Male / Female split of tasks in your relationship?

I do shopping, washing and driving. DH does cooking, dishes and hoovering. I clean bathrooms and he cleans kitchen. We both muck in with anything else usually.

DH does: laundry, most of the weekday cooking, school drop off, bins (obvs). Holidays booking and packing are all his happy place.

I work longer hours/earn more and do all the financial, school admin, school pick ups, most cooking except for weeknight dinners.

We have a cleaner.

We split: food shopping, anything to do with DC, household maintenance is split along a weird unspoken rules (I always do flat pack furniture, set up electronic equipment / internet etc., he fixes and mends things and does all the gardening).

We have quite traditional roles in some sense (eg I do all the school/kid admin, book holidays, help with homework, do the garden and he deals with everything to do with the car/DIY/most of the money stuff) but then I’ve always been the main breadwinner and he works part time so he does the food shop, most of the laundry and ironing and more cleaning. Cooking we both enjoy so that’s fairly equal. It works for us - we play to our strengths - although I would gladly swap a 50hr work week for laundry and shopping, it’s just never worked out like that.

It has varied over the years, but we do tend to have jobs that I do and jobs that he does, mainly because one of us doesn't mind, or actively enjoys some jobs, whereas the other dislikes or actively hats some jobs.
These aren't necessarily jobs that were historically done by men or women therefore that's what we do divisions though.

I do the cooking and laundry. He does cars and bins.

We do more or less everything else together. Especially DIY. We've both been the DIYers in our previous relationships so we get things done fast (albeit with a few 'discussions' about preferred ways of doing them occasionally.)

But if he sees something needs doing, he does it, same as I do.

Some ‘traditionally male’ jobs DH does because he has the time and skills. But equally, because he is self employed and WFH (well, has a workshop at home) he can also do a lot of the ‘traditionally female’ jobs like cleaning, laundry and washing up. Whereas I’m out 8.30-5.30 most days. I do a lot of the school admin type stuff because I can bash off emails from work and understand more of the SEN stuff than him because I work in a related field. So I guess that’s a bit ‘traditionally female’.

I do nearly all the cleaning and cooking, but DH also earns all of the money. We split kid related stuff 60/40 (me 40) when he’s at home. We have a cleaner who does all of the deep cleaning stuff so I’m just keeping on top of things really. He does all life admin, like sorting out bills etc. We have a gardener so don’t need to think about that. I do all laundry unless he wants something washing urgently and it isn’t my day to wash that kind of item (e.g. i do whites on a monday, so if he needs something white washing on a Wednesday he’ll do that). DIY he organises because he can’t do it and I don’t want to.

I do cooking, electrical diy, finances, online food shop, and jet washing. Husband does cat litter, bins, cleaning up after dinner, carpentry diy, kids appointments and school stuff (and any sports activities). We both do washing, gardening, little cleans between the cleaner coming around, and we share school drop offs and pick ups. Works for us!

Option C..I do way more of both pink and blue jobs. I do the bins, garden, power wash the car...

He does more of the school runs (this includes getting the child up and ready which can be painful) as I'm gone earlier.

I do anything that involves a disgust element as DH vomits easily. So i get litter trays, dog poo bags, toilet cleaning, emptying the bins, blocked drains.

He does anything that involves heavy lifting as I had an injury that makes lifting hard.

He actually built half the house and I did decorating and made tea. I felt very trad wife when he did electrics, pipework, roofing, flooring, fitted kitchens and i just didnt have the strength so did painting and tiling and passed stuff.

Apart from that is pretty much whoever spots it needs doing.

We don't really have assigned jobs. He will deal with car stuff because I don't drive.
I do more of the daily house tasks because I work part time, but if he's WFH he'll empty the dishwasher or whatever.
Currently we have a gardener but I used to to it (and will be doing again soon)
DIY we usually do together but he is absolutely in charge of the drill as I am too clumsy and don't trust myself!

We have blue jobs and pink jobs for sure. Works for us. eg I breastfeed the baby. He takes out the bins and changes the light bulbs and fixes things.
we both collaborate with cooking -currently I do most cooking since I’m at home more- we both do children’s bedtimes. I do most (99%) of the clothes laundry, he washes the cars and fills them with petrol, pumps tyres, mows lawn, gardening, and gross things like he collects any mice the cats bring back …

DH does most stuff especially the bins, laundry and dishwasher

Ours is quite traditional but I have a scoliosis of the spine so have had a lifetime of not doing heavy stuff especially pushing. Never mowed a lawn in my life for instance. I can do lighter DIY and have repaired a leaking sink and put together small flat pack furniture. DH can cook but I’m a decent cook who though not formally trained worked in kitchens as a teenager.

Very much the same here. He cooks & does grocery shopping, I clean and do the laundry. I let him think he's the expert on using the drill, and he's in charge of the car and the lawn. He cleans the bath (when asked) because it does my back in.
He works full time, I work part-time, both from home. That may be changing, but I suspect division of chores will stay the same as that's what suits us.
When DD was younger, I did the bulk of daytime childcare, evenings/weekends were fairly evenly split. I did have the bulk of the mental load on that, but I think it's fairly inevitable that one person keeps track of everything to avoid anything being forgotten.

We're probably stereotypical for some jobs, not others. I also work from home full time which I think skews things as I am 'available' in the home while my husband leaves at 7 and is home for 5.

I do
all cooking
food shopping (usually go with the kids)
probably 70% dishwasher
all laundry - wash, dry, put away.

He does
all cleaning - I don't touch it
daily tidying of kids toys etc
rubbish out to bins
about 30% dishwasher

I also do the majority of childcare as in school/nursery drop offs, all family admin like booking clubs, taking kids to appointments etc.

In his defence though he works 40 minutes away, if a kid had a dr appointment in the middle of the day he would have to take a day A/L whereas I can just take an hour's flexi time.

We're also doing up our house and he does the majority of any DIY, but it's me that will book tradesmen etc.

Ours is kind of along classic lines to an extent, we have tasks we each typically do.

He does DIY and bins. I do cooking and food shopping. Gardening, he does all the heavy/hardwork jobs, I do the lighter stuff.

But he does all laundry and a much larger proportion of the cleaning because he's a much cleaner and tidier person than me.

He deals with most household finance stuff (but I also have my own account and own business so I deal with that). I deal with nearly everything child related including knowing what's happening when with the kids. He had the kids at home one day a week when they were small though. Now they're teens he'd mostly be inclined to let them get on on their own whereas I am much more involved in their lives, even the eldest who's away at uni. I did all the uni open days and admin.

He earns nearly twice as much as me but our joint account is everything is 'ours'. He doesn't have a separate account all his earnings go into the joint account.

Oh yeah and I nearly always drive and deal with car servicing but he washes the car. I mostly do my own bike maintenance vut he's better at it so sometimes helps.

Me - walk dogs, organise stuff eg garage , clean cars, cook occasionally, stuff that wouldn’t normally get done eg waterproofing wax jackets, most of the DIY or I direct it (!)
him- all school drop offs and pick ups, most of the cleaning , most of the cooking, washing

We have jobs that I do 90% of the time and my partner does 90% of the time and others that are who ever gets to it first.

My partner is incapable of seeing further into the future than about 2 days so I do any jobs that need planning - washing, shopping etc. I'm good at planning and looking ahead so this works. I'm not however very good at things that need doing every day but this is where my partners skill set is.

My partner finds that mess makes him anxious and likes things hidden. I find unorganised cupboards anxiety provoking so he does more tidying but then I do organise the cupboards so it's then easier to keep things tidy as everything has its own space.

For us it's very much about balance and playing to one anothers strengths

Also, no way am I giving away all the stereotypical “blue jobs”! There’s a lot of satisfaction in fixing the problem with the car exhaust and coming in triumphant, covered in grease; or jumping into the brown bin wearing overalls to crush all the sticks and dead leaves down; or hauling a 40kg sack of sand for the duck coop up the hill from B&Q, in a camping trolley.

DH does car maintenance, DIY, most gardening, some cooking, some grocery shopping, some cleaning although not enough, his share of paperwork, most nursery runs, some childcare, about 20% of the mental load (remembering what needs to be bought etc).

I do most cooking, cleaning, shopping, active childcare (as in not turning on cartoons), dressing children / bedtime, all tidying, laundry, driving to activities, organising social life, most of the household mental load.

In practice I am still responsible for more but he is not lazy.

I do:

The vast majority of cooking
The vast majority of kitchen/bathroom cleaning
Most of the Hoovering and dusting
All the gardening
Any minor DIY like assembling a flat pack or putting up a picture, painting and decorating, mending things etc

DP does:

All the laundry - washing, drying, folding, ironing etc
The majority of dishwasher unloading
All the bins
Changes the beds
All the household admin - finances, insurance, bills, sourcing and arranging tradespeople etc, booking gigs/theatre/restaurants etc
All travel/holiday planning, organising, booking etc
All the driving and anything else car related

We never actually made a formal arrangement for this, though. It's just the way it seemed to work out. We can do each other's tasks if necessary, and we do when needed - except for the driving (I can't drive) and the gardening (DP's hayfever is so bad that if he cuts the grass, his eyes swell up, his chest tightens and he gets a rash up his arms).

He cooks and sorts grocery buying
I wash up/ tidy kitchen in the morning/ sort breakfast generally tidy and do light cleaning
I do kids ( pick up/ drop off/ homework / admin / bed time/ bath supervision etc
he does finances/ mortgage/ bills
he does DIY
we have a cleaner who does most of laundry too- but if we didn’t pretty sure that would be me - I keep on top of it a bit as well

We both work full time. and I travel regularly

if needs be I can cook- and do, much to the kids surprise. He can also do the kids stuff.

so it’s generally a bit blue/ pink along classic lines- except for cooking which he does. And me working full time which isn’t typically pink I guess.

We split the chores into my jobs and his jobs but not along traditional gender lines - more in terms of who's best suited to them, whether that's because of skills or logistics.

He does all the cooking because he enjoys it and is amazing at it, whereas I can barely do a decent slice of toast. I wash up and clean the kitchen.

He does all the gardening because... ditto, really. I'm not a practical person. He does DIY too but that's not exactly a frequent chore.

I do the laundry and the bins and most of the hoovering because I WFH.

We are very traditional. It gets a lot of hate, but works well for us. Of course we are completely capable of doing the other's 'job', but we both like knowing day to day what we are doing.