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Can I get toned and muscular without going to the gym

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CocoChunnel · 28/01/2026 11:58

Ive had great results previously when using strength machines at gym but the only gym in my new town is rammed 😒

Ive downloaded the Fiit app on my phone and done 2 workouts with that so far but just wondering - will that be enough to get sculpted?

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DuchessofStaffordshire · 28/01/2026 15:55

RollOnSunshine · 28/01/2026 15:07

A 'toned' body needs you to have 2 things. A reasonable amount of muscle mass and low enough body fat % so that the muscle countours can be seen.

You need to lift weights for the first part and have a good nutrition plan for the second.

Anybody saying you can build muscle just as well with body weight exercise is talking rubbish.

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Not completely true although progressive overload is a key driver of hypertrophy. Body weight exercises can be great if you leverage time under tension, for example. More time under tension = more metabolic stress + muscle fibre recruitment = hypertrophy. TUT is also great for getting a good 'feel' when working out and developing a good mind muscle connection. It's also easier on the joints and allows you to use a lower weight.

NotAnotherScarf · 28/01/2026 15:35

Yes, a few bar bells and a bench aren't expensive (compared to gym membership). You can look online for exercises that suit your goals, exercise when it suits and shower in private!

CocoChunnel · 28/01/2026 15:33

This is great guys thanks so much! Are kettlebells better than dumbbells then?

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FitnessTrainer2020 · 28/01/2026 15:12

CocoChunnel · 28/01/2026 11:58

Ive had great results previously when using strength machines at gym but the only gym in my new town is rammed 😒

Ive downloaded the Fiit app on my phone and done 2 workouts with that so far but just wondering - will that be enough to get sculpted?

Yea sure (I'm a PT). Just get a couple of second hand dumbbell sets, a mat and some resistance bands for home. In a perfect world an exercise bike or similar piece of cardio equipment too. Then follow some decent strength training workouts online and bike in front of the TV. Make sure you do strength training and some decent cardio weekly. Its amazing what you can achieve with bodyweight exercises and the basics of home exercise equipment.

RollOnSunshine · 28/01/2026 15:07

A 'toned' body needs you to have 2 things. A reasonable amount of muscle mass and low enough body fat % so that the muscle countours can be seen.

You need to lift weights for the first part and have a good nutrition plan for the second.

Anybody saying you can build muscle just as well with body weight exercise is talking rubbish.

momager22 · 28/01/2026 14:44

Yes, technically you can get in great shape with fat loss and body weight only exercises.
push ups, squats, ab exercises. Add some weights or a kettlebell for different variations.
Depends on your motivation/ boredom threshold though.

Disturbia81 · 28/01/2026 14:36

Yes I do 30 day shred everyday and my figure is transformed.

Shrinkhole · 28/01/2026 14:34

You can just keep buying bigger weights to progress if it gets too easy. The limitation in the end is often grip strength so get some straps. I think that if people don’t get the results they want with at home work outs it’s often poor diet, lack of consistency or not progressing the weights. I prefer the gym myself because I oddly find it easier to motivate myself to go somewhere to work out than to fit it in at home but many people feel the exact opposite

AwkwardPaws27 · 28/01/2026 14:31

Do you have any park gyms in your local area? Some of our local parks have a free outdoor equipment area, or a circuit of outdoor equipment around the park.

taxguru · 28/01/2026 14:27

Yes, I think you can. I used to be a member of a couple of gyms over the years. A couple of years ago, I bought myself a small set of dumbells and have been very pleased with the result, as I'm now very well toned and got some good muscles. I also walk at least 10k steps per day which helps the lower body of course. It's amazing what exercises you can make up with just dumbells - I have managed to recreate most of the exercises I used to do in the gym using their purpose built weight machines.

Shrinkhole · 28/01/2026 14:23

You do see a lot of people cheating a leg press by doing a really partial range of motion. I have been amazed myself when I thought a weight was easy but my PT came along and adjusted the seat a bit and suddenly it got much harder! Free weight exercises are much more functional as well ie they mimic stuff you do in real life like picking up shopping bags and kids

Minjou · 28/01/2026 14:14

Notimeforaname · 28/01/2026 12:16

Pilates!! 5 minutes a day. Lots of vids on YouTube

Nothing will get you sculpted in five minutes a day

SpaceRaccoon · 28/01/2026 14:01

ShawnaMacallister · 28/01/2026 13:23

You won't look sculpted if you have excess body fat and exercise won't help with that. Just saying.

This is true. Abs are made in the kitchen and all that.

DuchessofStaffordshire · 28/01/2026 13:35

Shrinkhole · 28/01/2026 13:16

Machines are more pleasant cos they are easier which is not what you want when building muscle. You want time under tension and for the last few reps to feel really difficult.

They often do not encourage correct form because they aren’t adjustable enough for all bodies and are largely designed for men. The weight increments are often too high to easily progress.

Learn to do free weights and you’ll never look back. A set of dumbbells and ideally some kettlebells and a pull up bar would be great at home. That’s what I had in the pandemic with gyms closed

Yeah, I'd largely agree with this. Sounds a bit paradoxical but I tend to recommend previously untrained people avoid the machines to begin with. It's really important to learn proper form when carrying out key movement patterns ie (full depth) squat, hinge, push, pull and press. The leg press definitely will feel more pleasant than a squat in many ways as the squat is pretty much a full body exercise. I use the leg press machine if I really want to blast my quads by loading up the weight and manipulating angles and foot placement but I know how to do this safely and use it as an accessory move alongside other bigger lifts.

ShawnaMacallister · 28/01/2026 13:23

You won't look sculpted if you have excess body fat and exercise won't help with that. Just saying.

TheOtherSide21 · 28/01/2026 13:22

Go an ask your most local farmer / horse yard if you can help them out. You’ll be absolutely hench in no time. My back and shoulders are ridiculous from having horses and I don’t really go near the gym.

Shrinkhole · 28/01/2026 13:16

Machines are more pleasant cos they are easier which is not what you want when building muscle. You want time under tension and for the last few reps to feel really difficult.

They often do not encourage correct form because they aren’t adjustable enough for all bodies and are largely designed for men. The weight increments are often too high to easily progress.

Learn to do free weights and you’ll never look back. A set of dumbbells and ideally some kettlebells and a pull up bar would be great at home. That’s what I had in the pandemic with gyms closed

Ihateboris · 28/01/2026 13:12

Bollihobs · 28/01/2026 13:03

Any you can recommend please? A Youtuber name to have a look at. I have been told Pilates would be great for me but it's just not something I've "got into" as I don't really know a good person to follow.

I like Tracey Mallett

Bollihobs · 28/01/2026 13:03

Notimeforaname · 28/01/2026 12:16

Pilates!! 5 minutes a day. Lots of vids on YouTube

Any you can recommend please? A Youtuber name to have a look at. I have been told Pilates would be great for me but it's just not something I've "got into" as I don't really know a good person to follow.

Sartre · 28/01/2026 12:57

Yes. I won’t go to the gym because I find them incredibly frustrating environments. They’re always rammed, you end up wasting time waiting around for people to finish on equipment, most people seem to be sitting around idly on their phones or gossiping with their friends and I also find the majority have no natural light. There’s two gyms I have attempted to go to where the treadmills face a wall, I just can’t run on the spot looking at a wall.

I now run 3 times a week regardless of weather (only time I won’t if it’s icy for obvious reasons) and I have dumbbells so follow a routine 3 x a week with those. Saving money and just feel better about it.

SpaceRaccoon · 28/01/2026 12:54

Yes. I've built a lot if muscle doing Caroline Girvan. I've also spent a hideous amount on weights but at least no monthly gym costs.

Ihateboris · 28/01/2026 12:54

Notimeforaname · 28/01/2026 12:16

Pilates!! 5 minutes a day. Lots of vids on YouTube

Second this!!

Ihateboris · 28/01/2026 12:53

I never go to the gym. I do a mixture of ballet barre, pilates, yoga and treadmill running and I'm really toned. People automatically i assume i lift weights, which I don't. I'm 55.

LiveLaughGoblin · 28/01/2026 12:50

I trained with a couple of dumbbells and a kettlebell all through lockdown using FIIT type classes (having been a gym fiend) and I stayed really fit - so yes totally doable!

The weight needs to be challenging though and you need to push yourself, which is harder without anyone watching.