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AIBU to refuse to pay cash in hand?

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Dontasksillyquestions · 28/01/2026 20:29

This recently came up in conversation with a friend and she disagreed with me.

I generally avoid hiring anyone who asks to be paid cash in hand. I don’t see how cash is more convenient these days unless it’s to avoid tax, benefits rules, etc., and I don’t want to be involved. I also rarely carry cash and getting to a cash machine is inconvenient.

Last year I stopped using a regular gardener when he suddenly asked for cash only, despite there being no payment issues (I always transferred the money on the day he’d done the work). My friend thinks I’m being ridiculous and that it’s none of my concern how people run their business. AIBU?

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BooksnChocolate · 07/09/2026 22:12

On the gov.uk website it shows that £6.5bn is lost to benefits fraud per year and 5.5bn to tax fraud, but a whopping 59.2bn shortfall in the difference between tax expected and tax paid! This is largely undeclared earnings I assume...

Q2C4 · 28/07/2026 18:14

Maray1967 · 28/07/2026 13:41

And important for us all to bear in mind.

This is a very good case where things are not clear-cut.

Imagine trying to operate a tax system which had to take a myriad personal circumstances into account when calculating the amount due. Our tax code is already one of the most complex in the world!

There should be legitimate help available to person A so they don’t have to commit a crime to survive. Potentially funded by greater sanctions for person B…

MandemChickenShop · 28/07/2026 13:45

is not unreasonable to make decisions that only impact you based on flawed assumptions

Maray1967 · 28/07/2026 13:45

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:58

A roofer recently asked me to pay him the £8k bill in cash (id save on the VAT)

how am i supposed to withdraw such a large sum without the bank asking questions?

Not a chance.

Maray1967 · 28/07/2026 13:41

Bemyclementine · 28/01/2026 21:00

I dont think its always as clear cut as you might think.

Person A - single parent, works part time as no support with DC. Lives somewhere with no breakfast/after school clubs. Huge credit card bill for legal fees trying to divorce abusive ex. Works a few hours a week "on the side" cash in hand, to survive. Second hand clothes, freezing house, ex pays little to nothing. Does no "childcare" Would i begrudge her few hours a week cash in hand? Absolutely not.

Person B - self employed, numerous cash jobs as a tax fiddle and to avoid child maintainence. Prolonging the divorce from person A, simply by refusing to engage. 5 vehicles (2 motorbikes) expensive hobby. Do i begrudge him? Yes.

This is actually a real life example

And important for us all to bear in mind.

This is a very good case where things are not clear-cut.

Q2C4 · 28/07/2026 13:34

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:58

A roofer recently asked me to pay him the £8k bill in cash (id save on the VAT)

how am i supposed to withdraw such a large sum without the bank asking questions?

It’s very unlikely that you could and if you tried you might be accused of aiding and abetting tax evasion. The bank may have to close your account as banks cannot handle the proceeds of crime (ie the unpaid VAT remaining in your bank account).

Thechaseison71 · 20/07/2026 11:32

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:51

I don’t understand why anyone wants cash. It’s totally inconvenient

so many places are cashless, it’s becoming hard to spend

What places are cashless. None o know of in my town

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:58

A roofer recently asked me to pay him the £8k bill in cash (id save on the VAT)

how am i supposed to withdraw such a large sum without the bank asking questions?

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:56

@CandyColouredEggshells

the HOC subsidised restaurants is not exclusively for MPs. They are only a small part of the workforce

Also, most MPs are normal people, they don’t earn a huge wage. There are easier ways to make money than doing that job! They’re not all Boris Johnsons and Rishi Sunaks you know

pouletvous · 20/07/2026 10:51

I don’t understand why anyone wants cash. It’s totally inconvenient

so many places are cashless, it’s becoming hard to spend

AgileMentor · 19/07/2026 08:15

My partner requests his wages in cash. Still pays tax NI and into his pension though.

Awkwardisfunny · 18/07/2026 14:30

Dontasksillyquestions · 28/01/2026 20:40

Since the vote is so close, could someone explain why I’m being unreasonable? I genuinely want to understand people’s reasoning.

It's never unreasonable to pay how you prefer but making assumptions is unreasonable.

decenteringmen · 04/02/2026 20:22

Bimpy · 29/01/2026 09:59

In what way does getting cash in hand help someone climb out of an overdraft?

It means their wages aren't going into an account that's nearing the bottom of the aforementioned overdraft, so the overdraft isn't eating it.

PensionedCruiser · 03/02/2026 11:14

swingingbytheseat · 02/02/2026 18:58

@Jellycatspyjamas
you get instant notifications if you’re paid via bank transfer

I always send a copy of the bank's notification of payment. With my bank (Lloyds group) it actually formulates a generic message too. Makes life easy for me and the recipient cannot deny that the payment was made to their account. So easy to keep track of too.

swingingbytheseat · 02/02/2026 18:58

@Jellycatspyjamas
you get instant notifications if you’re paid via bank transfer

Jellycatspyjamas · 01/02/2026 10:22

Newusername0 · 28/01/2026 21:43

How are credit control and cash flow improved through cash receipts?

i run a small business in addition to being employed. If someone pays me cash I, and they, know I’ve been paid. Paying by bank transfer means I need to chase payment which is credit control - it takes time and therefore costs me money to keep track of who has paid and to follow up when they don’t. It also costs me money if they simply don’t pay - small amounts so no worth chasing through more formal means.

Cash flow because I can then use that cash to pay for services that I use as part of the business, eg I always pay my clinical supervisor in cash. I also don’t pay charges for paying in cash but do for using card transactions as well as needing to pay for the card machine itself.

It’s all accounted for and taxed accordingly, it’s just easier as a very small business. I’m already paying 40% tax on my business earnings so the 2/3% for banking services and the loss of money if people don’t pay starts to make the business unviable.

MsAmerica · 31/01/2026 21:03

mommatoone · 30/01/2026 22:25

I'm shocked at this , as a small number of our customers pay by cheque. You don't even have to physically pay it in anymore. Yiu literally scan it from your phone and it goes straight into your bank account!

Yes, and probably a small percentage of customers generally use retail-store bathrooms too - but that's not a reason to discontinue them if you already have them.

pinkspeakers · 31/01/2026 17:28

CandyColouredEggshells · 30/01/2026 13:03

You are so naive I’m stunned, I’ve just posted about stamp duty as an example, it was literally introduced in the 1600’s to fund military efforts and they kept it because it made them so much money. Have you not read about things like the subsidised restaurant in the House of Commons?! I’m constantly seeing post about people trying to save money and not eating or putting the heating on and MP’s get subsidised restaurants?!

They would not reduce taxes, that’s why they do things like stop funding nursing degrees but still give MP’s a payrise

Edited

Subsidised restaurants for employees are pretty widespread, no? And the cost of things like that is an absolute drop in the ocean in the context on public spending. I'm perfectly happy for members of parliament to have good working conditions. We want to persuade capable (and not independently wealthy) people to do it.

Sure, I'm not going to agree with every spending decision that this or any other government makes. But I think the idea that all governments are out to make as much money as possible out of the tax payer to spend on enriching themselves or on their own very narrow interests is very wide of the mark.

(but stamp duty is a highly dysfunctional tax that should be replaced by a wealth tax and/or increase inheritance tax, and nursing degrees should be better funded)

Thechaseison71 · 31/01/2026 13:31

QuietComet · 31/01/2026 12:22

This is a bit of a fallacy. It will cost your hairdresser in fees to deposit the cash, and will take time out of their day to go to the bank / post office to deposit it. When you add it all up, there is no coat saving.

She may be spending the cash rather than using the atm to pull it out of a bank account. No law that says has to be paid into the bank . Supermarkets, petrol stations restuarants etc all accept cash you know

Thechaseison71 · 31/01/2026 13:29

QuietComet · 31/01/2026 13:24

I use bank transfers for my business. Monzo creates a QR code, I type in the amount, they scan the QR code and confirm the payment.

It takes as much time as putting a card into a machine and inputting your pin, though more time than contactless.

Thst qr payment is commonplace in Asia. Is it only monzo that do it? Its not something ive known all thw big banks to offer

QuietComet · 31/01/2026 13:24

Thechaseison71 · 29/01/2026 09:06

Ok how many people are likely to be setting up bank transfers an the front desk of the takeaway ? Especially if it's not one they use regularly

I use bank transfers for my business. Monzo creates a QR code, I type in the amount, they scan the QR code and confirm the payment.

It takes as much time as putting a card into a machine and inputting your pin, though more time than contactless.

QuietComet · 31/01/2026 12:22

BeaLola · 28/01/2026 20:51

It's up to you

I pay my window cleaner in cash - it's £15

I pay my hairdresser in cash- she happily takes cards but I choose cash as I think she gets more that at as no charges being paid

This is a bit of a fallacy. It will cost your hairdresser in fees to deposit the cash, and will take time out of their day to go to the bank / post office to deposit it. When you add it all up, there is no coat saving.

taxguru · 31/01/2026 11:34

A988414 · 31/01/2026 10:57

Tradesmen, always bank transfer.

When I left school, if you weren't very clever you became a motor mechanic or got yourself a bag of tools to make and fix things and got paid an average wage.
Now, for reasons I can't fathom, they are on the same hourly rates as consultant surgeons!!

You're mis-comparing employment against self employment. Medical consultants may be on a hundred pounds per hour, but that's a wage - the private/self employed consultants will be charging a lot more. Likewise, self employed plumbers may charge £100 per hour, but employed ones will be getting wages of £25 per hour. You can't compare apples against pears. Self employment always costs more as there's no employer to provide the tools, equipment, paid time off for holidays/sickness, training, insurance, transport, etc etc.

taxguru · 31/01/2026 11:31

mommatoone · 30/01/2026 22:25

I'm shocked at this , as a small number of our customers pay by cheque. You don't even have to physically pay it in anymore. Yiu literally scan it from your phone and it goes straight into your bank account!

Depends on the bank. There are still business banks that don't provide for scanning cheques.

A988414 · 31/01/2026 10:57

Tradesmen, always bank transfer.

When I left school, if you weren't very clever you became a motor mechanic or got yourself a bag of tools to make and fix things and got paid an average wage.
Now, for reasons I can't fathom, they are on the same hourly rates as consultant surgeons!!

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