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Should we split the payment equally?

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minemine1989 · 27/01/2026 20:43

I’m going on a getaway with my friends and their family’s. We have booked one big house and so far decided to split it per couple. However, 2 of the families going have 3 children going… therefore will need more rooms… opposed to me and my partner who will only need one room.

aibu to think that the couple with the bigger families should need to pay a little bit more for the extra rooms?

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Summerunlover · 27/01/2026 22:09

We go on holiday with our friends. And we pay per room as we have 2 kids. So we pay for 2 rooms and they pay for one room.

ton181 · 27/01/2026 22:07

You agreed the split, then booked; now you want to change it. Would there be a big difference say a few hundred, if not I wouldnt want to adversely impact the friendship and the holiday.
You are being unreasonable

SquigglePigs · 27/01/2026 21:15

When we've gone away with friends with varying numbers of kids (0-2) we've always paid by bed room.

Sometimes this means a 5 bed place with the couple paying for 1 room and the ones with kids paying for 2 rooms each and sometimes it's been a 4 bed with the family with 2 kids having/paying for 2 rooms and the family with 1 kid all crashing in together so paying for 1 room.

BlackCat14 · 27/01/2026 21:09

Definitely pay by room. You haven’t said how many families are going, but hypothetically let’s say it’s five. But two need bedrooms for their kids so now you’re looking for a seven bedroom house. Which is more expensive than a five bedroom house. So why should you all pay more to allow for their kids?

steff13 · 27/01/2026 20:51

I would split it by bedrooms. Not only are they using more rooms, if they didn't need those extra rooms you might be able to rent a smaller house, which would be less expensive.

Georgiepud · 27/01/2026 20:50

Well yes, it would be fair to divide it according to the size of the group, or can you grab the biggest room with ensuite if that is the configuration?

WorkCleanRepeat · 27/01/2026 20:49

Yes definitely split the bill by bedrooms used.

Twasasurprise · 27/01/2026 20:48

What are the rooms like? I'd certainly want a bigger ensuite if you end up paying an equal amount for fewer rooms. Two smaller double/ twin rooms with a shared bathroom might be more equal to a larger ensuite.

somanychristmaslights · 27/01/2026 20:48

It should be split by rooms. Why should a couple spend the same amount as a family who maybe have 2/3 bedrooms? That doesn’t seem fair.

TwentyFourHoursToTulsa · 27/01/2026 20:46

Can you suggest to pay it by bedrooms used?

Jc2001 · 27/01/2026 20:45

Why do people do this to themselves?

BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 27/01/2026 20:45

It would have been wise to discuss it before booking! But yes, a family of 5 should pay more than a couple.

ResusciAnnie · 27/01/2026 20:44

Yes seems obvious to me! Sounds like a nightmare though, on holiday with other people’s kids 😂 good luck!