Visiting friends’ freezing cold houses

A cosy warm home is a priority of mine. We know we're being ripped but warmth is a luxury I'd never give up.
And I smoke.

I'll often eat up to 3k cals a day so that possibly helps.

I hate really warm houses. There's only so much you can take off. It's easier to layer up and keep warm IMO. But my parents house was always cold once they'd gone to bed so was used to it. Now I work outside a lot I barely feel it.

Current place has storage heaters so the heat slowly dwindles in the evening, but it's not baltic by any stretch - although there's no radiator in my bedroom. I haven't used my quilt in about a year. I usually use it in winter but seem to have become even more reptilian in the last year. 🤣

It's 1°C here ('feels like' -3°C) and I'm still using the duvet cover on its own. If it's really cold I might put a blanket over my bottom half but haven't needed it in bed for weeks. Maybe just on my legs occasionally while watching TV for extra snugness. I stayed in Wales over xmas and couldn't sleep the first night as the duvet was so warm. Had to take it out and use the cover on its own the next night. I'm not a plumpster either.

I'm into strength training with my deadlift in the elite category for a woman so bodyfat is pretty low (actually have a six pack). I think it's growing up in relative cold and probs most of all working in heavy plant/construction.

This^ it’s like some sort of competition or boast, it’s very strange. I’m now disabled and don’t have much but I prioritise heating, I do only have a small flat to heat though. The cold makes my chronic pain worse but so does the summer heat.

Jeans, t/shirt, jumper, socks, trainers.

But that might not be winter warm. My ex visits ds and whines about being cold but in January he wears a cotton shirt, jeans, a super-thin lambswool sweater and thin cotton socks. What does he expect? He refuses to wear anything warmer.

I dress for winter, thermal long sleeved t-shirts, a thick Shetland sweater, jeans, fluffy wool socks. Ds17 hates being over-warm so I adapt to ensure we are both comfortable. Our heating is off during the day unless it's freezing.

I turn it up if friends visit though. Different people have different preferences.

Its a British thing. Not putting the heating on makes them happy/proud

I would have agreed with you, but last time I read a thread on Mumsnet about this in transpired people were regularly heating their houses to 23+ degrees.

I would consider that far too hot, but if that were your preference you may find my house too cold.

I think people do have genuinely different temperature requirements.

We have our house at 16, that’s how we like it.

YANBU….we live in a house much smaller than what we could push to afford. Happy to be the peasant with only one guest room…so can heat the house. However, if you and your “friends” are doing “I have the biggest house”, “I’ve the best decorated” YABU

Woolly tights under jeans really helps, plus socks on top, as well all the other layers PP suggested. But really, it's bad manners of them to expect guests to freeze, or not to at least enquire if people are ok, so I would have had no issue in putting my coat back on or asking to borrow a fleece, blanket etc.

Yeah it sounds like heating was off-off! I run hot and hate overly warm spaces, but they sound unreasonable. Ice cold radiator means hasn't been on in hours. Very bad for their house as well, could get damp 😑

all the Spanish peasant food I grew up with
Does this mean you also grew up in a warmer climate than the one you live in now OP?

I'm on blood thinners which make you feel colder and I've always felt the cold even before I started on them. My ex husband used to call me a lizard🤣. So when people come to my house they definitely never are cold! We also got triple glazing in a few years ago which helps a lot.

Are you dressed for winter? I haven't had any heating on here today. It's not that cold out, I'm properly dressed and have been moving about doing some jobs (which makes a huge difference) but I'm on the sofa now and it's not cold.

For me, lots of people over heat their homes, which I find really uncomfortable.

People really do experience temperature differently, though. I am often uncomfortably hot in other people's houses. I do ask my friends if they are cold and have some supplementary heaters on standby

I think I would have had to keep my coat on. I can’t bear the cold. It’s worse in someone’s house, when you’re likely to just be sitting around. At least outside you can go for a brisk walk to warm up!

If I have guests over I would want them to tell me if they’re cold, I have no issue turning the heating on. The problem with me is, when I’m hosting I get very hot just moving around that I don’t realise it’s cold! We had relatives over at the weekend, I did a lot of cooking before they arrived and then setting up the dinner table and serving them, I was hot, the heating was off. I heard my husband ask them at one point if they’re cold, they said no. It’s only when I saw my sil putting a blanket on her legs that I realised my god she’s cold! I felt terrible! Bc I would hate to be in a house that’s cold. I straight away put the radiator as well as the electric heater on. I usually have the heating going before anyone arrives, but this time I was doing so much stuff around the house that I didn’t feel the cold at all. I wouldn’t mind at all if they told us they’re feeling cold.