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DH thinks he should have an office space kept clear at home

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RazedBeds · 28/01/2026 20:30

I am in a job where I visit establishments or work from home. In effect this means I am in and out of my home all the time and WFH about 3 days a week.

DH works in an office, but has the odd evening call to do at home - maybe 2 a month.

He's thrown a strop because I usually work upstairs but move to the basement room when it's very cold, as it's warmer down there and there's an electric fire. I plugged in the fire and in doing so I unplugged DH's monitor that he attached his laptop to when he does these occasional evening calls. He says I should leave one desk completely clear and set up for him and that it's inconsiderate of me not to. If he tells me he has a call I will clear the desk btw, but if I am WFH and will be tomorrow I do leave my laptop set up.

I feel like since I work at home almost every day and he does do very occasionally, it's not unreasonable for me to spread myself across the workspaces at my convenience as long as I clear a desk whenever he wants. He says that's not fair and one desk should always be set up and available for him, that I don't need to use two. For clarity I work at one or the other but it varies depending on the weather and my mood!

AIBU?

OP posts:
newrubylane · 28/01/2026 21:15

I think you should make sure whichever one you're not currently using is clear/useable. But since you're there most you should generally get dibs on which one you're currently occupying

CarrotVan · 28/01/2026 21:04

If you have two work stations then it seems fair to have one each. If you need extra space then get a bigger desk or a side table.

Having to set up a workstation every time I use it and get all the screens working properly would be really annoying

if you don’t have two workstations then obv you get dibs as the person who uses it most but it sounds like you have two office spaces AND two workstations so leaving a space set up for him shouldn’t be a massive issue

andthat · 28/01/2026 20:52

It depends really. It would do my head in if anytime I wanted access to one of two desks in the house, my husband had to come along and clear his stuff before I could settle down. Sounds like you are quite messy?

NeverDropYourMooncup · 28/01/2026 20:51

Would it be too difficult to get a surge protected extension lead so you can plug your laptop in without unplugging a monitor every time?

singthing · 28/01/2026 20:49

He's either a brave soul who has succeeded despite having no arms, or a lazy git who thinks you are his servant.

RazedBeds · 28/01/2026 20:37

Lmnop22 · 28/01/2026 20:33

He works from home twice a month and expects a desk left for him to just pick up work from and left just so whereas you work from home every day and are banned from a nice warm desk? Fuck that!

To be fair on him it's not the warm desk specifically he wants. It's one desk always set up ready for him that I have not put stuff on that I have to clear before he can work there.

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Lmnop22 · 28/01/2026 20:33

He works from home twice a month and expects a desk left for him to just pick up work from and left just so whereas you work from home every day and are banned from a nice warm desk? Fuck that!

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