Neighbour just rung doorbell at 2.30am!

Now that I can understand. You inconvenienced her so she inconvenienced you.

If she’d let her get the cat she wouldn’t have still been looking for it at 5am. Karma really

I 100% agree.

OP- You are being extremely selfish wanting to sleep at night.

From now on you should be up at that window on cat watch. All night long. The moment you see any feline activity near your garden you should be sounding a neighbourhood alert (bonus if you can set off a flood light too) so that people are aware of a cat travelling from one back garden to another.

It's utterly appalling and grim that your neighbours aren't being made aware of this happening- I seriously dont know what this world is coming to. What kind of horrific apocalypse are we hurtling towards if we aren't made aware of where our local cats travel at night.

I shudder to think of it.

This.
You are right to be annoyed. Your neighbour is one of those stupid, selfish, entitled people who puts animals before humans. Completely batshit behaviour. And your husband risked rewarding, and therefore getting a repetition of, the behaviour you absolutely do not want by trying to do what was completely unreasonable for her to have asked.
I would be going round today and telling her in no uncertain terms never, ever to disturb me again at night.

"’Be Kind’ people who get sucked into normalizing and enabling anxious, trauma induced or unhelpful thoughts and behaviours actually cause harm. They continue the cycle of destructive behaviour for those who have them.

You need people who point out how you behaving and how it’s not ok."

Absolutely agree with this.

Individuals dealing with anxiety need to take on the responsibility for getting better themselves.

In the same way that diabetics need to manage their own diabetes, anxious people need to manage their anxiety.

I'm not seeing 'be kind' to Type 2 diabetics who are constantly neglecting their health through overeating on mumsnet.

Ohh these cat women are batshit at the best of times. My mums neighbour, knocked on our door asking if the cat is in our garden, she was told no and that we haven’t seen the cat, she wanted to come into our house and go in the garden and check her self, she also wanted to check our house incase the cat got in and was hiding, this is a neighbour that lives behind us, my brother rightly told her you won’t be checking our home or the garden for that matter. The audacity of these ppl.

OP has already said that she sees it out often so definitely not a house cat.

It isn't friendly to wake someone up in the middle of the night unless it's an actual emergency.

Is this her first time owning a cat? It doesn't "understand" gardens? Maybe suggest to her she keeps it inside if its going to make her that anxious. I wonder if she's trying to teach it to stay in its own garden 🤔 😂

Insane behaviour. Her cat was probably trying to make a break for it. Poor thing. She sounds mental . Cats are very able to have a good walk and visit all sorts of places . Its natural. I would have also be furious if she knocked before 7 am .

At 2.30am?

Maybe it’s a house cat that escaped ? I think you started an issue where there isn’t one . If it happened several times yes I would be upset but once ? It’s your neighbor keep it friendly

How would you have done that when the cat wasn't in the garden! 🤔

I’m assuming it’s usually an indoor cat that got out, and she was very worried.
Yes, it’s annoying to be woken in the night but hopefully/surely this was a one off, I absolutely would’ve helped her.

I would suggest she is on something...

Not an indoor cat. Just a selfish neighbour.

If you let her get away with it once she will do it again. And keep doing it.

Fuck that at half 2 in the morning.

She's bonkers. Does she not understand how cats operate?

Waking you twice is unforgivable. I'd be keeping a baseball bat next to the front door ready for her next visit.

If it’s an indoor cat that has escaped, I understand why she was so upset and I would definitely have allowed her to collect her cat.

If my indie cat escaped (yes, I have one), I would ring a neighbours door bell at night to get him back safe. Not ideal, but we’d all live to tell the tale.

This. And then you post about. Non issue let he get the cat go back to bed slightly irritated and forget about it

All those parroting "be kind" like they're aiming for a Nobel Peace Prize – if OP had done it this once, what was to stop neighbour coming round every time the cat went AWOL? This isn't an indoor cat, but one that clearly happily roams. When does "be kind" end – the fifth time she knocks the door at 2.30? The tenth?

I do lots of favours for my neighbours, especially the elderly one two doors down who I adore, but even I draw the line at a 2.30am rescue mission for a cat that's perfectly capable of getting itself home.

That's absolutely ridiculous. I would have words with her the next day. So rude and inconsiderate. I can see you were still.wide awake almost an hour later. Id be fuming too.

I am with you op. I like my sleep and unless the cat was in immediate danger I would rip anyone ringing my doorbell at that time apart.
It's ridiculous thing yo do at 2:30 and 5:30 am ffs

I'd be livid too, but I'd probably remind them they don't want their cat in my garden, I don't want their cat in my garden, maybe they should get a catio.