Visiting friends’ freezing cold houses

But what’s stifling hot/freezing cold is very much down to the individual.

I get a headache if our heating goes above 19 but other people have referred to that as Baltic on these threads before 🫣

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Of course it’s not irrelevant - I’m not going to sit in my own house at a temperature that makes me feel unwell.

I don’t think op was looking for stifling hot, just not freezing cold!!!!

Layers are fine if it’s September and trying to put off putting heating on when there’s some sun outside, but it’s January!!!

my mum is the best entertainer ever- she’ll automatically ask is it too cold so you want the heating on and then do you want tea. You shouldn’t be freezing when you’re meant to be enjoying yourself (obviously different if they can’t afford)

I get migraines on over heated houses. By overheated... I'm meaning 20+. Our CH goes up to 18 in the evenings and mornings. If we were having a party it might get higher.

Incidentally, my teenager finds this to hot and wanders around in shorts and tshirts.

I make sure the heating is on when visitors are here. I would rather them be too warm than cold. It’s miserable.

I used to live in a country where the government decided only the northern half was allowed central heating. When I lived in the southern half i bought a small electric heater- but I remember visiting a friend's parents in the countryside a few hours away for a few nights. I have never been so cold!

Everyone wore coats inside- i was only warm in bed (eventually), in the bath, and when we cycled to play outdoor table tennis. It was a real wet, damp kind of cold as well.

Of course it’s not irrelevant - I’m not going to sit in my own house at a temperature that makes me feel unwell.

I cannot bare the cold, it makes me miserable. One of my ex friend's apartment was always freezing even with guests over and I stopped going as much because I'd feel so unwell. She had more disposable income than I but spent it differently

I still think it's rude to allow guests to be cold.

This! My DH is bigger but feels the cold more because he’s sedentary!

I like 17/18 during the day and 19 in the evening so not super warm. have been to friends houses and my nose has started to run and I’m sitting in my hands to keep them warm so asked them to put the heating on.

Wearing more clothes doesn't work because you are breathing in cold air so it lowers your core temp . Op I just wouldn't go again until at least spring .

Maybe they think they are helping to save the planet.

Maybe they do not feel the cold like you.

I recommend thermal under layers in the winter. Particularly if you know somewhere will be chilly.

i find the opposite. People who move around more feel the cold less. The sedentary are chillier.

I think people genuinely feel temperatures differently. Bigger people tend to be warmer and those with a fast metabolism I.e athletic people colder. People usually say our house is too warm so opposite issue. I have a fast metabolism so usually cold.

I agree OP it does get uncomfortable. Recently stayed with friends in Scotland and I went to bed in a wooly hat and my DH’s fleece, but still spent the whole visit uncomfortably cold. I also suspect I’ve got a bit nesh and southern, but can also see it no doubt costs vastly different amounts of money to keep my new build triple glazed house warm versus this house in Scotland with huge single glazed windows and great high ceilings. I do yearn for a beautiful house like that but equally see the positives to my (slightly lacking in character but extremely comfortable) new build with heaps of insulation and solar panels.

You aren’t wrong. It’s a basic courtesy and shows consideration. Get the temp to 20deg and then when they arrive tell them to let you know if it’s too hot or cold. What you like is irrelevant for a few hours when your guests are there.

I froze growing up. Im not doing it now. Do one of them have a woodburner or fireplace? Woodburners are so cheap to run.

Did you tell them that your cold?

I’m with you OP. I was at a friends recently and she said, oh, we rarely put the heating on during the day, it doesn’t really need it. I caught sight of a thermometer (through my chattering teeth 🥶) 10 fucking degrees! In no hurry to return, will suggest a coffee shop in future!

id expect to wear 2 jumpers - a normal/ medium weight one like a merino plus a heavy over jumper or cardigan when I went to a friends house.

I also can’t stand being hot since having kids. So would always rather er on the colder side than be stuck in a warm room

Yes, my parents' house is unbearable. Our thermostat is at 18, which is comfortable for us. I turn it up when my parents visit as they're in their eighties and feel the cold.

@OrigamiAnimal eek, I thought I was doing badly paying just under £200 a month in my 3 bed

That's what I would wear in summer.
In winter it's a vest top, long sleeved top, tshirt if it's very cold, then a jumper.
Thin leggings under jeans if it's very cold. And thick soled shoes or boots. Thick socks.

I often keep my coat on in my parents house in winter. I’ve been doing it in restaurants recently too. Some Victorian style houses with high ceilings and bay windows especially are very hard to keep warm even with the heating on. What style house do your friends have?

18 - 18.5 sounds normal to me!