Neighbour just rung doorbell at 2.30am!

That is bizarre. Has she not owned cats before?

I remember a young lad nearly in tears thinking his cat was missing but in our area it's all enclosed so they can't get out into the street. It had been out only a couple of hours. It returned a couple of hours later. As cats do. He didn't knock at 2.30am though!

I want to know (and speaking as a former cat-owner) - who are these people who stay awake all night watching what their cat is doing and where it's going?

Most cat-owners just let their cats get on with their wanderings, just waiting for them to come back for food. You only start to worry if you haven't seen them for a few days 😀

Go and knock on her door at 2.30 tomorrow morning and tell her the cats gone now so you were just checking it had gone home 😂

YANBU. On SM I constantly see people, with cats who are allowed to roam, talking smugly about "accepting the risks" and "cats are allowed to roam" until Tiddles goes missing or has been found run over. I don't dislike cats but don't want a cat or want other people's cats in my garden. And at 2.30am I don't get up to answer the door unless there are blue flashing lights outside.

Was once woke up by a new neighbour I hadn't met who needed an inhaler. That's reasonable, "my cat is going for a walk" is not. I'd be less offended by randomly sneaking into my garden to grab it with the possibility of making me think it's a prowler.

Being kind is not ringing your neighbours doorbell at 2am! If she’s that concerned about her cat she shouldn’t let them outside.

its batshit behaviour and I’d be fuming.

Was the neighbour "kind" when she knocked on their door twice after being told to go?

Was it a house cat? Or a missing cat?

I would assume a housemates if she's worried about it being in gardens? I think it's unreasonable to tell youe husband not to help if he wanted to

The neighbour could have been king and not woken someone at 2 in the morning for something that was not an emergency.

This made me laugh.. thank you

Are you having a laugh or are you literally the neighbour?

She didn’t need help though. Her cat was in OP garden, so fucking what? If you let your cat roam that’s going to happen.

Come now, op made it clear in her first post that she was quite prepared to help the girl in an emergency which this wasn’t.

Oh for the laugh response button to return.

Why were you fumming? I'd be fuming.

This has reminded me of the thread about the op who had new neighbours that hadn’t moved in yet as they were getting the house renovated. Op’s cat had gone in through I think a ‘smart’ cat flap and couldn’t seem to get out. Op was flinging slices of ham through one of the windows 😂 and got up to a few other antics. She was very confused when the neighbours thought she should pay for the damage caused.

Answer the door while sharpening knives.
Explain you were up anyway, just chilling a nice Chianti.

Cats gonna cat. You can’t police where they go. She sounds nuts

Sometimes, in situations (and the times!) like these, it may have been more than just about the cat.

Maybe the person has a hidden disability, is anxious as their world is imploding, etc. One never knows, unless given the benefit of the doubt whilst also drawing lines of engagement/clear communication.

I'd have been annoyed. But also let them in and helped with the cat....shared my views/experience to set up for next time....so they knew expectations.

Accept it and move on - clearly the neighbour IS a loon, on drugs / been on the pop ...

The neighbour WILL get what IS comin ...

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Not great being woken up at 2.30am for a cat jumping a fence, but you don't get to tell your DH whether he answers the door/gets the cat etc.

I would not have rung your doorbell

BUT since she did and your husband has his own mind and was willing to help even if miffed at being woken up I firstly would not have told him not to help the woman. I would have allowed him to make his own decision! And even as I was now awake I would have got the cat myself if he didn't want to rather than leaving the woman distressed however annoying it was!

I hope you never need a neighbour in an emergency during the night even if this was not serious!

I am a kind person. I would have been very annoyed to have been woken at 2.30am because someone's cat is being a cat. If you let cats roam outside, they decide where they want to go.

My neighbour's cat is currently meowing loudly to get in, I assume to sit by the radiator. Neighbour is well aware of their location, we have a group chat.

On the one hand, yeah probably could have let her get the cat. I hear what people are saying about "what if it's ill" etc.

On the other we are frequently visited by a very bedraggled looking cat. I pulled up late one night after a very busy 13 hour shift to said cat vomiting on the doormat.

Few days later someone hammered on the door at 9pm (not as bad as 2am but had two toddlers asleep so felt it 😂) It was a neighbour brandishing a pic and asking if I'd seen her cat, said not for a few days but last seen puking on my doorstep and she very shirtily said "well he will do, he's got emphysema and anxiety!" and stalked back down the drive.

The cat continues to visit us and peer through the windows, sure I detect a glint of "don't you know what I'm going through" in his eyes...

Didn't know whether to laugh or cry 😂🤦‍♀️