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Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?

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9champions · 28/01/2026 18:50

I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway, but I’ve recently noticed that my neighbour is using my drive to get to hers. I’m not sure if she’s always done this as I’ve only just noticed. Last week, I caught her in the act while I was outside sorting the bins, and I think she was surprised to see me. I talked to her on Sunday and politely asked if she could stop, but she said it’s difficult for her because her neighbours car sticks out into the space in front of her house, which makes her partners van hang over their drive, so she can’t get in and out without driving over mine.

They can’t park the van on the drive and the car on the street because there’s a fence between our driveways, and the van is too big to fit with the fence there. It’s their fence, on their boundary line btw. I suggested they take it down, but they’re tenants and don’t want to pay for it, which is understandable. Apparently, they asked the landlord a few months back if he would remove it, and he said he was fine with it being taken down, but he wouldn’t cover the cost.

I was thinking about putting up my own fence to stop them, but my drive is already pretty narrow, and then there's the cost involved. I know I could just pay to have theirs taken down, but should I really have to fork out money just to make them stop using my drive? I know it’s a hassle for them, but they should either talk to their neighbours to see if they can leave them more space on the road or have another chat with the landlord about the fence. They’re making this my problem, and I don’t think it’s fair for them to just assume they can use my drive forever. It’s not a shared drive btw. They’re just next to each other, similar to new build estates.

Am I being unreasonable / petty, or are they taking the piss? I’ve attached a diagram. The black squiggles are cars, and the red one is my neighbours car crossing over my drive to get to hers.

Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?
OP posts:
MrsJeanLuc · 28/01/2026 20:10

Esthai · 28/01/2026 19:45

If I was your neighbour and you were making a fuss about this, I'd think you were loopy. I'd roll my eyes, and ignore you. If you were otherwise nice, I might make minor effort to avoid driving over your drive, while turning your fussiness into an slightly amusing anecdote about "aren't people weird".

Life is just too short to get hung up about something like this.

Definitely you are being unreasonable

Thank goodness you're not my neighbour! It's absolutely not ok to drive over someone else's land without asking.

If another neighbour is blocking their drive then they need to deal with that.

Okiedokie123 · 28/01/2026 20:10

Could you maybe put a big heavy planter in the way?
I dont understand why various people on the thread have said yabu to be annoyed - Im fairly sure they would feel as you do if it was their own drive.

Mean of the landlord not to pay for the drive seeing as its his house you've improved by paying for it yourself.

TheMimsy · 28/01/2026 20:10

@9champions what about some massive heavy weighted planters spaced out down the drive on your side?

Or ring door bell and park your car at entrance of drive.

If she clips you it’s on camera.

If you have a car camera any bumps should trigger the recording device as well.

if they have a problem with their neighbours parking - they need to resolve it with them.

ACynicalDad · 28/01/2026 20:08

Why does it matter, are they doing damage to your car/drive? Just leave your bin on the corner of your drive if you need to make the point, but I'd let that go

NoWordForFluffy · 28/01/2026 20:05

MrsJeanLuc · 28/01/2026 19:59

Potentially yes. It could be seen as granting your neighbour right of way over your land. Your NDN should pay for their own dropped kerb.

I'm surprised more people aren't even considering this.

SomedayIllBeSaturdayNight · 28/01/2026 20:02

I mean, who could really care about something this minor? The wear and tear she is causing must be absolutely minimal.
I doubt I'd even notice she was doing it TBH.

AgnesMcDoo · 28/01/2026 20:01

9champions · 28/01/2026 19:42

Thank you

Don't you think it would be neighbourly to ask first instead of just assuming it's okay though? My response might have been different tbh. I mean, good manners don't cost anything.

Yes it would have been polite to ask. But then most people wouldn’t think this was an issue.

spending money, creating obstacles, getting wound up - all just seems an overreaction to nothing.

Mapletree1985 · 28/01/2026 20:00

Aside from the fact that they are using your drive, which doesn't belong to them, what problem or issues does it create for you that they are using your drive?

MrsJeanLuc · 28/01/2026 19:59

Pollqueen · 28/01/2026 18:57

I seriously can't see the problem. I have a dropped kerb and drive but my neighbour doesn't have a dropped kerb so drives slightly across my drive to get onto hers (used to be grassed, now paved over). This has never, ever occurred to me as being a problem. Am I missing something?

Potentially yes. It could be seen as granting your neighbour right of way over your land. Your NDN should pay for their own dropped kerb.

Pudmyboy · 28/01/2026 19:57

Just wanted to say, great diagram @9champions , for once I can understand what is going on, nice labelling too.
I think, it's your drive, so do what works for you. The other neighbour who is obstructing their parking is the one at fault and the one they need to speak to.

SandAndSea · 28/01/2026 19:56

Could you fence it off using rope? I imagine this would be cheaper than a wooden fence.

Has anyone suggested penguin bollards yet?

Evaporateandlisten · 28/01/2026 19:46

Can you put some potted plants out?

Or stick your bin there (not as pretty).

OneKhakiFish · 28/01/2026 19:46

I've seen large boulders on the edge of people's drives to stop others from driving over it, can see how it would be annoying if they could easily get a dropped kerb

Esthai · 28/01/2026 19:45

If I was your neighbour and you were making a fuss about this, I'd think you were loopy. I'd roll my eyes, and ignore you. If you were otherwise nice, I might make minor effort to avoid driving over your drive, while turning your fussiness into an slightly amusing anecdote about "aren't people weird".

Life is just too short to get hung up about something like this.

Definitely you are being unreasonable

HelplessSoul · 28/01/2026 19:45

NoSoupForU · 28/01/2026 19:38

What potential drive damage? I'm not sure I've ever experienced drive damage from someone driving over the edge of the driveway.

Edges are what fail first due to repeat traffic on it, regardless of surface type.

Constant use of that edge, which has little support will cause degradation - and it will be the OP who has to foot the bill at the expense of the NDN.

BotterMon · 28/01/2026 19:44

Just leave your car further down your driveway so they don't have enough space to get to theirs.

9champions · 28/01/2026 19:42

AgnesMcDoo · 28/01/2026 19:36

What harm are they doing?

you are being precious and unneighbourly

but you get points for an excellent diagram 👌

Edited

Thank you

Don't you think it would be neighbourly to ask first instead of just assuming it's okay though? My response might have been different tbh. I mean, good manners don't cost anything.

OP posts:
NoSoupForU · 28/01/2026 19:38

What potential drive damage? I'm not sure I've ever experienced drive damage from someone driving over the edge of the driveway.

9champions · 28/01/2026 19:38

MID50s · 28/01/2026 19:18

Can you not park your car as far back as possible on the drive and then she won’t be able to drive over it?

I've done that a few times, but she still manages to get through somehow. I'm worried she might bump into my car while trying to cross if I park right at the top. I’ll just have to go for it and see what happens.

OP posts:
TheNoonBell · 28/01/2026 19:38

Just park on the end of your drive. Problem solved.

Butterflyarms · 28/01/2026 19:37

Just tell them they are not welcome to drive across your drive and if that's an issue they need to speak to the other neighbours.

billiongulls · 28/01/2026 19:37

This would not bother me even slightly. The wear and tear would be so so minimal, time and weather is what does the damage.

BlueMum16 · 28/01/2026 19:36

9champions · 28/01/2026 19:33

Thanks. I think it’s easy to say that when you're not the one footing the bill for the work or any potential damages though

If you WFH and this is bugging you just park your car in her way further on your drive.

To be honest it'd annoy me over time. My neighbours park and exit their car onto my lawn. They had a camper van for a while and loaded and unloaded it all across my lawn. All the visitors came to see it too and you guessed it, stood talking on my lawn.

If I could have set up the sprinkler I would have 🤣

AgnesMcDoo · 28/01/2026 19:36

What harm are they doing?

you are being precious and unneighbourly

but you get points for an excellent diagram 👌

somanychristmaslights · 28/01/2026 19:35

If it bothers you, park you car down the end of the drive so it’s in the way of them doing it. But honestly, how much “wear and tear” is actually going to happen from driving over it for 2 seconds a day. You’re being a little ridiculous.

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