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Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?

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9champions · 28/01/2026 18:50

I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway, but I’ve recently noticed that my neighbour is using my drive to get to hers. I’m not sure if she’s always done this as I’ve only just noticed. Last week, I caught her in the act while I was outside sorting the bins, and I think she was surprised to see me. I talked to her on Sunday and politely asked if she could stop, but she said it’s difficult for her because her neighbours car sticks out into the space in front of her house, which makes her partners van hang over their drive, so she can’t get in and out without driving over mine.

They can’t park the van on the drive and the car on the street because there’s a fence between our driveways, and the van is too big to fit with the fence there. It’s their fence, on their boundary line btw. I suggested they take it down, but they’re tenants and don’t want to pay for it, which is understandable. Apparently, they asked the landlord a few months back if he would remove it, and he said he was fine with it being taken down, but he wouldn’t cover the cost.

I was thinking about putting up my own fence to stop them, but my drive is already pretty narrow, and then there's the cost involved. I know I could just pay to have theirs taken down, but should I really have to fork out money just to make them stop using my drive? I know it’s a hassle for them, but they should either talk to their neighbours to see if they can leave them more space on the road or have another chat with the landlord about the fence. They’re making this my problem, and I don’t think it’s fair for them to just assume they can use my drive forever. It’s not a shared drive btw. They’re just next to each other, similar to new build estates.

Am I being unreasonable / petty, or are they taking the piss? I’ve attached a diagram. The black squiggles are cars, and the red one is my neighbours car crossing over my drive to get to hers.

Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?
OP posts:
Currentskin · 28/01/2026 20:38

So you think this might have been going on for 4 years but only now you’ve noticed?

HappiestSleeping · 28/01/2026 20:37

@9champions Just extend the fence (green line in your diagram) to the boundary.

I completely get that it drives you nuts. My neighbour does this to me.

In the great cosmic oneness, it is not really important, but by the same token, why should I maintain something because my neighbours can't use the steering wheel?

ETA my neighbours are actually lovely, so I am learning to get over my unreasonable attitude.

Inertia · 28/01/2026 20:36

I’m genuinely astonished by the number of people who wouldn’t care.

It will become a problem if she uses the drive for access for long enough to claim right of way over it.

The driveway wasn’t installed with a design allowing it to be repeatedly driven over at that edge- if there’s any variation in levels, the driveway is more likely to crack from that edge.

Neighbour has turned her problem into your problem. I would install fences.

9champions · 28/01/2026 20:34

Knitterofcrap · 28/01/2026 20:29

I agree with PP. Can’t you just put some big plant pots down the edge @9champions? That would stop it.

Otherwise it’s a fence. You know what they say, “good fences make good neighbours”

I’m going to try this, will pop to the shops over the weekend and get some. The rubbish bin is due to be collected tomorrow so I’m going to put it at the top of the drive tonight and see if she moves it.

OP posts:
Brahumbug · 28/01/2026 20:34

Jesus wept! Some of the replies on this thread🙄. Leaving aside the wear and tear issue, there is the possibility of other damage to the OP property. But the biggest concern is that eventually she can establish a legal right to cross the land by prescription. Such a burden on the servient tenement can affect its value negatively. Absolutely put an end to it now.

MrsLizzieDarcy · 28/01/2026 20:32

Her issue is with the other neighbours but instead she's using you to solve it. And possibly damaging your drive edge in the process.

We've had terrible issues at work with people using our parking spaces and we got some metal bollards and chains to put a stop to it. To be fair, in your case, I would get some nice new planters for spring and line them from your fence to the bottom of your driveway. Just half fill them with cement so they're not easy to move!

9champions · 28/01/2026 20:32

Esthai · 28/01/2026 19:45

If I was your neighbour and you were making a fuss about this, I'd think you were loopy. I'd roll my eyes, and ignore you. If you were otherwise nice, I might make minor effort to avoid driving over your drive, while turning your fussiness into an slightly amusing anecdote about "aren't people weird".

Life is just too short to get hung up about something like this.

Definitely you are being unreasonable

They haven't always been the best neighbours. We’ve never had a falling out or anything, but she was awkward when I got the drive fixed. For a few weeks, I had to park on the street outside my house, and she kept taking the spot while her drive just sat empty. Yes, it’s a public road and she has every right to park there, which is why I didn’t say anything, but I had no other place to park except further down the road. Meanwhile, both of their cars were on the street while her drive was just sitting there unused. It was really strange, especially since she only started parking there after I did. Then once my drive was finished and I was parking there, she stopped. So, I know it might look like I’m being a bit odd and unfriendly, but honestly, they haven’t been helpful or accommodating either

OP posts:
OtherS · 28/01/2026 20:32

I can't imagine caring about this. And I get annoyed at pretty much anything. Providing it's not a monster truck, I really don't think it's going to noticeably shorten the life of the drive.

k1233 · 28/01/2026 20:32

AgnesMcDoo · 28/01/2026 19:36

What harm are they doing?

you are being precious and unneighbourly

but you get points for an excellent diagram 👌

Edited

Driveway edges aren't designed for frequent load bearing. Over time they are at risk of cracking and crumbling if driven over on a daily basis. As @9champions the neighbours won't pay to fix it if that happens.

@9champions I'd block the route with a fence. Your neighbour needs to take it up with the person causing them issues, not just drive over your driveway.

Knitterofcrap · 28/01/2026 20:29

I agree with PP. Can’t you just put some big plant pots down the edge @9champions? That would stop it.

Otherwise it’s a fence. You know what they say, “good fences make good neighbours”

TeenLifeMum · 28/01/2026 20:27

Pollqueen · 28/01/2026 19:30

A normal sized car driving across tarmac a couple of times a day will cause little to no wear and tear

We have a drive but there’s a shared bit we go over as does our neighbour. The shared bit is significantly more worn than our own bit. In a year it’s nothing, in 5 years it’s not insurmountable.

LetRip · 28/01/2026 20:26

Planters all along to the end of your drive, running down the boundary line 👍 If it’s questioned you tell them it’s your property and boundary and you won’t be moving them, they need to sort out the issue with the van

P0loGirl · 28/01/2026 20:25

It’s your property.

End of.

ColadhSamh · 28/01/2026 20:24

9champions · 28/01/2026 19:33

Thanks. I think it’s easy to say that when you're not the one footing the bill for the work or any potential damages though

Exactly. Presumably the neighbour has to drive across your area at an angle at some point. This over time and regular use will create friction and damage to the surface. Those replying who think it won't cause damage could maybe explain how road surfaces are eroded or pot holes occur?

She doesn't really care does she as she has more or less ignored your request. There is of course the added possibility of creating a right of way.

665theneighborofthebeast · 28/01/2026 20:24

Piss on it. Whilst maintaining eye contact. So she'll know its yours.

Olderbutt · 28/01/2026 20:23

Our neighbours ( well their visitors and deliveries) do this to our drive. Tbh we aren't bothered as they are so lovely. If someone started parking there that might be a different matter

Elderlycatparent002 · 28/01/2026 20:23

9champions · 28/01/2026 18:59

What do you mean, is it affecting me? It’s my drive that I paid a lot of money for I guess? Would you want random people using your drive every day? If (and I know that it’s a big if) they damaged it or something, how would I prove that? I seriously doubt they’d own up to it or pay for it.

I just cannot understand your point of view. We live in a semi and our next door neighbour often drives partially over our drive to get to her drive because it makes the turning circle easier. Honestly I couldn’t care less. She isn’t parking on our drive. Just driving over it a bit. I’d be annoyed if loads of people did it outside my window, but my neighbour doing it a couple of times a day is no big deal.

LJ125 · 28/01/2026 20:21

This would only be after 20 years of uninterrupted use so it’s not a meaningful risk and absolutely does not justify the expense of getting lawyers involved now!!

SumTingWongwithme · 28/01/2026 20:21

JanuaryJasmine · 28/01/2026 19:06

its just a car (not a tow truck or something), so if they are otherwise nice neighbours it wouldn't bother me. If they were shitty neighbours I'd put concrete planters or something in their way 💁🏻‍♀️

Good for you but it bothers OP and it is her land.

OP they are totally cheeky, I would never dream of doing this. Deffo go with the planters to stop them. You are right damage can be done over time.

AffableApple · 28/01/2026 20:20

Pollqueen · 28/01/2026 19:08

That's exactly what I said. They have a paved garden, i.e. drive. I have a dropped kerb which they cut across to access their driveway. Couple of times a day in a car, not an arctic so doesn't bother me in the slightest.

I'd rather have good relations with my neighbour than cause a fuss about someone inconsequential

Not a drive. A paved front garden.

If you moved he'd have no access by car. It would be unusable for parking.

No idea how gaining permanent right of way works legally after a length of use, but I'm not sure giving access like this is a good idea.

LJ125 · 28/01/2026 20:19

So she’s driving over the bottom corner of your driveway to access her own driveway? I just couldn’t get worked up about that. Be realistic, what possible damage is it going to do apart from the potential for some minor wear and tear in the much longer term. This just would not be a big deal at all to me and I would not consider it worth making a fuss about 🤷‍♀️

MargotMoon · 28/01/2026 20:17

9champions · 28/01/2026 19:15

It's the extra wear and tear that’s annoys me, as they haven't pitched in towards any of the costs. As far as I’m aware she goes out every day. I work from home, so my car hardly moves. I find it a bit strange that her first instinct was to use my drive instead of asking her neighbour if they could leave a bit more space?

It's not that I dislike them. I barely know them aside from the occasional hello. They were a bit awkward when I had the drive fixed. I had to park on the street outside my house for a few weeks, and she kept parking there and leaving her own drive empty, which forced me to park further down the street. Of course, I couldn't stop her as it's a public road, but it honestly didn't make any sense. So maybe this is clouding my judgment and making me wonder why I should do them any favours.

Well presumably she kept parking there because she was too wet to ask the other neighbour to stop parking over her own drive, or did ask them and they ignored her. Either way it doesn’t sound like she likes confrontation so if you really don’t like it just ask her to stop and then take it from there?

I wouldn’t tell her she’s being a fucking cunt though, that PP sounds completely unhinged.

BlueRedCat · 28/01/2026 20:15

If I got on super well with my neighbours then I’d be ok with it but I wouldn’t be happy if I barely knew them. It’s honestly a bit weird- I’d never dream of doing it, certainly at the very least I’d ask first and respect if they said no.

i would invest in come heavy planters myself if there is enough room.

Crazylittleworld · 28/01/2026 20:15

Get some planters or park further up so she can’t come as close. It would piss me off.
cheaper for them to have a conversation with their neighbour firstly, or they can remove the fence OR contribute towards your driveway repairs!
CF at their finest. I hate the entitlement of people.

ProudWomanXX · 28/01/2026 20:12

What they are doing is potentially creating a right of access across YOUR land.

No wonder their Landlord isn't bothered!

Get a solicitor to write a letter to the ND and cc the LL, telling them to stop.

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