accidents. I know that’s US specific but still interesting nevertheless.

FairKoala · 29/01/2026 17:22

Ponderingwindow · 29/01/2026 16:59

It isn’t safe. It’s that it is safer than road transportation so babies lives are put at risk because people can’t be trusted to make smart decisions.

I still think it should be banned. It is an imposition on adjacent passengers. Babies can also become projectiles. Most regions don’t use any sort of tether and even if they do it doesn’t protect the baby during turbulence, it just makes sure the baby stays in the crush zone of the parents body.

people should be buying a seat and using a car seat on the plane. If that is too expensive, they can’t afford the travel.

How do you fit a car seat on a plane seat. How can you get the car seat on the place given you can only take a bag that fits a certain size

Also aren’t car seats going to be incredibly dangerous if because they aren’t designed for airplane seat belts they become loose and end up with turbulence lifting off the seat with baby in them and ending up who knows what position.

could you imagine the queue to take your seat if there are mums and dads trying to attach a car seat to a plane seat.

Even in cars you can travel with a child on your knee. Without the seat belt going around them

YourJustOrca · 29/01/2026 17:20

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 29/01/2026 17:17

This.

You could have read your book in any seat and an aisle seat would be easier for a parent with a baby

Why didn’t they book one then?

TheNightingalesStarling · 29/01/2026 17:19

I remember the first flight we took withDD (now 12). She was tiny, so appeared to be a small toddler, although was 2.5 (they visually thought she was about 16 months until they checked her passport)The pilot was asked to make the decision about whether she was safer on a lap for take off/landing or in her own seat. It clarified... its based only on age, not actual size so yes the tiny toddler had to sit alone, but the massive 21 mo in the row behind had to sit on his parents lap. She was gone a baby life jacket however.

I'm surprised that airlines haven't designed a proper baby seat yet, similar to a car seat.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 29/01/2026 17:17

SummerInSun · 29/01/2026 12:30

How do you expect people to travel if they have babies?!? To visit family for example? As PP said, all European airlines provide a special seat belt loop to keep the baby safe on take off and landing. On long haul flights bulkhead seats have baby bassinets that can be used until about 8 or 9 months, but you are required to have the baby on your lap for take off and landing and if there is any turbulence anyway.

Airlines don’t require you to buy a seat for a child until age 2, but after age 1 we always bought a seat anyway so that our child had space to sit, but that’s only viable once the baby can comfortably sit alone unaided for a full flight.

The nice thing to do in your situation would have been to offer to swap seats with the dad. Then the parents would have been together, with an aisle seat, and you would have been sat far away from the baby. Of course you’d don’t have to do that - “why should I give up the seat I want that I paid for etc?” To which my answer would be you don’t have to, but sometimes it’s nice to just do a nice thing for other people, and generally cosmic karma rewards you.

This.

You could have read your book in any seat and an aisle seat would be easier for a parent with a baby

AgnesMcDoo · 29/01/2026 17:14

Toastythesnowman · 29/01/2026 12:22

You're right. People should leave their babies at home when they go on holiday.

Or pack them in their suitcases

FairKoala · 29/01/2026 17:10

Where are they meant to go if not on
lap

AliciaSoo · 29/01/2026 17:07

Parents with infants should seat in the window seat... If there's an emergency, you don't want them between you and your exit.

Changename12 · 29/01/2026 16:59

Dliplop · 29/01/2026 16:43

Infants on lap are safe, and different airplanes have slightly different safety set ups, but in Canada I haven’t seen or heard of infant belts or even been able to purchase a seat for an under two. I have friends in the states who prefer to fly with a car seat.

My husband used to have his own plane and did a LOT of research. He did install a car seat for when the kids were babies, but had me hold them for take off and landing and heavy turbulence because the seats are not as safe in a plane. I will garble this but direction of forces and impacts are all different as well as the fact you can’t install it properly. There is a red belt you can get to turn an airplane seatbelt into a 5 point harness that is excellent, but many commercial flights won’t let you use them for take off and landing.

And very much agree it’s annoying to sit next to small kids and all their paraphernalia and watching tablets without headphones. We apologize in advance and do our best. Most people prefer 8 hours of paw patrol and toy cars rolling around to 8h screaming and kicking, but not all. Overall our kids have generally been good on planes but that is truly just luck

You can get headphones for small children.

Ponderingwindow · 29/01/2026 16:59

It isn’t safe. It’s that it is safer than road transportation so babies lives are put at risk because people can’t be trusted to make smart decisions.

I still think it should be banned. It is an imposition on adjacent passengers. Babies can also become projectiles. Most regions don’t use any sort of tether and even if they do it doesn’t protect the baby during turbulence, it just makes sure the baby stays in the crush zone of the parents body.

people should be buying a seat and using a car seat on the plane. If that is too expensive, they can’t afford the travel.