AIBU to be worried about my 16 month old DS being overweight?
This is my first post so sorry if i get things wrong. i feel a bit silly even typing this but it has been going round my head for weeks and i dont know if im being unreasonable or not.
My DS is 16 months. He is a happy lovely little boy and hitting all his milestones etc. But he is big. Like visibly bigger than other kids his age. At toddler group he looks older than he is and people always say oh he must be nearly 2 or ask what size clothes hes in.
We saw the HV last month and she said hes on a high centile but following his line so its fine. I nodded and smiled but i didnt really understand the centile stuff if im honest. Hes something like 91st for weight and lower for height which is what worries me. She said not to put him on a diet obviously but to just keep offering healthy food.
The thing is he eats a lot. Hes always hungry. If i dont give him seconds he screams. He loves food and will eat pretty much anything but especially carbs. I dont give him sweets or fizzy drinks or anything like that. He has toast or porridge for breakfast, proper meals and fruit. But he just seems chunky and his belly sticks out. His thighs have rolls. His coats and trousers are tight even when i size up.
My mum keeps making comments like hes a little porker or oh he doesnt miss a meal does he. I know she probably doesnt mean harm but it gets to me. My MIL has also said i shouldnt be letting him eat so much and that babies dont need seconds. That made me feel awful like im setting him up for problems later.
I dont want to be one of those mums obsessing over weight or projecting stuff onto a baby. But i also dont want to ignore it if theres something i should be doing differently. i keep comparing him to other kids and then telling myself to stop.
So am i being unreasonable to worry about this or is it normal at this age? Please be kind. i really am not trying to be cruel about my own child and i already feel bad even posting this.