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Colleague drinking at work

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Chasa · 27/01/2026 14:30

My colleague is known for liking a drink and I and others have smelled drink on him on previous occasions. However, over the past fortnight his behaviour has become more hyper at work as if he wasn't just nursing a hangover but was actually still perhaps drunk? Another colleague suggested that maybe he was drinking at work so we decided to go and look in his backpack and there was an empty kids drinks bottle with a tiny bit of wine left in it. So he is drinijng on the job. So do we do anything or mind our own business? He's a nice guy on the whole. I'm thinking say nothing, I need advice.

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DBSFstupid · 28/01/2026 21:58

shrunkenhead · 28/01/2026 07:55

Because she doesn't want to lose her job like her poor colleague might! Bloody unbelievable. Happy to ruin his life but save her own bacon!
This was not done from a place of care and concern, you snooped out of nosiness and to find "proof" of your suspicions - trust me this will backfire on you.

👏Indeed.

MissyMooPoo2 · 28/01/2026 11:20

disappearingfish · 28/01/2026 11:07

Focus on the snooping if you like. I'm focused on the guy with a warehouse job who's operating machinery when drunk.

Suspected to be drunk.

disappearingfish · 28/01/2026 11:07

MissyMooPoo2 · 28/01/2026 09:29

Not really - snitching and snooping are two different things, aren't they?

Focus on the snooping if you like. I'm focused on the guy with a warehouse job who's operating machinery when drunk.

Goditsmemargaret · 28/01/2026 10:30

Wisperley · 27/01/2026 16:31

You should obviously not have gone through his personal belongings. However, if you smell alcohol on him, and it's dangerous at work, then you should report that you are concerned about him.

Anyone who is decanting wine into a kids' drink bottle is in trouble, and needs help. I saw my dad decant wine into a lemonade bottle one morning which he took in his briefcase to work. A few months later his work sent him to a private de-tox clinic (he was quite high up in financial services).

This poor man isn't doing this for fun - he's doing it because right now he can't function without it. He needs help before he ruins his own life and his family's and possibly his colleagues'.

Oh that's so sad about your dad, I'm sorry. I hope things improved for you all after he got help.

Tamtim · 28/01/2026 09:33

I find it outrageous that you went through his personal belongings. However, if you seriously suspect he is drinking on the job and it’s affecting his performance then you should speak to your/his manager.

MissyMooPoo2 · 28/01/2026 09:29

disappearingfish · 28/01/2026 08:26

This is just one centimetre away from “snitches deserve stitches”.

Not really - snitching and snooping are two different things, aren't they?

MissyMooPoo2 · 28/01/2026 09:23

MushMonster · 28/01/2026 07:06

They should have not looked into his bag, we all know that. It is wrong. But the possible consequences of working on a warehouse while acting like drank are much much much higher!

But the various extents of rights and wrongs are not for OP - or posters on this thread - to decide!

Edit - which is why OP has to come clean about everything to management - drinking suspicions, bag rifling, the lot.

disappearingfish · 28/01/2026 08:26

shrunkenhead · 28/01/2026 07:55

Because she doesn't want to lose her job like her poor colleague might! Bloody unbelievable. Happy to ruin his life but save her own bacon!
This was not done from a place of care and concern, you snooped out of nosiness and to find "proof" of your suspicions - trust me this will backfire on you.

This is just one centimetre away from “snitches deserve stitches”.

shrunkenhead · 28/01/2026 07:55

MissyMooPoo2 · 28/01/2026 06:55

Why not mention the bag rifling? Why not be honest? Because there would be consequences?

Because she doesn't want to lose her job like her poor colleague might! Bloody unbelievable. Happy to ruin his life but save her own bacon!
This was not done from a place of care and concern, you snooped out of nosiness and to find "proof" of your suspicions - trust me this will backfire on you.

HomeTheatreSystem · 28/01/2026 07:17

If there's a chance that he could cause injury to someone at work, then yes I'd have to say that I would report that I could smell alcohol on his breath throughout the day and his behaviour at work on a day to day basis has become noticeably more erratic. Sounds like he has lost his licence through DUI and is now risking his job.

It wasn't a good idea to go in his bag for "proof" but I guess you wanted to satisfy yourselves that what you suspected, was in fact true. However I'd leave that bit of info out. If you report, HR or whoever would know there's cause for concern and can do the requisite follow ups.

somanychristmaslights · 28/01/2026 07:15

Ignore the posters who are being dramatic and saying you’ll be arrested. What a load of nonsense. You need to speak to your manager and say you have concerns as you can smell alcohol on him, and leave it as that. If there was a workplace accident, you’d feel guilty you didn’t say anything.

MushMonster · 28/01/2026 07:06

MissyMooPoo2 · 28/01/2026 06:55

Why not mention the bag rifling? Why not be honest? Because there would be consequences?

They should have not looked into his bag, we all know that. It is wrong. But the possible consequences of working on a warehouse while acting like drank are much much much higher!

FruAashild · 28/01/2026 07:05

What is your companies policy about drinking at work? My work has a very strict policy because of the nature of our job and so the procedure if you suspect someone is drinking at work is very clearly set out (and includes the option for OH to breathalyse someone). Against that we also provide counselling and a generous sick pay policy so while someone couldn't be on site they would get support.

MissyMooPoo2 · 28/01/2026 06:59

pilates · 28/01/2026 06:55

Don’t mention the snooping if you are going to report to management.

That would be an act of omission.

ladyamy · 28/01/2026 06:58

You were being VVVVVVVU for looking in his backpack.

MissyMooPoo2 · 28/01/2026 06:55

MushMonster · 28/01/2026 06:51

OMG!!!
You have to report it!
Report his behaviour to your manager. They and HR need to look into it.

Say nothing of the bag search... whatever possessed you to do this! Never do things like this again. HR can, and will, do things like this indeed. At least, that was written on our contract in the plants I worked in- that we would agree to random searches. This should be in a contract for a warehouse too.

Why not mention the bag rifling? Why not be honest? Because there would be consequences?

pilates · 28/01/2026 06:55

Don’t mention the snooping if you are going to report to management.

MushMonster · 28/01/2026 06:51

OMG!!!
You have to report it!
Report his behaviour to your manager. They and HR need to look into it.

Say nothing of the bag search... whatever possessed you to do this! Never do things like this again. HR can, and will, do things like this indeed. At least, that was written on our contract in the plants I worked in- that we would agree to random searches. This should be in a contract for a warehouse too.

MissyMooPoo2 · 28/01/2026 06:51

Papster · 27/01/2026 22:53

Six pages of the same thing.
Bag rifling, even if with good intentions is reprehensible.
The pissed up machinery operative should be reported on basis of breath and behaviour.

Meanwhile OP still being berated despite showing contrition.

Many seem to think this is a bigger issue than possible outcome of damage/injury/death caused by pissed up operative.

“I’m beginning to wish we hadn’t done it” doesn’t really shout contrition.

Both OP and the suspected drinker should be reported to the manager to investigate misconduct. OP could make this report herself - but she won’t, of course.

disappearingfish · 28/01/2026 06:41

Thank you @Redbushteaforme. It’s everyone’s responsibility to look out for each other and customers/clients. Saying it’s “the company’s responsibility” means nothing, companies are made up of people!

I have direct reports who work at a different site to me. I really hope that if one of them was drunk at work someone would alert me or another manager. Not just decide it wasn’t their responsibility.

Papster · 27/01/2026 22:53

Six pages of the same thing.
Bag rifling, even if with good intentions is reprehensible.
The pissed up machinery operative should be reported on basis of breath and behaviour.

Meanwhile OP still being berated despite showing contrition.

Many seem to think this is a bigger issue than possible outcome of damage/injury/death caused by pissed up operative.

DBSFstupid · 27/01/2026 22:02

Aquarius91 · 27/01/2026 14:40

Who the fuck do you think you are, rifling through his personal belongings? You sound like a nosy busybody, pretending to be a concerned colleague. How dare you!!

Oh it's full of these busy body, cancel culture arseholes falling over themselves to ruin people's lives. It's the sick world we currently inhabit in this Country.
Fucking Big Brother.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 27/01/2026 21:49

SwingTheMonkey · 27/01/2026 21:40

I find it hard to believe that anyone on here would actually be ok with finding out a colleague had secretly been through their personal belongings, however innocent they were. It’s an unbelievable invasion of privacy. Can you imagine the responses to a ‘I discovered my work colleague had rifled through my bag when I went to the loo’ thread?

I'd be the one posting 'Did you have something you shouldn't in there?'.

I'm still amused by how long it took DP to actually get things rather than bring the entire thing over to me when I'd say 'can you get my phone/charger cable/whatever, please? It's in my bag'. It's not a big deal in my mind.

SwingTheMonkey · 27/01/2026 21:40

I find it hard to believe that anyone on here would actually be ok with finding out a colleague had secretly been through their personal belongings, however innocent they were. It’s an unbelievable invasion of privacy. Can you imagine the responses to a ‘I discovered my work colleague had rifled through my bag when I went to the loo’ thread?

MissyMooPoo2 · 27/01/2026 21:36

Itsmetheflamingo · 27/01/2026 21:22

Well, “another colleague” really indicates one other. Who is also presumably not dumb enough to tell anyone

Like post it on an online forum, you mean.