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Father crashing about kitchen every time I try to settle baby

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GooglieWooglyWooglyWooglyWoo · 28/01/2026 09:57

I'm currently on my first family holiday and I'm at my wits end. My son is teething poor bubba and being very whiney as a result, and we are currently in a thin-walled accommodation with my husband, mum and dad. Every time I have tried to settle him, such as yesterday evening, when my husband and I wanted to go out, my dad has crashed about the kitchen making coffee and waking him up over and over again. His only response is "I didn't think he could hear" when I've asked him, told him, begged him over the past 3 days to just give us those 10 minutes of silence. He did it 5 times, every single time I was settling him until I was in tears. And he's done it again this morning a minute after I walked into the room and announced I was settling the baby and needed some silence and they said okay. He went and made himself a fucking cup of coffee, and when I came out and asked him why he said "because I needed one". What can I do, as I'm being worn down and I can't get any peace and my baby isn't getting his proper naps. I'm so angry with him and I've told him off but he doesn't care. I feel so disregarded and unheard and my mum just makes excuses for him and plays Switzerland. It was always like this as a child too, where I was completely unheard, and it's bringing me back. We weren't even able to go out yesterday as I was so exhausted from hours of settling attempts. How can I get through the rest of the week??

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Butterflysunshine01 · 28/01/2026 10:11

White noise up loud on your phone? can baby usually nap in loud places? I actually became more relaxed about loud noises during nap time the older he got as I realised I was stressing myself out for quiet, when really having lots of background noise helped him drop off.

yeesh · 28/01/2026 10:05

Can you just go home? Don’t ever go away again with them. If this was like your childhood then they won’t be any better with your child, you need to start thinking about the future and how you are going to allow your child to be treated by them.

Rosesanddaffs · 28/01/2026 10:04

It’s crap but people won’t creep around when your child is napping.

I’d arrange alternative accommodation.

BudgetBuster · 28/01/2026 10:01

Get your own accommodation?
Get your husband to settle the baby and you make your Dad a coffee... or you settle.the baby and your husband Get your Dad a coffee?