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Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?

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9champions · 28/01/2026 18:50

I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway, but I’ve recently noticed that my neighbour is using my drive to get to hers. I’m not sure if she’s always done this as I’ve only just noticed. Last week, I caught her in the act while I was outside sorting the bins, and I think she was surprised to see me. I talked to her on Sunday and politely asked if she could stop, but she said it’s difficult for her because her neighbours car sticks out into the space in front of her house, which makes her partners van hang over their drive, so she can’t get in and out without driving over mine.

They can’t park the van on the drive and the car on the street because there’s a fence between our driveways, and the van is too big to fit with the fence there. It’s their fence, on their boundary line btw. I suggested they take it down, but they’re tenants and don’t want to pay for it, which is understandable. Apparently, they asked the landlord a few months back if he would remove it, and he said he was fine with it being taken down, but he wouldn’t cover the cost.

I was thinking about putting up my own fence to stop them, but my drive is already pretty narrow, and then there's the cost involved. I know I could just pay to have theirs taken down, but should I really have to fork out money just to make them stop using my drive? I know it’s a hassle for them, but they should either talk to their neighbours to see if they can leave them more space on the road or have another chat with the landlord about the fence. They’re making this my problem, and I don’t think it’s fair for them to just assume they can use my drive forever. It’s not a shared drive btw. They’re just next to each other, similar to new build estates.

Am I being unreasonable / petty, or are they taking the piss? I’ve attached a diagram. The black squiggles are cars, and the red one is my neighbours car crossing over my drive to get to hers.

Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?
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Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:21

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:20

🤣🤣🤪

Yup!!

BudgetBuster · 28/01/2026 21:20

At first read I thought you were overreacting to be honest @9champions
Realistically the damage they will do will inevitably be far far into the future and you haven't noticed before.

But the more I dwell on it... I WFH and if I saw someone edging on my property everyday it'd actually irritate me so much. Again I'd probably just silently moan and get on with it. But the fact that you mentioned it and she clearly is acknowledging the issue by contacting her landlord but she's too tight to pay for removing the fence.... that's what would push me over the edge and I'd probably be really petty and do lots of little things to inconvenience her.

Tomorrow do the bins, another day park your own car there, another day put something awkward like a planter there. I'd leave every 2nd day empty and see if she drives across those days. I'd probably pop a bed of old nails down as a last resort... but maybe not 😂

Also, I think.she parked on the road while the driveway was being done because it was too awkward for her to park on her own driveway with going across yours... not because she was trying to leave room for the builders

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:20

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:19

As I thought, you do

🤣🤣🤪

Happyher · 28/01/2026 21:19

I’d complain to the landlord about his tenants. Explain to him that she’s driving across your drive because her partner obstructs their own drive so she can’t access it. Tell him you will hold him responsible for any wear and tear on your drive

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:19

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:19

So many posters don’t read the full thread nowadays.

As I thought, you do

ThoughtsOnLife · 28/01/2026 21:19

Sorry I had not noted that, I would block their access and let them either sort it out with the other neighbour or they decide to pay for removing the fence, either way it isn't up to you to be their easy 'do nothing' solution at your cost

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:19

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:15

I said in a previous comment that I had the drive fixed last year. Before that, it was in bad shape with lots of damage and potholes, so I probably wouldn’t have noticed any damage back then. Now that it’s been repaired and I’ve spent a lot of money, it bothers me more. I only noticed it while I was standing by the window when she came home the other week, so I’m not sure if she’s been doing this for 4 years. I’m not cross, but I do think it’s cheeky and entitled yes

So many posters don’t read the full thread nowadays.

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:18

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:15

I said in a previous comment that I had the drive fixed last year. Before that, it was in bad shape with lots of damage and potholes, so I probably wouldn’t have noticed any damage back then. Now that it’s been repaired and I’ve spent a lot of money, it bothers me more. I only noticed it while I was standing by the window when she came home the other week, so I’m not sure if she’s been doing this for 4 years. I’m not cross, but I do think it’s cheeky and entitled yes

So she’s been doing it for a year on the new drive and you only just noticed her doing it

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:15

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:10

So they likely have been doing this for 4 years
You only noticed very recently
proving it’s actually caused you no bother at all for years

I said in a previous comment that I had the drive fixed last year. Before that, it was in bad shape with lots of damage and potholes, so I probably wouldn’t have noticed any damage back then. Now that it’s been repaired and I’ve spent a lot of money, it bothers me more. I only noticed it while I was standing by the window when she came home the other week, so I’m not sure if she’s been doing this for 4 years. I’m not cross, but I do think it’s cheeky and entitled yes

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Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:14

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:13

Oh my goodness, what??? The OP is annoyed that the neighbours are not sorting out their own problem and instead are using her new drive. Her reaction is totally normal.

Guessing you do!

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:13

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:09

If you’re honest, do you find yourself getting cross about lots of things @9champions ?

Oh my goodness, what??? The OP is annoyed that the neighbours are not sorting out their own problem and instead are using her new drive. Her reaction is totally normal.

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:10

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:08

I’ve lived here 4 years. They were already here when I moved in, not sure how long they’ve been here.

So they likely have been doing this for 4 years
You only noticed very recently
proving it’s actually caused you no bother at all for years

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:09

If you’re honest, do you find yourself getting cross about lots of things @9champions ?

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:08

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:07

How long have you been neighbours ?

I’ve lived here 4 years. They were already here when I moved in, not sure how long they’ve been here.

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Aquarius91 · 28/01/2026 21:08

Wear and tear over a tiny corner of your drive for a literal second? I can’t imagine giving a shit. Honestly life’s too short OP, you’re being INCREDIBLY petty.

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:07

How long have you been neighbours ?

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:07

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 28/01/2026 20:59

It would take them what? A whole afternoon to take down the fence that stops them parking comfortably on their own land? But they can’t be arsed

They rent and don’t want to pay. Their landlord said we can take it down, but we need to make good any damage / holes etc, but he won’t cover the cost.

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AgathaX · 28/01/2026 21:06

I agree with previous OPs, get a decent sized and heavy planter at the end of your drive. She's cheeky for doing it anyway, and given she hasn't responded to politely being asked to stop, then I don't see what choice you have.

People are so entitled.

babyproblems · 28/01/2026 21:06

they need to speak to the neighbour so they can access their own drive like any normal person. Why would they rather bother you than them? I’d offer to go with them to ask neighbour to not block their access.

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:04

ThoughtsOnLife · 28/01/2026 21:01

The neighbour should pay to get a dropped kerb so that they can access there own property without encroaching on yours. My neighbours had a similar paved area and no dropped kerb. We refused access via the corner of our drive as we did not want to end up with legal issues such as unintentionally giving them vehicle access rights to our driveway or issues if one of us sold up and we then had less agreeable neighbours. I don't think damage even crossed my mind but the possibility of legal issues down the line made it a definite no no . Put up a fence or stones etc hopefully then they will sort out a dropped kerb like ours did and then everyone will be happy

They have a dropped kerb. Sorry if that wasn’t clear.

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Bloozie · 28/01/2026 21:03

I share a drive with my neighbour. We both live in semis, but not attached to each other iyswim. We each have a hedge marking the boundary of the house we are attached to, and a garden area in front of our house - mine is turfed with a tree and a pond, hers is slate chippings with spiky Cordeline-type plants poking out - and the expanse between us those gardens is shared block paving (motherfucker, PITA to weed). If you put a fence down the middle, it would be a drive's width for each house, that two cars could park on, three at a push.

However, there's no fence.

I drive on her half, she drives on mine. We do three point turns on our drives using each other's half. Her garden is smaller so she has more hardstanding and lets my guests park there at eg christmas. Being able to swing across mine makes her turning circle much easier. We enter the shared drive in the middle, two wheels of the car on our own halves, two on our neighbour's

I've never once thought about the wear on the blocks.

StephensLass1977 · 28/01/2026 21:01

My ndn does this every day when he drops and collects his kid from school. Shared courtyard unfortunately (never again) but we have our own clearly marked out drives within the courtyard. He likes to park his car EXACTLY straight, which means he drives back and forth repeatedly until he's parked perfectly. This means he always drives right up to our living room window, and then back and forth, to and fro, perfecting it, which sets the dogs off, and is disconcerting as I WFH and there his face is, popping up every few seconds. For this act, he is driving over our private land.

But, worse is that he's now caused damage - he's managed to dislodge a ground tile on our private property with all his pissing about. It wasn't us, as the bit he keeps driving over isn't a parking space, it's just the area outside our door and living room window, and our car has never touched it once. And he's damaged it. So be careful. It looks unsightly.

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:01

Happyher · 28/01/2026 20:54

Does NDN have a proper drive. If they’re using it to park a car they have to have a dropped kerb. Report it to the council. If they’re using landlord is renting the property as having a drive he will have to pay for a dropped kerb

Yes, they have dropped kerb.

There are two spaces on the street in front of their house. These aren't designated spaces, but their neighbour parks in one (right in front of their own house, but a bit over the line into my neighbours space), and my neighbour (van driver) parks in the other, slightly hanging over his driveway. This means his partner has to cut across the corner of my driveway to get in and out of their driveway. I hope that clears things up?

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ThoughtsOnLife · 28/01/2026 21:01

The neighbour should pay to get a dropped kerb so that they can access there own property without encroaching on yours. My neighbours had a similar paved area and no dropped kerb. We refused access via the corner of our drive as we did not want to end up with legal issues such as unintentionally giving them vehicle access rights to our driveway or issues if one of us sold up and we then had less agreeable neighbours. I don't think damage even crossed my mind but the possibility of legal issues down the line made it a definite no no . Put up a fence or stones etc hopefully then they will sort out a dropped kerb like ours did and then everyone will be happy

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 28/01/2026 20:59

It would take them what? A whole afternoon to take down the fence that stops them parking comfortably on their own land? But they can’t be arsed

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