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Are you a pack rat and proud?

165 replies

packratandproud · 29/01/2026 10:30

I've just opened my backpack at work to get my notebook out and my colleague has just said " oh have you been staying away from home?"
It was just the usual stuff I carry around every day! I have really tried to be a small crossbody bag person but I just feel miserable never having what I want. I spend long days in cities- often leaving home at 6am and not getting home until 10pm and nothing gives me more joy than being in a coffee shop between events, and having my book, my notebook, my wrap if im a bit cold, my toothbrush, my makeup etc etc
Are you an 'everything but the kitchen sink' carrier? If yes do you love it?
I like it, but my bag is very heavy 😀

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NewMe2024 · 30/01/2026 09:36

I was in your side until you said toothbrush. That’s an overnight bag imo.

bengalcat · 30/01/2026 09:34

Card , keys , phone and lipstick is all I need

blackpooolrock · 30/01/2026 09:30

SleepingStandingUp · 29/01/2026 13:37

Constantly buying tea/ coffee from coffee shops is expensive. Maybe they're a supper so one flask in 4 drinks. That's like £20 every day. Same for snacks. Not everyone has unlimited cash to spend on stuff you can get from home cheaper.

Not everyone drives, I'd guess most "pack rats" don't. So charging phones etc can be hit and miss. Not all phones will last 13 hours without a charge if you're using it for work etc. Extra layers are less needed if you're not standing on a train platform or waiting around for buses

So basically, it's great you've got a car and cash to spare but it can't be that hard to imagine not everyone does

So i don't drink a huge amount during the day, 4 cups would be really pushing it for me, i tend to only drink at meal times. As for snacks - i buy them for the house so no matter if i buy for the house to take out or buy when i'm out i'm spending the money anyway? So it isn't really costing me any more money.

blackpooolrock · 30/01/2026 09:20

RaininSummer · 29/01/2026 23:04

Do the people who only take keys, phone and bank card never need things like tissues, hairbrushes, lip balm etc throughout the day?

No, i just run my fingers through my hair if i think it needs it, If i need tissues i go to the toilet, i don't actually buy tissues. lip balm fits in my pocket if i need it.

99pwithaflake · 30/01/2026 09:07

landlordhell · 30/01/2026 08:38

But if you had to go to a meeting after you would brush your hair , no?

No. Brushing my hair makes it look 10x worse. I would just tie it up off my face If needed.

tinytinyviolin · 30/01/2026 08:47

landlordhell · 30/01/2026 08:38

But if you had to go to a meeting after you would brush your hair , no?

If you have frizzy or curly hair then brushing it doesn’t make it look better! I don’t ever brush my hair when it’s dry unless I’m tying it back.

landlordhell · 30/01/2026 08:38

99pwithaflake · 30/01/2026 07:48

Because I’m a dog walker so carrying a hairbrush around to sort my hair out would be a total waste of a pocket 😉

I also have the kind of hair that goes frizzy and ridiculous as soon as it’s brushed so I never touch it once it’s dry except to tie it up.

But if you had to go to a meeting after you would brush your hair , no?

99pwithaflake · 30/01/2026 07:48

landlordhell · 30/01/2026 07:40

Or yours! Hairbrushes can be tiny or foldable and if it makes you feel more together , professional and confident, why wouldn’t you?

Because I’m a dog walker so carrying a hairbrush around to sort my hair out would be a total waste of a pocket 😉

I also have the kind of hair that goes frizzy and ridiculous as soon as it’s brushed so I never touch it once it’s dry except to tie it up.

Sartre · 30/01/2026 07:44

I only carry a bag if absolutely necessary so I need one for work because I need to carry my laptop and books but when I go out otherwise, I try my best just to use my pockets. I tend to only carry my phone because it has everything I need on it.

landlordhell · 30/01/2026 07:40

99pwithaflake · 30/01/2026 07:17

My job doesn’t involve writing 2000+ word reports. Not everyone’s work is the same as yours!

Or yours! Hairbrushes can be tiny or foldable and if it makes you feel more together , professional and confident, why wouldn’t you?

99pwithaflake · 30/01/2026 07:17

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/01/2026 20:47

I couldn't write 2000+ word reports on a phone screen. Good on you if you can.

My job doesn’t involve writing 2000+ word reports. Not everyone’s work is the same as yours!

99pwithaflake · 30/01/2026 07:16

RaininSummer · 29/01/2026 23:04

Do the people who only take keys, phone and bank card never need things like tissues, hairbrushes, lip balm etc throughout the day?

Not really, I might take some tissues or lip balm with me if I’ve got a cold or it’s really windy. I’ve never once carried a hairbrush around with me though!

MindYourUsage · 30/01/2026 07:16

Shinyandnew1 · 29/01/2026 23:19

I don't only have keys and purse, there's a lip balm and a tissue in there. I have never needed to brush my hair part way through my working day though!

I used to think this, too. But then I was looking at my colleagues and could not work out why compared to them I always just looked a bit.... scruffy.

It was the hair. They clearly ran a brush thriugh their hair after their windy/rainy/sweaty commute. At the very least my fringe!

landlordhell · 30/01/2026 06:58

Shinyandnew1 · 29/01/2026 23:19

I don't only have keys and purse, there's a lip balm and a tissue in there. I have never needed to brush my hair part way through my working day though!

Sometimes after playground duty, I look like a scarecrow!

Shinyandnew1 · 29/01/2026 23:19

RaininSummer · 29/01/2026 23:04

Do the people who only take keys, phone and bank card never need things like tissues, hairbrushes, lip balm etc throughout the day?

I don't only have keys and purse, there's a lip balm and a tissue in there. I have never needed to brush my hair part way through my working day though!

RaininSummer · 29/01/2026 23:04

Do the people who only take keys, phone and bank card never need things like tissues, hairbrushes, lip balm etc throughout the day?

MindYourUsage · 29/01/2026 21:05

I have a backpack when I commute (2hrs one way). It's a big one that has:

  • laptop for work
  • my own mac (I do some work for a charity i support on the train and i need my mac)
  • music manuscript (I also get a lot of score study done during my four hours of travel)
  • book in case I dont want to do the two things above
  • tea, a big travel cup of it
  • my breakfast
  • my lunch
  • my dinner for the train home (I am busy as soon as I get home)
  • depending in the weather a cardigan, jumper or whatever
  • noise cancelling headphones because other people+trains and also to listen to aforementioned scored ... big ones that go over my ears.
  • hairbrush, just a little one.
  • my planner and pen
  • door pass, car keys, paracetamol, tampons and pads (i never know these days...), anti bac, tissues, eye drops (I wear contacts), bank cards, lip balm, breath mints, plasters, umbrella, sunglasses....

this leave room for anything I pick up while I am out - nice loaf from Gail's or something....

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/01/2026 20:47

99pwithaflake · 29/01/2026 19:54

I can work, read or listen to an audiobook on my phone. I don't need to carry loads of different things around with me to do that.

I couldn't write 2000+ word reports on a phone screen. Good on you if you can.

Shinyandnew1 · 29/01/2026 20:07

I carry all the things I need in a cross body bag:

Phone, keys, small bag with make up/basic first aid stuff, maybe a small notebook.

If I want to read, I do it on my kindle app. If it might be chilly, I'm probably already wearing a small scarf and would tie it around my bag if necessary. Gloves in my coat pocket. I'd shove my glasses, a small water bottle and an umbrella in my bag if I thought I'd need them.

I would take a rucksack/big bag if going somewhere overnight but I would never need that much stuff if just out for a day.

packratandproud · 29/01/2026 20:00

I hate my phone for entertainment so I like to have a book, a notebook etc

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99pwithaflake · 29/01/2026 19:54

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/01/2026 19:53

Ahhhh, I need to have my mind stimulated or I'd be bored. Can't do staring. Have to be prepped for travel. On a train, I'd work, on a bus I'd read a book or listen to an audio book.

I can work, read or listen to an audiobook on my phone. I don't need to carry loads of different things around with me to do that.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/01/2026 19:53

99pwithaflake · 29/01/2026 19:46

Why would I need to stare at a phone?

There are other options! Listening to music, daydreaming, staring out of a window etc.

Ahhhh, I need to have my mind stimulated or I'd be bored. Can't do staring. Have to be prepped for travel. On a train, I'd work, on a bus I'd read a book or listen to an audio book.

99pwithaflake · 29/01/2026 19:51

packratandproud · 29/01/2026 19:49

But what about any in-between bits like getting to a cafe early to meet a friend or waiting for bus /tube/train

I'd look out of the window, listen to music, read a free magazine/newspaper, check my e-mails, do some business admin etc. I don't need anything more than my phone to do any of those things.

packratandproud · 29/01/2026 19:49

99pwithaflake · 29/01/2026 19:46

Because if I'm out of the house all day I have stuff planned for the majority of that time - so I don't need tons of stuff to keep me amused etc.

I need my phone, card and keys and maybe some painkillers. Otherwise, eh, it's just a waste.

But what about any in-between bits like getting to a cafe early to meet a friend or waiting for bus /tube/train

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99pwithaflake · 29/01/2026 19:46

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/01/2026 19:40

That's you. I'd need my laptop, a book, chargers, make up, hoody, pills, water bottle, snacks (to save costs), phone. Minimum.

There's no way I could spend all the downtime in that day looking at a phone screen.

Why would I need to stare at a phone?

There are other options! Listening to music, daydreaming, staring out of a window etc.