DH thinks he should have an office space kept clear at home

OP stated that DH doesn't care which desk is his, he just wants one which is his without it being disturbed.

Which is entirely reasonable.

See I don’t think it’s odd. Every time I clear a space and declutter it’s not an invitation to my DH to fill it with shite. His shite has an impact on my wellbeing.
Might not be the case for you but it didn’t occur to DH that his clutter has an actual impact on me.

Frankly, you both sound really hard work.

Which she does when he needs it.
He wants her to clear the desk every night even if she’s using it again the day after.

He wants to implement a clean desk policy like he’s an office manager!

She’s tried that. It doesn’t work.
Having lived in a Victorian terrace with a large loft space I can empathise. It was impossible to get that space warm. That’s why she needed to use the other office space because she was cold.

What kind of a partner kicks off about their wife wanting to be warm?

LOL I can't believe people are defending the husband here.

The man is literally complaining about having to plug in a power cable once every couple of weeks???? He is having to plug the monitor into his laptop in any case, so he's literally just not wanting to switch the plug from the heater to his monitor.

Seriously, he's being lazy and petty, given how infrequently this is actually an issue for him.

Dear god, hyperbole much? 🤣 He doesn't care if she uses that desk, he'd just like his things put back the way they were.

That’s sounds like bullshit to me. Your laptop and iPad cannot simultaneously be on two desks at the same time!

Then perhaps her husband needs to stop being so precious about a desk he hardly ever uses.
He’s the one who has commandeered the most appropriate office space despite working out of the home and throws a strop when the OP uses it because she’s cold!

The solution here is that the OP uses the dedicated office space on a permanent basis.

But she has her own desk upstairs, she just uses his in the basement when she gets cold. Why not put a plug in heater in the upstairs office and just stick to that one? I’d be annoyed if someone kept rearranging my stuff, I need my own space.

There a grand total of 4 desks in the house. She needs to get herself organised. Surely she's capable of leaving his stuff alone. It's not the desk version of Goldilocks and the 3 Bears!

Because he has decided that the dedicated office space is his when it was originally meant to be a shared office space.
He should set himself up in another room so the OP can use the office as she is the one WFH.

He works in an office. How is the OP using 'his' desk while he isn't even there impacting his comfort. He isn't even in the house!!

He'd rather she be cold than unplug his precious monitor. It's pretty pathetic and unkind really.

It's still her home.
I WFH and my home doesn't cease to be my home during working hours.

I used my DH's office space earlier this week as it was quieter in there. He wasn't in the house so it would have been ridiculous for me to put up with a noisy space when there was another space in the house I could use.
That's the beauty of WFH, you can be flexible!

And so would he. And DH’s issue is that OP objects to DH working in a way that enhances his comfort.

There’s plenty of room in the house for more than one desk but OP seems to want all of them.

Nobody needs to hot-desk in their own house. This is the most ridiculous argument.

Of course DH needs his own desk not just for his work, but also for admin and filing.

Given there is space enough for more than one desk there’s no reason this cannot be resolved maturely.

DH just objects to not having a desk that is his, that he can leave alone and be the same next time he comes back to it without having to fanny around replugging stuff in. That is not unreasonable at all. If your partner moves your shit around unncessarily for whatever reason, that is annoying as hell.

Why can't OP just pick 1 desk and stick to it?

But she isn't in a office. She's at home and would like to use her home in a way that works best for her.
The issue is that her DH objects to her working in a way that enhances her comfort even though the only inconvenience to him is an unplugged monitor and a lap top on a desk he isn't even using.

I agree! He’s being dog in a manger about his desk. Put his plug back that’s ok but he is being very precious.

No one’s saying it’s the best desk space.

OP says she usually chooses to use the upstairs space as it’s the better space.

Why not?

I have my own desk and I don’t even wfh.

My DC has their own desk too and neither of us use each others or touches any of the stuff on it.

But it’s not the best desk space? She says herself both desks are better for different reasons which is why she uses both.

It's mind boggling that a man who barely works from home and has an office thinks he should be allowed to monopolize the best desk space in the house for his exclusive use.

Do you really need two desks? If you worked in an office you'd only ever get one.

I take the point that he rarely works at home but I know how irritating it is when someone mucks up your IT/monitor setup.

That’s what thought too, however, I was responding to a post where the OP said he wasn’t.