Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

You are over reacting.

But her DH has known these friends since they were children. So probably a minimum of 30 years

why do you assume those of us who disagree with you don't give a shit?

Funnily enough, some of us like having kids with competent adults who are capable of making decisions about their children as we are. There is nothing 'cool mom' about it.

Sorry you clearly don't trust your partner to parent. Will see you in a few years on the 'my husband is useless and i have to do everything myself' threads i guess.

I have the total opposite opinion of him i think hes a star.
He invited his friends round who have a different first language to op while she wasn't there. Showing consideration to both friends and op, opportunity to chat easily.

His mum phoned in an emergency, he dropped what he was doing to help his DMum and little sister who must have been in agony.

The friends have probably said we'll take care of baby, which makes perfect sense.
He knows and trusts them.

Why on earth would he say no i need to take LO in the car when shes due a bottle, then bum change, which all adds to the delay in getting the wee girl to hospital.

He's a star, did what he could with the people he was with and took care of wee sister.

It’s was literally an emergency and he was not gone long. Baby is fine. YABU, but I get why.

OP would you have left your DD with one of your friends that you have know and trusted most of your life for a 30 minute emergency? Because that’s what your DH has done.

I personally see no problem with it. You’ve said he’s known them for years, grown up with them. If he felt his DD was safe then you either trust his judgement or you don’t.

and as for taking his little sister to A&E, he did the right thing. Ambulances are stretched to the limit so if you can arrive safely by car you should do so. He still has a responsibility to his mum and sister.

So lifelong friends of your DH who HE knows well and trusts?
The only issue is that you don't know them as well, is that correct?
I would, and have, left a baby in my home with a childhood friend. I've dropped a baby off at a friends when I've had to do something else. I've made those decisions as a parent.
Your DH has done the same. Left your baby with his trusted friends who he's known his whole life. Do you not trust him to make such decisions OP?

I have asked this question so many times on this thread and it obviously doesn’t fit the narrative of some of the hysterical posters !

Well clearly it matters to OP, and a lot of other people on this thread.

I was scared to open this thread and after what I have read, I know why I was scared.

Why does that matter? The baby’s
father knows them well.

All sounds fine to me ,these were people he's known his whole life. Three of them and one 6 month old. It continues to sadden me the lack of trust many women seem to have in their own partners. Your child is his baby too.

And that the mother barely knows.

A group of people the baby’s father knows well.

Why, because I wouldn't be happy with them being left in the care of a group of people I barely know?

What a bizarre and baseless assumption. And incorrect.

Keep on playing the cool Mum card. I'll continue to actually give a shit about mine.

Have you ever tried ringing 111? Because.. it's not a fast service.

And it's the mans sister, for fuck sake. Of course he would want to go and help her, and not send someone else.

The 6 month old was absolutely fine being watched for an hour. Are we all forgetting how simple it is to watch a kid that age? Feed them, change them, don't drop them on their heads. Job done.

He could have called you to let you know what was happening so you had the option to go home or tell him to bring the baby to hospital

111 for sister.

What is 111 going to say other than 'take her to A&E'?

Wow

When woman are neurotic it is called hormones and understandable when men are neurotic it is called controlling and red flags all over it

Yes you unreasonable but other neurotic parents on here will agree and nothing will change for you

As paranoid as I am over people having my 15 week old, I'd still rather her stay with my partners friends than be stuck in A&E risking picking up a cold! But no definitely not unreasonable, as long as she was looked after and dad trusted the friends then It's not the absolute worst.

(Just me but I'd actually prefer his friends having to look after her than my mil 🙊)

Op your DH is a good guy.
He did what he could to help his DMum and his little sister. She's only 11, growing up without her Dad.

He left the baby with 3 trusted adults, his friends who hes known for years. He didn't even stay at the hospital he took them and returned to the house.
I think he made the best decision he could with probably 10secs to think through his options.

You don't forget who helps you out in a moment of crisis.

YANBU - 111 for sister. Relative for sister. Send one of the friends to take the sister.

You must be aware that most children will have, before school age, been left in the care of extended family, friends, babysitters, nannies, childminders, preschool assistants etc? And in the vast vast majority of cases are cared for perfectly safely?

I agree with this. it was an emergency! he was probably slightly panicked. his friends probably said don't worry we will mind DD and he just thought one less thing to worry about ....
yes wouldn't be your decision but he wasn't unreasonable given the length of time he knew these friends and there was several of them