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Are you a pack rat and proud?

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packratandproud · 29/01/2026 10:30

I've just opened my backpack at work to get my notebook out and my colleague has just said " oh have you been staying away from home?"
It was just the usual stuff I carry around every day! I have really tried to be a small crossbody bag person but I just feel miserable never having what I want. I spend long days in cities- often leaving home at 6am and not getting home until 10pm and nothing gives me more joy than being in a coffee shop between events, and having my book, my notebook, my wrap if im a bit cold, my toothbrush, my makeup etc etc
Are you an 'everything but the kitchen sink' carrier? If yes do you love it?
I like it, but my bag is very heavy 😀

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Muffsies · 24/04/2026 17:08

I used to be a huge bag with everything in it person. Tools, magnets, face wipes, first aid, tweezers, nail clippers, string.. endless stuff all in a backpack style handbag.

I literally just use a bumbag/money belt now with my phone and chapstick. I don't know what happened, perhaps it's another sign of the peri-menopause! (added that to annoy some posters - you know who you are). I just can't be arsed anymore, i suddenly hate being weighed down, and i don't feel the need to be prepared for everything any more. i like to have my hands and shoulders free!

Sparkleandfizz · 24/04/2026 16:54

packratandproud · 29/01/2026 10:30

I've just opened my backpack at work to get my notebook out and my colleague has just said " oh have you been staying away from home?"
It was just the usual stuff I carry around every day! I have really tried to be a small crossbody bag person but I just feel miserable never having what I want. I spend long days in cities- often leaving home at 6am and not getting home until 10pm and nothing gives me more joy than being in a coffee shop between events, and having my book, my notebook, my wrap if im a bit cold, my toothbrush, my makeup etc etc
Are you an 'everything but the kitchen sink' carrier? If yes do you love it?
I like it, but my bag is very heavy 😀

Just came across this thread. This is totally me, people often comment on the amount of stuff I carry around, but then I am always the one that has the plaster, wet wipe etc that someone else needs!

soupyspoon · 02/02/2026 19:46

Yes Ive always carried a lot of stuff round with me and have been through a myriad of work bags and work rucksacks

I carry things like laptop, medicines, water, headphones for work, charger for work, torch for walking home, shopping bags, odds and ends, work phone, own phone, purse, keys, badges etc etc

In my handbags, which I dont take to work, I have slightly less but I like to have everything with me that I might need.

packratandproud · 02/02/2026 17:49

IwanttoWFH · 02/02/2026 17:12

Never heard the term “pack rat” before. I like to use the term “backpack babe” ha ha!

I got a backpack from Amazon last year, which has been life changing. It has a compartment inside specially for your lunch bag, a side compartment for my brolly and one for my giant water bottle. Also, lots of pockets inside for my travel and work pass, headphones etc.
I carry the kitchen sink around with me (I’m not a minimalist commuter, unfortunately). I have to carry my laptop, make up touch up bag, glasses, keys, headphones, charger, tissues, diary etc etc with me to the office. We hot desk, so I can’t really leave anything at work.

Ooh I like the idea of backpack babe. Can you link your lovely bag?

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Popthebubble · 02/02/2026 17:47

Do you have kids @packratandproud ?

IwanttoWFH · 02/02/2026 17:12

Never heard the term “pack rat” before. I like to use the term “backpack babe” ha ha!

I got a backpack from Amazon last year, which has been life changing. It has a compartment inside specially for your lunch bag, a side compartment for my brolly and one for my giant water bottle. Also, lots of pockets inside for my travel and work pass, headphones etc.
I carry the kitchen sink around with me (I’m not a minimalist commuter, unfortunately). I have to carry my laptop, make up touch up bag, glasses, keys, headphones, charger, tissues, diary etc etc with me to the office. We hot desk, so I can’t really leave anything at work.

packratandproud · 02/02/2026 16:07

When I'm out and about?

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I was quoting another person. I was referring to being home alone wfh all the time
I need to be out and about. I technically wfh but I remote work in shared spaces/coffee shops etc

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hattie43 · 01/02/2026 08:55

Depends on what I’m doing . Crossbody for day to day and backpack for days out . Larger backpack if I’m days out with the dogs as I have portable bowls , extra water and snacks .

Glindaa · 01/02/2026 08:49

packratandproud · 30/01/2026 10:06

Yeah if I'm going out from work I'll brush my teeth, refresh make up, perfume spritz etc

You must have a strong neck & back OP. My upper back & neck are suffering.
I have to lug around a back back - laptop, charger, A5 notebook, small planner, umbrella, shoes ( I walk to tube in my trainers), makeup, perfume, small water bottle. Sometimes lunch .
id like to carry a book for the tube and a gym kit but cant carry anymore.

99pwithaflake · 01/02/2026 08:28

landlordhell · 01/02/2026 08:22

Yes I know but I was making that point that IF she had a meeting like many of us do, she would need different things. It’s seems that some can’t imagine different lifestyles and struggle to understand that a lip balm in your pocket won’t cut it.

But it also appears that you can’t imagine why anyone wouldn’t need a hairbrush or wouldn’t need to carry tons of stuff about with him.

landlordhell · 01/02/2026 08:22

BauhausOfEliott · 30/01/2026 13:06

When the PP said she was a dog-walker, I think she meant that she's a professional dog-walker, not that she walks her dog before an office job.

Yes I know but I was making that point that IF she had a meeting like many of us do, she would need different things. It’s seems that some can’t imagine different lifestyles and struggle to understand that a lip balm in your pocket won’t cut it.

99pwithaflake · 31/01/2026 08:48

RaininSummer · 31/01/2026 08:42

I would love to have the sort of hair you can tidy up by running your fingers through. Mine is fine and straight so I definitely need to have access to a hair brush if I don't want to look like a very windswept scarecrow.

My hair is never tidy - if I brush it, it turns into an uncontrollable, frizzy mess. If it’s combed, the comb inevitably gets stuck in it. The only method is to tie it up off my face and hope for the best!

RaininSummer · 31/01/2026 08:42

I would love to have the sort of hair you can tidy up by running your fingers through. Mine is fine and straight so I definitely need to have access to a hair brush if I don't want to look like a very windswept scarecrow.

gototogo · 31/01/2026 08:19

@RaininSummer those of us cursed with unruly curly hair don’t really use brushes, the only advantage. For the pub I put a tissue and lip balm in my pocket

gototogo · 31/01/2026 08:16

I have a bag but usually quite empty however I drive to work and my car has the kitchen sink in it. If I’m on public transport I carry my power pack, headphones, water bottle, umbrella etc

LostAndConfused1990 · 31/01/2026 08:13

Nabannas · 29/01/2026 11:00

I’d love to be like you op. Whenever I carry a bag it ends up full of literal rubbish - receipts, half drunk water bottles, and spilled foundation. I can’t find anything useful, or my keys. My notebook ends up dog eared. I stress about security guards demanding to search my bag because I would have to die of shame.

These days I wear jeans so I always have good pockets for my phone, cards and keys.

You’ve just reminded me I’ve got a used urine bottle in my rucksack from my last midwife appointment 😳 (they like you to reuse them now). She wrapped it in paper towel, didn’t check if she’d emptied it 🫣

cantankerousoldcrone · 30/01/2026 23:30

No, I like a light bag. Wallet, keys, phone. Maybe kindle. Perhaps a very light mini umbrella in a wet summer day. In winter I use a hat so need for brolly.

99pwithaflake · 30/01/2026 13:09

BauhausOfEliott · 30/01/2026 13:06

When the PP said she was a dog-walker, I think she meant that she's a professional dog-walker, not that she walks her dog before an office job.

That’s correct 🥰

BauhausOfEliott · 30/01/2026 13:06

landlordhell · 30/01/2026 08:38

But if you had to go to a meeting after you would brush your hair , no?

When the PP said she was a dog-walker, I think she meant that she's a professional dog-walker, not that she walks her dog before an office job.

packratandproud · 30/01/2026 10:06

Yeah if I'm going out from work I'll brush my teeth, refresh make up, perfume spritz etc

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NewMe2024 · 30/01/2026 09:36

I was in your side until you said toothbrush. That’s an overnight bag imo.

Not if you’re going out straight from work. I know my DDs sometimes do this and take a little travel toothbrush to freshen up.