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Taking diazapam for the first time. Handhold?

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PinkLemonadee · 27/01/2026 20:37

I have a small prescription for diazapam for severe anxiety around my mum's funeral. My GP has advised me to take half (1mg) at home first and I'm freaking terrified of taking it. I'm on my own too which isn't helping.

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Fruitpastelsyum · 27/01/2026 22:03

Cryingatthegym · 27/01/2026 20:49

Diazepam is lovely! Although admittedly I've only ever taken small doses and not for the reason you're taking it. It makes everything feel temporarily wonderful.

Yes this is my experience

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OP take it - you will be fine - most people need at least 5-10mg to feel it

WearyAuldWumman · 27/01/2026 22:01

MyThreeWords · 27/01/2026 21:52

It won't space you out. The effects will be barely noticeable to you (and not at all noticeable to others), though at 2g it should be enough to make you a little calmer.

Unfortunately, its effectivenss drops really rapidly. The second dose will be less effective than the first, and so on. It really is an ultra-short-term aid, perfect for the kind of brief support that you need.

To maximise its effectiveness when you need it, it may even be better not to take the trial 1g - though I completely understand the reasons why you might want to test your reaction to it in advance.

Just reiterating that I only took the 1mg until the day of my husband's funeral when I took the full tablet, 2 mg. It did help me cope.

WearyAuldWumman · 27/01/2026 21:58

auserna · 27/01/2026 21:42

Diazepam is lovely, but I wonder whether you'll even notice 1mg. I'm quite small and usually take 5mg. I can feel the effect, but there's no lessening of awareness - it's not like being drunk.

Hope it helps.

FWIW, I'm quite hefty - 5ft 9 and over 14stones. For me, the Diazepam takes the edge off the anxiety - my prescription is for one 2mg tablet a day as required.

I have long spells now when I don't take any - it's 5 yrs since DH died - but I've had some over the Christmas period and January (when he died) and I'm coming up to the anniversary of the funeral.

Your body does get used to it, though I agree that 5 mg is a relatively small dose compared with many.

Lostearrings · 27/01/2026 21:57

I’m sorry for your loss.
I took it years ago for back spasms. I did make me very dozy but I was on a higher dose than you. I’d suggest getting yourself comfortable & cosy somewhere, perhaps with a glass of water to hand, in case you do doze off.
I was going to suggest you ask a friend to call you an hour after you’re scheduled to take it if you think that that might reduce your anxiety but, on the other hand, if you have dozed off, you won’t appreciate being woken!

firstofallimadelight · 27/01/2026 21:56

I was given 3 days worth for severe anxiety. I can’t remember the dose though. It was amazing, I felt very calm and serene, the giant knots in my stomach disappeared. I wish i could feel that way everyday. After I stopped taking it the anxiety came back but i felt stronger to deal with it.

dollyblue01 · 27/01/2026 21:53

I’ve taken it for when I’ve had an mri scan 1mg and it made me feel calm and peaceful, it will help you relax for a-bit and we’re all here if you need a handhold when you’ve taken it.
you will be absolutely fine.
sorry about your mum xx

MyThreeWords · 27/01/2026 21:52

It won't space you out. The effects will be barely noticeable to you (and not at all noticeable to others), though at 2g it should be enough to make you a little calmer.

Unfortunately, its effectivenss drops really rapidly. The second dose will be less effective than the first, and so on. It really is an ultra-short-term aid, perfect for the kind of brief support that you need.

To maximise its effectiveness when you need it, it may even be better not to take the trial 1g - though I completely understand the reasons why you might want to test your reaction to it in advance.

notnorman · 27/01/2026 21:51

You won’t notice any difference on that amount really. Don’t worry x

strawberryandtomato · 27/01/2026 21:49

I once took two 10mg thinking they were 2mg each. I was high as a kite and had the best night sleep ever. This was many moons ago.
if I ever take it (rarely) i usually have 5mg around 8pm. I don’t like to take in the day though.
im sorry about your mum

SalmonOnFinnCrisp · 27/01/2026 21:45

💐💐💐 for you and your mum.

Dont worry...
1mg will barely touch the sides though so I wouldnt worry.. it may not even be enough to really take the edge off

auserna · 27/01/2026 21:42

Diazepam is lovely, but I wonder whether you'll even notice 1mg. I'm quite small and usually take 5mg. I can feel the effect, but there's no lessening of awareness - it's not like being drunk.

Hope it helps.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 27/01/2026 21:37

It’ll take the edge off for you but nothing extreme. Best of luck, saying goodbye to your mother is very difficult, take care.

OtherS · 27/01/2026 21:35

I get 10mg for MRIs and don't much notice it. Am still scared of MRIs! I obviously wouldn't drive or drink, but I'm quite capable of getting myself out of the hospital and home alone, and continuing my day as normal. You'll be fine.

As someone who has suffered both extreme anxiety and the loss of their mum, I'm so sorry and I wish you all the best.

WearyAuldWumman · 27/01/2026 21:29

It'll be fine.

I was prescribed it when my husband died. I only took the 1mg at first, but a retired nurse friend advised me to take the full 2mg tablet for the day of the funeral.

I'm sorry for your loss. In my case, the Diazepam helped me to calm down in the evenings. The 2 mg dose on the morning of the funeral did help me to cope.

Maddy70 · 27/01/2026 21:25

I have a 5mg just to go to the doctor. You'll be fine. You won't notice 1mg

WTFiswrongwithworld · 27/01/2026 21:23

Am sorry you are feeling so anxious,losing a Mum is so heartbreaking,they are irreplaceable.
For context I was prescribed 5mgs three times a day for back pain and I was still a fully functioning human .

Monster6 · 27/01/2026 21:14

You’ll just feel slightly less anxious op. It’ll sort you right out. But 1 mg is a tiny dose, very safe and it’ll do what you want it to ☺️

OSTMusTisNT · 27/01/2026 21:14

I used to take 2mg for my flying phobia. I didn't feel any different but it stopped my heart racing.

(Also turned me weirdly sociable offering sweets to strangers sitting in the same row as me and I bought god knows what from the duty free 🙈).

RubyFatball · 27/01/2026 21:13

I’m sorry for your loss OP. Honestly opening up and getting supported (on here) is probably going to do more to help your anxiety and grief than 1mg. Have you got support in real life? Friends, family - grief charities offer bereavement counselling - it sounds like you could use more than a virtual hand hold. Hugs.

TheMentalMentalLoad · 27/01/2026 21:11

I’m sorry for your loss OP. As others have said 1mg is hardly anything. I was on 4x5mg daily for a few weeks. I was able to stop without any side effects or withdrawals.

PinkLemonadee · 27/01/2026 21:11

Thank you, I really appreciate that!

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honeyfox · 27/01/2026 21:09

It's a very small dose, honestly. I get prescribed 2mg twice a day for back spasms with tramadol as well. The combination makes me sleepy but the valium on it's own doesn't make me feel much different.

I'm so sorry about your mum, I hope you get through the funeral ok.

PinkLemonadee · 27/01/2026 21:06

Whyhaveibeencutoutofmamsnot · 27/01/2026 20:48

Do you feel less anxious about the situation now you have the diazepam in the house?
Just having it in your bag can help with anxiety as you know you can use it if needed

I lost my partner to a medication reaction so I'm genuinely terrified of taking new meds - it'll be better once I've taken it and know it's safe, if that makes sense

On a mundane note, I'm holding off on taking it until the washing has finished because I need clean clothes for tomorrow!

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PinkLemonadee · 27/01/2026 21:04

OhBollocks23 · 27/01/2026 20:46

I'm sorry for your loss, firstly.

It was a long time ago so I can't recall the dose, but it was low. Took for the same reason as you, and I recall the Dr very clearly said he was giving me something to dull the edges, but that would not be so strong as to mess with remembering the day, as I would come to regret that.

He was right; I hope this isn't inappropriate, as I mean it to be positive, but I have very warm memories of my parent's funeral. I was 'myself' enough to react, and communicate well, and grieve, but the day itself lacked the rawness of the grief if that makes sense. I can't really explain it any better.

This is what I want. I've been having such horrible anxiety and panic attacks because of my mum's declining health and feel stuck in panic mode which is a horrible way to live.

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Pleatherandlace · 27/01/2026 20:58

I agree with others, you won’t even notice 1mg. I’d take 2mgs on the day, you will absolutely feel like yourself just without the raw edge. Hope this makes things that tiny bit easier for you. X