To have a secret snack drawer

It’s “for fuck’s sake.”

Or you could talk to your DS about being thoughtful and considerate?

It's the men who are greedy and selfish for taking more than their fair share of sweets/treats to the point women feel like they have no choice but to hide food in their own home.

Shared or personal snacks in a communal cupboard are all very well, but since DS unthinkingly at the last mini bar of chocolate before I'd had a chance to eat any I'm keeping mine hidden.

I don’t think the women eating from a secret stash are being greedy or selfish. The people making this a necessity are the greedy and selfish ones, and the adult men making it a necessity are absolutely horrible role models for their children. Both for being greedy and selfish about food AND for creating a family where the woman puts everyone before herself without recognition. Sorry for the sense of humor failure, I feel so strongly about this!

People who don't enjoy the quiet, secret, solitary pleasure of eating from a secret stash just won't understand what it's like. It's nothing to do with being greedy or selfish, there's so much more to it than that. As mums/grandmas we spend a lot of time putting the rest of the family before ourselves, buying/cooking the food they all like to eat, including sweets/treats, and so having a secret stash of goodies just for us is a little present to ourselves for being so wonderful 😂🤣

Can't you just tell them these items are yours? I think it's a bit sad that you can't count on them to respect your stuff.

I have a secret stash too!!! I hide my stuff - mainly my nice protein bars - in a cooking pot inside a cupboard. Works a treat! In my defence it’s the only thing I really eat in the morning and I got sick of the kids pinching them

I also buy myself nice ice cream lollies in summer and hide them inside a bag of frozen peas 😂

Or. There are communal snacks which you are free to help yourself to a reasonable quantity of. And there are “personal” snacks (like a box of chocolates) that you can share if you want to but nobody should touch without asking. I can’t begin to imagine having to hide food in my own home.

YANBU. I buy chocolate for all the family and then if they run out then they run out but they can’t then have mine. So I hide mine so I can have it for a treat. My husband complains if I buy chocolate for him, he complains if there is no chocolate in the house so I just buy some and tell him to eat it in moderation.

YANBU under the circumstances, but I do judge your husband quite harshly for being unable to control himself. You’re going through IVF which he has to know is really hard, and he can’t bring himself to let you have a small stash of chocolate for when you want it? It’s so unfathomably selfish! I hope he is a caring and considerate man in other ways that make up it, because this would drive me bonkers.

You should be able to leave snacks that you bought somewhere and reasonably expect them to still be there the next time you want to eat them.

This is hilarious! I honestly thought I was the only one with a secret stash. So pleased to know that it's completely normal. 😂

Get your DH to buy you some special snacks to compensate you for what you are going through.

I sometimes hide things.DH opened and ate 11 of the chocolates I had been given as a thank you !! I rationed the rest.
I think it depends how you were brought up

1. everyone helps themselves until all gone in one evening. Or
2. everyone has 1 per night.

It needn't be a drama to have a spelling mistake pointed out. It's a good thing! We ALL make them. People unfortunately get very defensive, when they could just put their energy into correcting it and ensuring it doesn't happen next time, especially when writing for thousands of people to read.

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i would put a stop to that too. But they aren’t adults. Or role models.

Hi @Dolly34 . Unfortunately, because you put "draw" in the title, and also in your original post, people will keep referring to this. Sometimes people just read the first post and don't bother with updates.
What you could do is either contract MNHQ and ask them to correct it, or say it's being derailed and delete the thread? Otherwise, I suspect this will be the focus of the thread.
Good luck with your IVF journey, it's tough 🤞

My older dd def has to hide her sweets or her sister will sneak them. I can’t say I’m worried about any serious issues as a result.

Absolutely right. Nasty bullying over a small mistake.
Absolutely classless.

Yep. This. And my kids learned early to live like members of a community and to be considerate to others. I find these threads among the most depressing on Mumsnet. Apart from anything else, the parents concerned are perpetuating this behaviour for the next generation.

I put my name on things I don't want my DC to eat (in fact I write "mother"). All the rest is far game. I thinking hiding things sends a bad message.

For fuck sake, it was pretty fucking obvious what OP meant, all those calling her stupid or thick should be ashamed. If you couldn't understand the OP from what OP had written then she's not the stupid one.

Hate the bullying on here

Please stop going on about people posting draw & drawer ! I know the difference. I also know the difference between words like there, they're & their or where, ware & wear, your & you're, here & hear etc. but sometimes I just type the wrong thing if I'm pressed for time or if I'm on my kindle fire the stupid auto correct changes it for me & I haven't noticed before I press send . I'm sure it's the same for many posters and it really doesn't matter as long as you get your point across . It's a public forum not a legal document!

completely fine, if he wants treats he probably knows where the shop is