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Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?

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9champions · 28/01/2026 18:50

I’ve lived in my house for almost 4 years now, and I had a new drive put in last year, which cost a fair bit. Parking on my street isn’t great anyway, but I’ve recently noticed that my neighbour is using my drive to get to hers. I’m not sure if she’s always done this as I’ve only just noticed. Last week, I caught her in the act while I was outside sorting the bins, and I think she was surprised to see me. I talked to her on Sunday and politely asked if she could stop, but she said it’s difficult for her because her neighbours car sticks out into the space in front of her house, which makes her partners van hang over their drive, so she can’t get in and out without driving over mine.

They can’t park the van on the drive and the car on the street because there’s a fence between our driveways, and the van is too big to fit with the fence there. It’s their fence, on their boundary line btw. I suggested they take it down, but they’re tenants and don’t want to pay for it, which is understandable. Apparently, they asked the landlord a few months back if he would remove it, and he said he was fine with it being taken down, but he wouldn’t cover the cost.

I was thinking about putting up my own fence to stop them, but my drive is already pretty narrow, and then there's the cost involved. I know I could just pay to have theirs taken down, but should I really have to fork out money just to make them stop using my drive? I know it’s a hassle for them, but they should either talk to their neighbours to see if they can leave them more space on the road or have another chat with the landlord about the fence. They’re making this my problem, and I don’t think it’s fair for them to just assume they can use my drive forever. It’s not a shared drive btw. They’re just next to each other, similar to new build estates.

Am I being unreasonable / petty, or are they taking the piss? I’ve attached a diagram. The black squiggles are cars, and the red one is my neighbours car crossing over my drive to get to hers.

Neighbour using my drive, landlord won’t help. What can I do?
OP posts:
Gloriia · 28/01/2026 20:57

NoSoupForU · 28/01/2026 20:52

But it isn't constant use. It might take about a week off the overall life of the drive.

Neighbours shouldn't access their own property via someone else's. There are strict boundary rules to stop people taking the piss. There is not a chance I'd let folk wander or drive over our property. Once or twice yes if work was being done, not on a daily basis.
Some people on here are doormats!

IAmAHomewardBounder · 28/01/2026 20:57

Can you park your car over that bit of the driveway?

9champions · 28/01/2026 20:56

TheMostHolySunflower · 28/01/2026 20:48

She might not have parked on her drive whilst you were getting yours done in order to provide space for the drive to be done or because she was worried about damage done to her car whilst it was being done. I would have spoken to her politely to ask her reasoning on this at the time.

Instead you're now resentful and upset about someone cutting over your driveway for a few seconds every day in a sort of post-event frustration at how they were parking before.

BUT I agree if you don't want it happening, then block it. She should have a word with the van owner and/or get a dropped curb installed as a result.

Yes I agree that this is likely affecting my judgment. I don’t see why I should do them any favours really. The van driver is her partner by the way, he’s parking slightly over their drive as their neighbours car overhangs the space on the road. They already have a dropped curb.

OP posts:
LetRip · 28/01/2026 20:55

9champions · 28/01/2026 20:32

They haven't always been the best neighbours. We’ve never had a falling out or anything, but she was awkward when I got the drive fixed. For a few weeks, I had to park on the street outside my house, and she kept taking the spot while her drive just sat empty. Yes, it’s a public road and she has every right to park there, which is why I didn’t say anything, but I had no other place to park except further down the road. Meanwhile, both of their cars were on the street while her drive was just sitting there unused. It was really strange, especially since she only started parking there after I did. Then once my drive was finished and I was parking there, she stopped. So, I know it might look like I’m being a bit odd and unfriendly, but honestly, they haven’t been helpful or accommodating either

Just curious, was there a chance that she was not parking on her driveway and using the public space instead because she couldn’t access her own driveway without driving over the corner of your driveway while it was being worked on?

Happyher · 28/01/2026 20:54

Does NDN have a proper drive. If they’re using it to park a car they have to have a dropped kerb. Report it to the council. If they’re using landlord is renting the property as having a drive he will have to pay for a dropped kerb

NoSoupForU · 28/01/2026 20:52

HelplessSoul · 28/01/2026 19:45

Edges are what fail first due to repeat traffic on it, regardless of surface type.

Constant use of that edge, which has little support will cause degradation - and it will be the OP who has to foot the bill at the expense of the NDN.

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But it isn't constant use. It might take about a week off the overall life of the drive.

Gloriia · 28/01/2026 20:52

Happyher · 28/01/2026 20:51

You’re in danger of giving them right of way across your property if they do it for long enough.

Exactly . Stop it now before they apply for permanent right of way.

latetothefisting · 28/01/2026 20:52

is the green line the fence that is there already? If so, I don't see how continuing it slightly further would make your drive narrower than it is already - if you're so against her driving on your drive then presumably you are never putting a wheel over into hers anyway, so it wouldn't negative impact you at all?

in any case it doesn't need to be a full size fence, just anything big enough to stop her driving over it - a few bricks/your bin/flower pots etc would all do the job if it annoys you that much although personally I can't see why it bothers you.

Happyher · 28/01/2026 20:51

Pollqueen · 28/01/2026 18:57

I seriously can't see the problem. I have a dropped kerb and drive but my neighbour doesn't have a dropped kerb so drives slightly across my drive to get onto hers (used to be grassed, now paved over). This has never, ever occurred to me as being a problem. Am I missing something?

You’re in danger of giving them right of way across your property if they do it for long enough.

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 20:50

9champions · 28/01/2026 20:44

I have no idea how long she’s done it for. I only noticed it a couple of weeks ago as I was standing by the window when she came home, and then I saw her again when I was down the side of the house sorting the bins out. The drive was wrecked before I had it repaired, so it wouldn’t have bothered me back then and I probably wouldn’t have noticed any damage either, but now that I've spent a lot of money on a new one, it does 🤷🏼‍♀️

How long have you been neighbours for?

Gloriia · 28/01/2026 20:50

It isn't ok for them use your driveway to access their own. As others have said block it with concrete planters though tbh fencing isn't too costly and as you say it would prevent excess wear and tear to your new drive.

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WatalotIgot · 28/01/2026 20:50

2026new · 28/01/2026 18:52

Im confused. Does this actually make any difference to you ?

Of course it does: Wear and tear on their property. Also what happens if there is an accident on OP's property damaging their car, drive or house?

9champions · 28/01/2026 20:49

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 28/01/2026 20:43

They probably didn't ask because you don't sound very neighbourly and they also thought driving over your drive for 2 seconds wouldn't bother you.
I can't see why it bothers you. They haven't caused any damage and it is not going to add any noticeable wear and tear. Of course you can put a fence or whatever but it sounds a load of pointless drama.

I’m not sure where you got that idea. I've always been friendly towards them, said hi, and kept it polite, even when they were being awkward about parking last year. I was still polite when I asked if they could stop using my drive.

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TheMostHolySunflower · 28/01/2026 20:48

She might not have parked on her drive whilst you were getting yours done in order to provide space for the drive to be done or because she was worried about damage done to her car whilst it was being done. I would have spoken to her politely to ask her reasoning on this at the time.

Instead you're now resentful and upset about someone cutting over your driveway for a few seconds every day in a sort of post-event frustration at how they were parking before.

BUT I agree if you don't want it happening, then block it. She should have a word with the van owner and/or get a dropped curb installed as a result.

9champions · 28/01/2026 20:44

Currentskin · 28/01/2026 20:38

So you think this might have been going on for 4 years but only now you’ve noticed?

I have no idea how long she’s done it for. I only noticed it a couple of weeks ago as I was standing by the window when she came home, and then I saw her again when I was down the side of the house sorting the bins out. The drive was wrecked before I had it repaired, so it wouldn’t have bothered me back then and I probably wouldn’t have noticed any damage either, but now that I've spent a lot of money on a new one, it does 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Vaxtable · 28/01/2026 20:44

Lindy2 · 28/01/2026 20:40

So she briefly drives over the corner of your drive to get to hers.

No blocking in, no overhanging, no actual inconvenience to you. Your drive isn't going to wear away or be damaged by this. It's a car driving on a drive not a tank or a hgv.

Why should anyone drive over anyone else’s property? Are you really saying you would be happy if your neighbour did this all the time? Edges are likely to get worn very quickly and damage caused
why should the Op be inconvenienced when there is an answer the neighbour just won’t pay for it?

NiftyAmberHam · 28/01/2026 20:43

Ohhhhhh. I do that. At my in laws house. I drive over the neighbours driveway to get into theirs. I’ve never thought about it being an issue - I don’t think I could get into the driveway if I didn’t. They haven’t said anything. But maybe I should say something??

Stressedoutmummyof3 · 28/01/2026 20:43

They probably didn't ask because you don't sound very neighbourly and they also thought driving over your drive for 2 seconds wouldn't bother you.
I can't see why it bothers you. They haven't caused any damage and it is not going to add any noticeable wear and tear. Of course you can put a fence or whatever but it sounds a load of pointless drama.

Vaxtable · 28/01/2026 20:42

2026new · 28/01/2026 18:52

Im confused. Does this actually make any difference to you ?

What about the drive getting damaged where she is crossing it? And why should someone cross someone else’s land when there is a answer to the problem they just won’t pay for it!

Op can park your car further down your drive so she can’t cut across. That’s what I would on

carnivalqueenthethird · 28/01/2026 20:42

Lindy2 · 28/01/2026 20:40

So she briefly drives over the corner of your drive to get to hers.

No blocking in, no overhanging, no actual inconvenience to you. Your drive isn't going to wear away or be damaged by this. It's a car driving on a drive not a tank or a hgv.

It absolutely will get damaged if there is a difference in levels - ie one is lower than the other, because the corners will become a weak spot.

Lindy2 · 28/01/2026 20:40

So she briefly drives over the corner of your drive to get to hers.

No blocking in, no overhanging, no actual inconvenience to you. Your drive isn't going to wear away or be damaged by this. It's a car driving on a drive not a tank or a hgv.

Konstantine8364 · 28/01/2026 20:40

Gosh I think you're completely mental 🤣 if you've paved your drive with something that can't be driven on, that's insane and if you are worrying about normal use of a drive by a car, presumably once or twice a day, I don't think that should damage anything. Get a grip and find something else to worry about 🤣

Londonrach1 · 28/01/2026 20:40

Planters

carnivalqueenthethird · 28/01/2026 20:39

I absolutely would not be putting up with this. Not your issue your neighbours are living in a house that doesn’t have a drive big enough to fit their vehicles. Not your issue your neighbour chooses to block their own driveway. One of my neighbours illegally sublets rents their garage to a gardening company and the damage the constant back and forwards has done to the shared drive is disgusting. Obviously the company aren’t going to pay and the neighbour won’t either, so I’m left with a crumbling driveway that is getting worse every day!

I would ask them politely again to stop doing it and if they don’t install a concrete post on the corner.

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