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EXTREMELY WORRIED ABOUT NEIGHBOUR! What to do???!

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BabyBentleyBlonde · 28/01/2026 00:52

so this lady lived in my building for years, we’d say hi to each other

then she started acting very strange.

she for a year now

  1. knocks/touches my door and leaves
  2. has this like weird/crazy/scared/confused look in her face. sometimes, I walk outside and she stands and stares at me
  3. she is everyday wearing nothing but tank top and short shorts in this freezing cold weather
  4. is digging through rubbish bins for hours everyday. Or Checking bin like 30 times a day
  5. Walks out at 3am and also digs through rubbish bins
  6. keeps asking people for cigarette despite never smoking

she looks older than 50 and always walked with cane

is it possible this is like dementia? I’m worried about her. Should I report her and try to get her help?? I’m worried she is not getting the help/care she needs?

I mean she is outside is very cold weather in tiny shorts and tank top. Digging through rubbish

we live in this big building and I don’t know what flat she lives in.

my question is should I report, and who do I report to? And how do I find out which building she lives in?

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Oftenaddled · 28/01/2026 01:10

You could speak to the police about a welfare check as above and / or google your county council's contact number for adult social care and give them a call in the morning

It's good that you're looking out for her

GingersOwner26 · 28/01/2026 01:10

Maybe adult social care might also be aware of her?

Monty27 · 28/01/2026 01:07

Maybe have a chat to the police about a welfare check? She might be known to them or other people locally.

Tonty · 28/01/2026 01:06

Police advice:

If she is at immediate risk of harming herself i would call the police otherwise call for medical support on 111 for advice.

If you're concerned about someone who is experiencing emotional distress, contact the Samaritans.
Shout Crisis is a 24/7 text messaging service for mental health support.
The Hub of Hope has a directory of mental health support services.
Mind are a mental health charity providing advice and support.

Definitely do not post any photo of her!

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BabyBentleyBlonde · 28/01/2026 00:59

Correction *which flat, not building she lives in

I have photo of her

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BabyBentleyBlonde · 28/01/2026 00:57

Tonty · 28/01/2026 00:55

Do you ever say hi back? have you tried having a conversation with her?

Yes we would say hi to each other for years.

then she stopped replying and started acting like this

yes I tried but she is not talking to me

just mumbles something or stares in this confused weird look in her face

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Tonty · 28/01/2026 00:55

Do you ever say hi back? have you tried having a conversation with her?

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