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Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?

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9champions · 28/01/2026 18:50

I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway, but I’ve recently noticed that my neighbour is using my drive to get to hers. I’m not sure if she’s always done this as I’ve only just noticed. Last week, I caught her in the act while I was outside sorting the bins, and I think she was surprised to see me. I talked to her on Sunday and politely asked if she could stop, but she said it’s difficult for her because her neighbours car sticks out into the space in front of her house, which makes her partners van hang over their drive, so she can’t get in and out without driving over mine.

They can’t park the van on the drive and the car on the street because there’s a fence between our driveways, and the van is too big to fit with the fence there. It’s their fence, on their boundary line btw. I suggested they take it down, but they’re tenants and don’t want to pay for it, which is understandable. Apparently, they asked the landlord a few months back if he would remove it, and he said he was fine with it being taken down, but he wouldn’t cover the cost.

I was thinking about putting up my own fence to stop them, but my drive is already pretty narrow, and then there's the cost involved. I know I could just pay to have theirs taken down, but should I really have to fork out money just to make them stop using my drive? I know it’s a hassle for them, but they should either talk to their neighbours to see if they can leave them more space on the road or have another chat with the landlord about the fence. They’re making this my problem, and I don’t think it’s fair for them to just assume they can use my drive forever. It’s not a shared drive btw. They’re just next to each other, similar to new build estates.

Am I being unreasonable / petty, or are they taking the piss? I’ve attached a diagram. The black squiggles are cars, and the red one is my neighbours car crossing over my drive to get to hers.

Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?
OP posts:
MollyMollyMandy33 · 28/01/2026 21:52

HelplessSoul · 28/01/2026 18:52

They are taking the fucking piss.

Block access with planters. Much cheaper than a fence.

Also, strategically place your bins where she crosses your drive / park your car there so she cant cut across.

Your NDN is a fucking cunt of the highest order.

Is this a joke?

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:51

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 28/01/2026 21:48

Do have to go on her drvie to access yours? I can't understand why she needs to go on your drive for sccess you don'[t go on hers momentarily if the space is quite narrow. This is not something I would with a neighbour because it doesn\t really imact on your life as you can stil access drive anyway.

no I don’t drive over hers to access mine. There are two spaces on the street in front of their house. These aren't designated spaces, but their neighbour parks in one (right in front of their own house, but a bit over the line into my neighbours space), and my neighbour (van driver) parks in the other, slightly hanging over his driveway. This means his partner has to cut across the corner of my driveway to get in and out of their driveway.

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NewGoldFox · 28/01/2026 21:51

You’ve asked politely and she’s still doing it - so bloody cheeky. I echo other comments about a nice planter on the end of your drive and would add the suggestion of getting a ring doorbell to keep an eye on things.

TheDenimPoet · 28/01/2026 21:49

Plant pots, sorted :)

2chocolateoranges · 28/01/2026 21:48

She probably parked on the road when you were getting your drive replaced as she couldn’t drive over your drive.

id block it with either my car or put up a fence. It would annoy me too, either her partner needs to learn to park properly or she needs to learn how to drive better onto her own driveway.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 28/01/2026 21:48

Do have to go on her drvie to access yours? I can't understand why she needs to go on your drive for sccess you don'[t go on hers momentarily if the space is quite narrow. This is not something I would with a neighbour because it doesn\t really imact on your life as you can stil access drive anyway.

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:47

shuggles · 28/01/2026 21:43

@9champions Oh how I wish my life was so peaceful and free of problems that I would have the headspace to get extremely angry about a neighbour's car touching my driveway for a few seconds.

I think that’s unfair. I’m not sure why you’ve assumed I don’t have other problems / worries. I do, but am I not allowed to be frustrated by this too? Also, I’m not ”extremely angry” lol

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9champions · 28/01/2026 21:45

nOlives · 28/01/2026 21:39

Is it possible the reason she parked on the road while your drive was being redone was because she couldn't use your drive to get to hers then?
But anyway, if they can't fit their van on the drive or in the space in front of their house then they need to park the van somewhere else. It is their issue that they are trying to make yours.
Good luck with the planters, and please come back and tell us how it goes.

Yes, it could be, but there were a few times I came home and saw her parked on the street while the van was missing, so she could have gotten into the driveway (but maybe not out if he came back and parked in front). I’m not really sure the reasoning behind it.

I’ll keep you updated!

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jimoine · 28/01/2026 21:44

It would depend on the relationship with my neighbour. A lovely one - sure, no biggie. One I can’t stand - no way.

Surely this has to go back to the neighbour whose car sticks out over their driveway in the first place? They are the cause of the whole thing, it’s like dominoes.

shuggles · 28/01/2026 21:43

@9champions Oh how I wish my life was so peaceful and free of problems that I would have the headspace to get extremely angry about a neighbour's car touching my driveway for a few seconds.

AfraidToRun · 28/01/2026 21:42

Big old plant pots on the boundary would look nice

nOlives · 28/01/2026 21:39

Is it possible the reason she parked on the road while your drive was being redone was because she couldn't use your drive to get to hers then?
But anyway, if they can't fit their van on the drive or in the space in front of their house then they need to park the van somewhere else. It is their issue that they are trying to make yours.
Good luck with the planters, and please come back and tell us how it goes.

Soontobesingles · 28/01/2026 21:37

ThoughtsOnLife · 28/01/2026 21:28

I would feel really un-neighbourly driving over someone's else's property to save myself some potential costs

It sounds as if the neighbour has been doing it for years, before OP even lived there. I doubt they give it a second thought, because while a drive is technically OP’s property, it’s also just a bit of paved over land. I mean people walk their dogs along my road and sometimes the dogs pull onto my drive to have a sniff, or pee up the wall between mine and my neighbour’s house (I own the wall) - should I run out and demand that no one ever sets foot on an inch of my property? Should I demand dogs pee in public space only? I think that is demented behaviour. It’s not like anyone is driving through her living room. Having said all this, if she has asked her neighbour to stop doing it and neighbour won’t, neighbour is in the wrong. But that doesn’t mean OP is being reasonable.

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:31

Bluefloor · 28/01/2026 21:29

Yeah I’d be annoyed especially considering how much drives costs to redo. Can you not put a narrow planter at the edge of your drive?

This is what I’m going to do on the weekend. The rubbish bin is being collected tomorrow so I’m going to put there tonight. It will be interesting to see if she moves it lol

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giallo · 28/01/2026 21:30

ThoughtsOnLife · 28/01/2026 21:28

I would feel really un-neighbourly driving over someone's else's property to save myself some potential costs

I would as well. Why are so many posters saying it is ok? Let them pay to remove the fence, it’s not the OP’s problem to solve.

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:29

latetothefisting · 28/01/2026 20:52

is the green line the fence that is there already? If so, I don't see how continuing it slightly further would make your drive narrower than it is already - if you're so against her driving on your drive then presumably you are never putting a wheel over into hers anyway, so it wouldn't negative impact you at all?

in any case it doesn't need to be a full size fence, just anything big enough to stop her driving over it - a few bricks/your bin/flower pots etc would all do the job if it annoys you that much although personally I can't see why it bothers you.

The fence belongs to them, on their land, where the boundary begins, so I can't extend it without getting their permission first. I doubt they’d say yes as they’re already having problems parking. I'd need to put my own fence up, right next to theirs on my driveway, which would make the drive a little narrower

OP posts:
Bluefloor · 28/01/2026 21:29

Yeah I’d be annoyed especially considering how much drives costs to redo. Can you not put a narrow planter at the edge of your drive?

ThoughtsOnLife · 28/01/2026 21:28

I would feel really un-neighbourly driving over someone's else's property to save myself some potential costs

Soontobesingles · 28/01/2026 21:25

One car occasionally goes over your drive to get onto their own? Twice a day or so? I cannot see how you could get worked up over that. I have a drive and this would not bother me in the slightest. Thirty seconds a day of someone else’s tyres on my drive is not going to cause significant wear and tear unless they are driving a tank. I honestly think this is ridiculously petty and unneighbourly to even mention.

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:23

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:22

Seething I reckon!

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Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:22

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:21

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Seething I reckon!

9champions · 28/01/2026 21:22

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:18

So she’s been doing it for a year on the new drive and you only just noticed her doing it

That's not what I said. I have no clue how long she's been doing it for. It could be years or only a month. I have no idea. I don't sit by the window every day keeping tabs. The fact is, I know now and it bothers me. Not sure why we’re arguing over dates 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:22

How is a car driving a bit on a new drive going to ruin the new drive? Genuine question

EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/01/2026 21:21

Put flowers along the boundary. It probably wouldn’t bother me if they were otherwise nice enough neighbours.

Extrachoc · 28/01/2026 21:21

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 21:21

Yup!!

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