Toned and strong people…how?

I love Pilates for the physical and mental challenge. Doing it properly is hard. So many people think they are doing Pilates when they aren't. On the weights side, I have a PT that I discuss my goals and likes/dislikes with and I now have a routine to meet those goals. Hex bar with increasing weights whilst doing plyometrics.

My main goal is to be strong, mobile and independent as I age.

I’m toned, in my 50s now and with good overall strength due to daily yoga. 15-30 minutes first thing every morning, targeted at whatever hurts today (I have MS) keeps things working well enough to continue running and cycling.
Tried weights etc in the past, found it utterly tedious and it also led to the only injuries I ever had through working out. The more functional strength of yoga works best for me, and doesn’t need any equipment so no excuses to skip it.

I do no cardio now, except dog walking, which can be anything from 30 mins to 3 hours.
Instead I'm pumping those weights lol. I aim for 5 times a week but can be less or more depending on life. Even after a consistent year it doesn't work for me focusing on specific areas across the week so instead I have 2 programmes I alternate that cover main muscle groups. I then add in my random as I call them....so dead hangs or farmer carries or even balance exercises.

You don't need a gym, just incorporate more activity into your life. As much variety as possible. Housework is a great one to keep you toned. Also gardening is another example.

I am toned from walking, cycling, taking the stairs as much as possible, carrying shopping home, housework, gardening, not relying on machines to do stuff etc.

Look at photos of people in the past - they were mostly toned - but no sign of a gym. Their lives were a lot more physical and they did many more manual jobs.

There is a caveat though - it can depend on your body type. Some people muscle up a lot easier than others. I am one of them - not the bulky type of muscle but defined.

Why don't you enjoy S and C? Would be helpful to know in order to come up with some useful suggestions. Also, by toned I assume you mean gaining muscle? My week, at the moment, consists of:
3 lower body focused strength sessions in the gym (one glute, one quad/glute and one hamstring/glute session) and one upper. I'm targeting glutes during this cycle hence less upper training. I do three runs a week: one easy short run, one HIIT and one long. I do a half HR of cross training after strength work either elliptical, bike, incline treadmill, stair climber. There are some things I do at home. I train calves whilst preparing food. Wander round on balls of feet, calf raises etc, plus core work can be done at home. In fact, there is a lot you can do at home but in order to build muscle you need to progressively overload the movements you chose.

I run and walk a lot and started S&C a year ago. I absolutely love it you can see the changes I feel and I am so much stronger. I am 49 so was very conscious of my bone health my mum has osteoporosis and I wanted to make sure I didn't develop it. I don't go to a gym I do a local class with a very supportive trainer, the class is for woman and all would be aged from 40ish to 60ish. Maybe find a class like that

Caroline Girvan is your answer. She has tons of videos on YouTube from 30 minutes long up to an hour. I do her iron and/or fuel videos 3 or 4 times a week and have noticed a huge difference in my muscle tone and strength

What do you mean by toned?

I love s&c more than running now. we have a barbell at home and resistance bands. I do barbell squats, deadlift s, glute raises and Bulgarian squats one day alternated with upper body , bicep curls, overhead press, chest press and tricep dips