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Am i wrong to park here and would you mess with my wing mirrors if I parked outside your house?

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malificent7 · 27/01/2026 19:47

Long story.
I work in a hospital. Rather than pay for parking, I park on a residential street 10 mins walk away. The residents have their own private parking , garages and visitors parking out the back. No driveways and no yellow lines on the wide road.
I park on the roaf. An aggressive man stopped me one day and told me an ambulance couldn't get past. Plenty of space. I pointed out there was space enpugh and no double yellows bitoved anyway.
From then on whenever i parked on the road my wing mirrors have been messed with. I only park on that street now if all other streets are full.
Am I being unreasonable to a: park there. B: to continue to do so if there are no other options/ last resort?

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Seawolves · 28/01/2026 15:30

CombatBarbie · 27/01/2026 20:41

Im not an NHS worker but going by friends and threads online, some hospitals are extortionate to park in!

I agree, it can be very expensive and disproportionally more expensive for those on the lower pay bands than those on the higher ones. At the hospital I worked at the top bods often got free parking whereas those on significantly less money didn't.

Zonder · 28/01/2026 10:42

It may be annoying but streets are public and you're allowed to park there.
We lived next to a school for a couple of years. We knew people would park down our street to pick up and drop off. That's life. It was only really annoying if they parked badly and blocked us in.

LakieLady · 28/01/2026 09:03

BobInABoat · 27/01/2026 20:42

I would get a dash cam with parking mode to catch whoever is messing with my car.

To park at the local hospital is £18 a day here and there really is very little parking.

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Goodness, I thought my nearest hospital was expensive at £10.70 for >6 hours.

There's another hospital in the Trust that's further away, and parking there is £8 for 6-12 hours, but then shoots up to £18. There's very little on-street parking nearby, and it's not served by many bus routes, either.

My late DP was offered a job there, but turned it down when he realised how costly the parking would be.

LetRip · 28/01/2026 08:25

Get dashcams for your car, I think you can get ones that stay on recording even with ignition off

malificent7 · 28/01/2026 06:39

For perspective...the property I park outside of is currently unoccupied ...no driveway anyway. I tuck my mirrors in but I assume that Mr territorial high horse up the road messes with them. Im very stubborn so will get a dashcam.

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Alcoholtakingherlife · 28/01/2026 06:29

I pay for the privilege of parking legally on the roadside and will continue to do so. Its called taxing my vehicle. I wouldn't be paying on a car park. People know what the liklihood is when they purchase a house near a hospital or school. It's up to them to complain to the hospital or local authorities to have residents only parking.Until then I'll carry on.

Morepositivemum · 28/01/2026 06:25

Im not an NHS worker but going by friends and threads online, some hospitals are extortionate to park in!

I work in a shop and we all have to pay to park, it’s unfortunately a cost of work the way people have to pay to commute.

ArcticBells · 28/01/2026 06:22

They don’t own the road. If they don’t like you parking there, tell them to take it up with the car parks which are mostly unaffordable

Soonenough · 28/01/2026 06:05

@Oneforallandallforone the residents that go to day centre could apply for Disabled Parking space .

I certainly wouldn't mind if a nurse parked in front of my house all day . So much for clapping for the NHS .😟

ClawsandEffect · 28/01/2026 05:55

Oneforallandallforone · 27/01/2026 22:18

Nothing can be done legally about it.
As the OP has seen, the cars can be messed with.
I'm with the residents I'm afraid. I would be pretty annoyed if the same car parked outside my house every day.
Where I live, people put cones outside their houses to stop people parking near the train station. The cones are not legal and cause controversy. However I am aware (from driving past) that two of the houses who put out the cones, have residents that are picked up every morning by a mini bus that takes the occupants to a residental day centre. The mini bus could not pull up outside the houses if cars parked there for the day.

Well, if someone did something about the parking illegally they could end up paying the cost in court.

If you move somewhere (as I did) near a hospital, school, city centre, shops, any other major attraction, cars will park there. The only resolution is permit parking. Or breaking the law.

TimeForATerf · 28/01/2026 05:49

DD works in a hospital, she’s pays £46 a month to park on someone’s drive through one of those Park On My Drive type schemes. She loves it, always free, chats to the elderly man whose house it is and knows no one is going to vandalise or clip her car.

Mama2many73 · 28/01/2026 05:44

I agree about contacting adult social services but I would also contact the police as others have said they may know of her.

Mamy yrs ago a lady knocked at our door , DM answered. She asked if June was in. DM said Im Sorry yuu must have the wrong address. 2 mins later she was back asking again.
DM realised something was a miss (she was a RMNurse) invited her in, made her a cuppa and called the police to report it.
Police knew exactly who she was from her description, knew where she lived and contacted her family. Police said theyd come out but DM said as long a sher daughter was called , she would happily walk her home and wait until her daughter arrived.

iOn a personal note DM was not known for showing compassion, very practical, and as a kid I can member being amazed at how gentle and caring she was with this lady.

jamimmi · 27/01/2026 23:22

I work in a hospital, luckily I can park on site unlike many of my collegues who park either on one of the 2 park and ride schemes 15 to 20 mins by bus away or who park on the street. The local residents complained 10 years ago so a multi story was rejected at planning as a result and tried to get parking as resident only near the hospital which opened in th 80' s. It backfired and its now double yellows so they are cross about that too. If staff dont park on the roads patients and visitors do, parking is awfull for vistors who are advised to arrive an hour early to park. Most.of the car parks have been built on for hospital expansion. Unfortunatly if you live near a large hospital/ employer/ stadium I think you must realise people will park on your streets.

Jijithecat · 27/01/2026 23:20

What time of the day are you arriving OP?
In theory I don't care that random people park their car outside my house all day.The reality is I get woken up at 5:45am when they arrive for work because they play music and slam their car doors, sometimes people park across the drive, they drop their cigarette butts in the street (the growing pile in the same area is a give away), they increase wear and tear on the street but seemingly never report the potholes themselves. So yes, sometimes commuters do grate.

For everyone saying lobby the council, in my area you get to put forward a proposal once a year and then the majority need to agree. It's not a quick or guaranteed process. They did agree to impose some restrictions on half the street, but this just shifts and concentrates the problem.

As I say, in theory it doesn't bother me. The reality is that unfortunately not everyone is considerate of others.

Makingsenseofitall · 27/01/2026 22:50

You aren’t doing anything wrong op. Keep doing it.

NewGoldFox · 27/01/2026 22:26

If you’re paying your road tax and parking legally they can bloody well jog on. Personally I would hang around and try to have a word with whoever was touching my car the cheeky sod.

NemesisInferior · 27/01/2026 22:25

Oneforallandallforone · 27/01/2026 22:18

Nothing can be done legally about it.
As the OP has seen, the cars can be messed with.
I'm with the residents I'm afraid. I would be pretty annoyed if the same car parked outside my house every day.
Where I live, people put cones outside their houses to stop people parking near the train station. The cones are not legal and cause controversy. However I am aware (from driving past) that two of the houses who put out the cones, have residents that are picked up every morning by a mini bus that takes the occupants to a residental day centre. The mini bus could not pull up outside the houses if cars parked there for the day.

If it's that much of a problem the residents should lobby the council to make the street resident only parking.

Otherwise, nope. It's fair game for anyone to park on the public highway, poncy cones or no.

Oneforallandallforone · 27/01/2026 22:18

ClawsandEffect · 27/01/2026 22:06

But it isn't illegal.

Nothing anyone can do about it.

Nothing can be done legally about it.
As the OP has seen, the cars can be messed with.
I'm with the residents I'm afraid. I would be pretty annoyed if the same car parked outside my house every day.
Where I live, people put cones outside their houses to stop people parking near the train station. The cones are not legal and cause controversy. However I am aware (from driving past) that two of the houses who put out the cones, have residents that are picked up every morning by a mini bus that takes the occupants to a residental day centre. The mini bus could not pull up outside the houses if cars parked there for the day.

ClawsandEffect · 27/01/2026 22:06

Applecup · 27/01/2026 21:31

It’s not illegal but is obviously annoying the residents. I’ve noticed people parking where my daughter lives and then catching the bus into the city. It’s annoying. There’s no place for residents without drives to park and it limits the parking places for people using the local shops. Just pay for parking.

But it isn't illegal.

Nothing anyone can do about it.

ClawsandEffect · 27/01/2026 22:05

I live near a school and a shopping precinct. I don't have a driveway to park on. Cars park on my road for the shops and at school drop off/pick up it's rammed.

Meh. The shops and school were there before I moved here. I knew it'd be busy for parking.

Don't like it, don't move there. It's either legal or illegal to park there. If it's legal, it's fair game. What isn't legal is damaging someone else's car. It's STILL illegal to damage someone else's car even if they're parked illegally (which the OP isn't).

Redpeach · 27/01/2026 21:48

Its not their road, plus you're a hospital worker, so a little tolerance would go a long way, however are there alternative modes of transport, public transport, bicycle etc

NemesisInferior · 27/01/2026 21:47

If there are no double yellows or restrictions it's fair game - it's a public road and residents have no more rights to park there than anyone else. I do exactly the same to avoid paying £20ish a day to go to work.

Tiddlywinky · 27/01/2026 21:42

I don't understand the logic that we should only always park in our own driveway or in car parks, never in ordinary streets because we may be bothering the residents. That is so weird.

Vodka1 · 27/01/2026 21:33

I'm on the fence.

It blows my mind that people who buy or rent houses near schools, hospitals, popular shopping streets etc get surprised when they are blocked in or inconvenienced. Should they be? No, absolutely not, but when did we stop expecting it? It's so strange to me.

But also, I'm that person that parks 5 minutes from school just so I know those daily emails sent out aren't about me 😁😁

I'd like to see where you park really. Because 10 minutes is fairly far to park away so I can't see why it's unreasonable if there is free parking available.

Most of the space leading to our hospital is yellow lines or permits

Applecup · 27/01/2026 21:31

It’s not illegal but is obviously annoying the residents. I’ve noticed people parking where my daughter lives and then catching the bus into the city. It’s annoying. There’s no place for residents without drives to park and it limits the parking places for people using the local shops. Just pay for parking.