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Schools asking for parental contributions

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ButamIwhoyouthinkIam · 27/01/2026 19:40

I’m sure this one will be divisive and is partly down to personal politics but I’m interested in the consensus.

state funded primary, good catchment, in deficit, like many others.

email last week to suggest a voluntary contribution from parents to cover essential materials, lays out case etc. but already have quite a few requests annually for enrichment and also trips. Has active PTA and most families donate to this through usual calendar of events.

email sets out rising costs of utilities etc and asks parents to plug the gap. I’m not sure this is the right solution for something that is inherently gov funded and it feels like a slippery slope.

IABU: it’s reasonable for schools to ask this and for parents to be happy to pay

YABU: a different option eg lobbying gov or showing the deficit would be more reasonable. Contributing financially allows the funding problem to be hidden

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OMGitsnotgood · 28/01/2026 08:28

We had a very active PTA in primary but some parents made it known that they didn’t want to feel compelled to attend fundraising events in their precious spare time and would prefer to make a donation instead. I bet in most schools it will be the same families supporting PTA fundraisers - and the same families not, yet they benefit equally from the funds. Obviously in some cases that will be because they just don’t have the spare money but in others it is lack of desire to get involved, and they would rather just give cash. Maybe that is the reaaon behind jt, and it people may be more likely to contribute if the school asks for it?

OhDear111 · 28/01/2026 08:26

No, PP is not irrelevant. Many dc don't necessarily need any extra funding at all as they are not behind. However others are but the schools have some send funding too. Theres no school that feels well off though. Many have asked for parental continuations for decades! My school did for a tennis court surface in the 60s!!!! It’s not unusual.

turkeyboots · 28/01/2026 08:26

Do both. Lobbying for an increase in school funding won't achieve any quick results. Donate towards immediate costs.

Don't however let donations become a permanent feature. In Ireland the "voluntary contribution" to schools is anything but voluntary.

unbelievablybelievable · 28/01/2026 08:25

School fund has always been a thing in some schools. Parents pay £50 for the year or something. But not all schools. I think more are doing it now.

I will never pay it, even though I can afford to. Parents/volunteers/donations/teachers good will should not be used to cover up and fix the government's failure to adequately fund education. And the more we prop it up out of our own pockets, the more they can get away with underfunding.

I was a teacher for 15 years and have DC in ks1-GCSE ages. I firmly believe the education system needs to collapse so government are actually forced to do something, and the sooner the better. I left last July because underfunding made the job impossible. Too many children are being failed and it's not the school or the teacher's fault.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 28/01/2026 08:25

It's not a new thing. Most schools used to have a thing called a School Fund, collected every week. I started school in 1961 and, every Monday morning, we took in the week's Dinner Money (5 bob) and our School Fund (a penny, so half a p). I assume it was used for nice extras though like the Christmas party and the leavers' party, rather than materials. Trips were paid for by parents but I do wonder if it was also used as a sort of hardship fund to subsidise those who couldn't pay, because I don't remember anyone ever being left behind.

HisNotHes · 28/01/2026 08:22

Needlenardlenoo · 28/01/2026 08:19

The least well funded school I ever worked in was a state grammar in a "leafy" part of the home counties. They were entirely reliant on parental contributions and fundraising.

Yes, this is the situation at our school.

Needlenardlenoo · 28/01/2026 08:21

CactusSwoonedEnding · 28/01/2026 08:17

That's irrelevant. The schools that get more PP are just as underfunded as the ones that don't. Being given £900,000 to achieve something that would take £1,200,000 to do to a good standard isn't intrinsically a more fortunate position to be put in than being given £675,000 to achieve something that would take £900,000 to do to a good standard.

It's around £2bn p.a. I believe. If it wasn't there it would make a heck of a difference, although I take your general point about Rolls Royce expectations on a Nissan Micra budget.

Needlenardlenoo · 28/01/2026 08:19

HisNotHes · 28/01/2026 08:18

Conversely, schools in affluent areas have far worse government funding. At least, this is what our head has told parents. We’re in a v affluent area with very few “free school meals” pupils so the funding is much less than in deprived areas. So the school needs those affluent parents’ contributions just to bring them up to par - it won’t provide an advantage.

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The least well funded school I ever worked in was a state grammar in a "leafy" part of the home counties. They were entirely reliant on parental contributions and fundraising.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 28/01/2026 08:19

My kids’ school ask for £10 / month per child, and £40 per year / child for equipment for DT. We provide cooking ingredients, stationery and anything else they need. We’re in affluent area and I know some people donate more.

Needlenardlenoo · 28/01/2026 08:18

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5432829-to-feel-offended-by-this-email-from-the-school?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

This thread made interesting reading - some knowledgeable posters really delved into the funding of schools linked to (mostjy) the socioeconomic status of the students and some practical and moral problems that arise. I found it really informative. School funding does NOT work how many people think.

To feel offended by this email from the school? | Mumsnet

I think I'll just post the email without any elaboration for now, and see what people think, this is copied and pasted directly, with identifying info...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5432829-to-feel-offended-by-this-email-from-the-school

Dragonflytamer · 28/01/2026 08:18

I'm not sure its a new concept. Back when I was school an annual £50 was asked for as a voluntary donation. That was in the late 80s when a Mars bars was less than 20p.

HisNotHes · 28/01/2026 08:18

Newbutoldfather · 27/01/2026 19:58

An increasing number of schools are doing this.

From the schools’, parents and children’s perspectives, this additional contribution can make a huge difference.

However, governments have been starving schools of funds for years, making it almost impossible to balance the budget.

It will massively increase inequality, with schools in wealthy catchment areas being increasingly parentally funded, whereas schools in deprived areas will struggle to provide a basic education.

Conversely, schools in affluent areas have far worse government funding. At least, this is what our head has told parents. We’re in a v affluent area with very few “free school meals” pupils so the funding is much less than in deprived areas. So the school needs those affluent parents’ contributions just to bring them up to par - it won’t provide an advantage.

CactusSwoonedEnding · 28/01/2026 08:17

Needlenardlenoo · 28/01/2026 08:09

Pupil Premium is worth billions a year and the more deprived a catchment, the more funding from that source the school gets.

There was an interesting and very informative thread about Pupil Premium on here a few months back. I'll try to find it.

That's irrelevant. The schools that get more PP are just as underfunded as the ones that don't. Being given £900,000 to achieve something that would take £1,200,000 to do to a good standard isn't intrinsically a more fortunate position to be put in than being given £675,000 to achieve something that would take £900,000 to do to a good standard.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 28/01/2026 08:14

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/01/2026 08:12

Oh, but either way it’s the public purse, for want of a better word.

Yes, I'm not disputing that the majority of the funds are from the public purse. That doesn't change the fact that the school will be unable to survive in its current form if the funding model doesn't change very soon.

babyspicydorito · 28/01/2026 08:14

This is such a huge conflict of interest surely. When one child’s parents make a sizeable donation the school will be likely to let that child get away with anything. It’s just wrong!! I’m surprised that the local authority allow this. Asking if you can send your own child in with some stationary is a different thing.

Whinge · 28/01/2026 08:14

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/01/2026 08:08

The assuming it’s an average sized primary school that’s not that bad. £55k isn’t that much.

@MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack I totally understand joining an academy chain isn’t the best thing for your school from many points of view, but academies are still funded my the LA so the LA aren’t letting it go “bankrupt” (for want of a better word!) busy applying new model to spend.

Unfortuntaely there's only 160 on roll, it's undersubscribed due to the falling birth rate.

ExtraOnions · 28/01/2026 08:13

We use Wish Lists at our (Catholic) High School, for example we were setting up an outdoor learning area, so we did a list of tools and plants .. we got a new library, so did a list of books..we needed new interments for music etc We find it’s the Alumni that often want to contribute. Nobody is forced to give anything.

DeathMetalMum · 28/01/2026 08:12

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/01/2026 08:10

I’ll try not to get a rant on this 😂 but as another catholic school goer my parents were paying contributions to both the school and the church, in the context of a massively wealthy Catholic Church. It’s disgraceful and shouldn’t be accepted in the way catholics used to.

Well, the church also gave my mum money for school uniform at the end of every summer. I think we also went on a free holiday once to a caravan they owned near the seaside. So it almost equaled itself out.

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/01/2026 08:12

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 28/01/2026 08:11

We aren't funded by the LA. Our funding comes direct from central government.

Oh, but either way it’s the public purse, for want of a better word.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 28/01/2026 08:11

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/01/2026 08:08

The assuming it’s an average sized primary school that’s not that bad. £55k isn’t that much.

@MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack I totally understand joining an academy chain isn’t the best thing for your school from many points of view, but academies are still funded my the LA so the LA aren’t letting it go “bankrupt” (for want of a better word!) busy applying new model to spend.

We aren't funded by the LA. Our funding comes direct from central government.

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/01/2026 08:10

DeathMetalMum · 28/01/2026 08:00

I went to a Catholic primary school in the 90's in what was a pretty deprived area. We had a 'school fund' of 20p per week. I remember paying it regularly despite not being very well off. I don't think it's as usual as you think.

I’ll try not to get a rant on this 😂 but as another catholic school goer my parents were paying contributions to both the school and the church, in the context of a massively wealthy Catholic Church. It’s disgraceful and shouldn’t be accepted in the way catholics used to.

Astrabees · 28/01/2026 08:09

Our sons are in their 30’s now and we were asked for £7 per month each for these reasons over 20 years ago. Nothing new.

Needlenardlenoo · 28/01/2026 08:09

CactusSwoonedEnding · 28/01/2026 07:43

@ButamIwhoyouthinkIam your poll makes no sense

IABU: it’s reasonable for schools to ask this and for parents to be happy to pay

YABU: a different option eg lobbying gov or showing the deficit would be more reasonable. Contributing financially allows the funding problem to be hidden

Whichever statement I agree with you are telling me to hit the "YABU" button despite them being opposite. Anyone who hit YANBU didn't read the post properly but you have no idea which direction they are agreeing in.

I agree with the 2nd statement. State funded schools are criminally underfunded. If the naice schools in leafy posh areas get their funding topped up by voluntary contributions from well-heeled parents and the schools in grotty poor areas don't, inequalities widen, the most vulnerable children suffer and there's less political pressure on the government to resolve the problems. If there's a proportion of parents willing to make voluntary contributions like this then what is needed is a general rise in taxation for everyone with an income level that brings them significantly over the point of "just about making ends meet" so that the funds can be distributed to the schools where the need is greatest rather than the schools that wealthier children attend. If the standard tostate education provided by the government is inadequate either campaign to change government policy or opt out and send your children to private school funding the full cost without taking state funding. A state funded system that ends up with affluent children getting a better set of circumstances than disadvantaged children is abhorrent.

Pupil Premium is worth billions a year and the more deprived a catchment, the more funding from that source the school gets.

There was an interesting and very informative thread about Pupil Premium on here a few months back. I'll try to find it.

Itsmetheflamingo · 28/01/2026 08:08

Whinge · 28/01/2026 07:38

Our local school has reserves of -55k. Yep minus. Shock

I knew it was bad, but seeing it in black and white is quite shocking.

The assuming it’s an average sized primary school that’s not that bad. £55k isn’t that much.

@MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack I totally understand joining an academy chain isn’t the best thing for your school from many points of view, but academies are still funded my the LA so the LA aren’t letting it go “bankrupt” (for want of a better word!) busy applying new model to spend.

Needlenardlenoo · 28/01/2026 08:07

TheBlueKoala · 28/01/2026 07:09

My DS1 secondary school is asking for donations specifically due to extra cost for SEN funding. The govt does pay for this but apparantly it's not enough. I don't think any parent who doesn't have a SEN child will contribute- that's the talk among parents atleast. They would have been smarter not to specify SEN because it reduces the parents who feel concerned and it also singles out us SEN parents as we are made aware of what a burden on the system our children are...

That's outrageous!