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Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?

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9champions · 28/01/2026 18:50

I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway, but I’ve recently noticed that my neighbour is using my drive to get to hers. I’m not sure if she’s always done this as I’ve only just noticed. Last week, I caught her in the act while I was outside sorting the bins, and I think she was surprised to see me. I talked to her on Sunday and politely asked if she could stop, but she said it’s difficult for her because her neighbours car sticks out into the space in front of her house, which makes her partners van hang over their drive, so she can’t get in and out without driving over mine.

They can’t park the van on the drive and the car on the street because there’s a fence between our driveways, and the van is too big to fit with the fence there. It’s their fence, on their boundary line btw. I suggested they take it down, but they’re tenants and don’t want to pay for it, which is understandable. Apparently, they asked the landlord a few months back if he would remove it, and he said he was fine with it being taken down, but he wouldn’t cover the cost.

I was thinking about putting up my own fence to stop them, but my drive is already pretty narrow, and then there's the cost involved. I know I could just pay to have theirs taken down, but should I really have to fork out money just to make them stop using my drive? I know it’s a hassle for them, but they should either talk to their neighbours to see if they can leave them more space on the road or have another chat with the landlord about the fence. They’re making this my problem, and I don’t think it’s fair for them to just assume they can use my drive forever. It’s not a shared drive btw. They’re just next to each other, similar to new build estates.

Am I being unreasonable / petty, or are they taking the piss? I’ve attached a diagram. The black squiggles are cars, and the red one is my neighbours car crossing over my drive to get to hers.

Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?
OP posts:
Soontobesingles · 29/01/2026 10:45

QOrion · 28/01/2026 22:28

The OP views the situation differently from you so you imply she is demented. Demented, really?

The dog situation I would personally find intolerable and disrespectful. I would put some nice sausage down. I think dog owners would suddenly find a way to keep Fido off my private property since the next piece of sausage he eats may not agree with him.

Yes, I think wasting your time and energy and precious life on petty disputes over other people crossing onto your land for less than a minute a day is demented. I think poisoning dogs for peeing on a wall because it belongs to you is demented. What about the foxes that poo and wee in my garden, should I shoot them, or lay traps?

HelplessSoul · 29/01/2026 10:37

Currentskin · 29/01/2026 09:48

Wtf?

If you’re calling the neighbour a “cunt”, I can’t imagine what you must be like in RL when you seriously feel wronged.

If the NDN didnt act like one, I wouldnt need to refer to them that way.

🤷‍♂️

BudgetBuster · 29/01/2026 10:04

9champions · 28/01/2026 22:34

Thanks! I know I asked if I was being unreasonable, and I get that everyone is different - some things bother some people more than others. But honestly, I find it hard to believe all those people saying it wouldn’t bother them at all, especially if their neighbours haven’t been helpful or accommodating in the past.

Anyway, the bins are sitting at the top of the drive, and she’s not home right now. There’s no way she can squeeze through that gap without shifting them, so we’ll just have to wait and see what happens!

@9champions
Update us... did she move the bins 😂

ChrisMartinsKisskam · 29/01/2026 09:53

viques · 28/01/2026 19:04

If your neighbour doesn’t have a dropped kerb then what they have is a paved front garden, not a drive.

They should bite the bullet and apply and pay for a dropped kerb. If they sell they won’t be able to market it as a property with a drive so it would be an investment.

They have a patio / garden with aspirations of being a drive

Currentskin · 29/01/2026 09:48

HelplessSoul · 29/01/2026 08:45

Nailed it. And as I said at the start - this is precisely why the NDN is a cunt.

Wtf?

If you’re calling the neighbour a “cunt”, I can’t imagine what you must be like in RL when you seriously feel wronged.

diddl · 29/01/2026 08:55

I'd put a fence, rope or whatever to stop them.

They could pay to remove a fence but instead want/expect to use the drive that Op has paid for.

Nope!

HelplessSoul · 29/01/2026 08:45

Noshowlomo · 29/01/2026 07:46

Some people seem confused. The OP is a homeowner and it’s her neighbour who rents and it’s the neighbours landlord that won’t do any thing about the fence. It’s the neighbours own partner that parks his van in a way that she has to use OPs drive to get to her own.
Basically it’s the neighbours who are making all their problems become the OPs problems when it’s nothing to do with her.
For all those who think this is nothing and it wouldn’t bother you, this isn’t the thread for you.
We had people standing in next doors garden, take a step up into our garden and walk over it to the pavement, rather than walk an extra 3ft down the drive way of the garden they were in. It’s so entitled and cheeky ! My son and I were in the front garden at the time with all these work men just walking through my garden, when there was no need.

Nailed it. And as I said at the start - this is precisely why the NDN is a cunt.

LittleGreenDragons · 29/01/2026 08:04

To all those who think the OP is wrong. The OP has paid a large sum of money to buy that land with access (and a house). Then she's paid even more money to make it look nice and presentable and long lasting. Then a CF uses it without her permission or paying for use. Would any of you like it if your neighbours came and sat on your patio furniture every day? I mean your patio chair is cheaper than her drive plus you are lighter than a car so less wear and tear but same principle, or would you get pissed off too?

OP, get a couple of chains and loop them between the two fences. Far cheaper than a full fence and gets your point across.

Noshowlomo · 29/01/2026 07:46

Some people seem confused. The OP is a homeowner and it’s her neighbour who rents and it’s the neighbours landlord that won’t do any thing about the fence. It’s the neighbours own partner that parks his van in a way that she has to use OPs drive to get to her own.
Basically it’s the neighbours who are making all their problems become the OPs problems when it’s nothing to do with her.
For all those who think this is nothing and it wouldn’t bother you, this isn’t the thread for you.
We had people standing in next doors garden, take a step up into our garden and walk over it to the pavement, rather than walk an extra 3ft down the drive way of the garden they were in. It’s so entitled and cheeky ! My son and I were in the front garden at the time with all these work men just walking through my garden, when there was no need.

Currentskin · 29/01/2026 07:23

nomas · 29/01/2026 06:34

So pleased that I have empathy for people instead of smuggery.

Empathy for someone whose neighbour drives a little bit on her drive?!

Currentskin · 29/01/2026 07:23

HelplessSoul · 29/01/2026 07:00

Yet it bothered you enough to post about it here....the mind boggles. 🤦‍♂️

Huh?

It is mumsnet. A chat forum. Can you only comment if you are bothered by the same things as the op?

Soontobe60 · 29/01/2026 07:10

9champions · 28/01/2026 18:59

What do you mean, is it affecting me? It’s my drive that I paid a lot of money for I guess? Would you want random people using your drive every day? If (and I know that it’s a big if) they damaged it or something, how would I prove that? I seriously doubt they’d own up to it or pay for it.

How is them driving over your drive any more damaging than you driving over it?

HelplessSoul · 29/01/2026 07:00

Currentskin · 29/01/2026 06:17

So pleased that stuff like this genuinely didn’t bother me

Yet it bothered you enough to post about it here....the mind boggles. 🤦‍♂️

nomas · 29/01/2026 06:34

Currentskin · 29/01/2026 06:17

So pleased that stuff like this genuinely didn’t bother me

So pleased that I have empathy for people instead of smuggery.

Newyearsameme26 · 29/01/2026 06:30

Its HER OWN van blocking HER OWN drive??? Absolutely ridiculous and for them to speak to their other neighbour about overhanging car.

Currentskin · 29/01/2026 06:17

So pleased that stuff like this genuinely didn’t bother me

LilyBunch25 · 29/01/2026 06:08

viques · 28/01/2026 19:04

If your neighbour doesn’t have a dropped kerb then what they have is a paved front garden, not a drive.

They should bite the bullet and apply and pay for a dropped kerb. If they sell they won’t be able to market it as a property with a drive so it would be an investment.

They're tenants.

HelplessSoul · 29/01/2026 04:40

SnowyRock · 29/01/2026 01:07

Why? Shes driving over it not parking on it. I wouldnt have an issue with a next door neighbour doing that?

Thats good for you I guess.

But the OP has an issue with it given that its her driveway that she paid for.

Shame you cant see that 🤷‍♂️

Bobbie12345678 · 29/01/2026 04:00

I wonder why they don’t park their van in the drive and the (presumably shorter) car in the on road space.

tuvamoodyson · 29/01/2026 03:42

9champions · 28/01/2026 19:42

Thank you

Don't you think it would be neighbourly to ask first instead of just assuming it's okay though? My response might have been different tbh. I mean, good manners don't cost anything.

So if she’d asked, your answer might have been different? What the wear and tear on your driveway that you’re concerned about though? Wouldn’t that still be the same?

LivingTheDreamish · 29/01/2026 02:26

I would feel the same as you OP. The proof that you are not being petty is that you didn't care about her driving on your old drive. It is purely because of the wear and tear on your new drive that it is now an issue.

Hopefully planters will solve the problem.

Monty27 · 29/01/2026 02:13

Omg people use mine to do a 3 point. I'm the first house in a cul-de-sac. If I catch them I literally tell them to get off my property as they are trespassing 😡
They're random people though not neighbours. Mine wouldn't dream of doing it.
Call them out tell them its not a public road!

tamade · 29/01/2026 02:06

nomas · 29/01/2026 01:02

That is not OP’s job.

🛫ok

ThisChirpyFox · 29/01/2026 01:20

SnowyRock · 29/01/2026 01:07

Why? Shes driving over it not parking on it. I wouldnt have an issue with a next door neighbour doing that?

But that's you and op has every right to have a problem with it.

ThisChirpyFox · 29/01/2026 01:19

Oh wow! All the posters having a go at op making sparky comments like her not being neighbourly or being very blessed if she's sees this as a problem, I hope you're getting walked over by your neighbours or neighbours just walking into or on your property as and when.

As this is exactly what's happening here. The woman's a cheeky cow. First off, it's not your fault she can't get on her drive, they should speak to their other neighbour. Secondly, once you made her aware you knew of this she should have either asked if she could drive over it and if you said no, accepted it. Why should it be okay for someone to drive over a drive you've paid thousands for if you do not give permission? I hope the bin blocked her path but would like updates on if she moved it op. Also when your drive was getting done, I think she parked outside yours and left her drive empty so you couldn't. She knew exactly what she was doing so ignore the nonsense scenarios people have come up with.

Also I agree with planters. Place a number of big heavy pots spread out along the edge.