Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

Why does the OP need people to go to brunch with? Why can’t she go on her own?

Why does he need reinforcements when you leave the house? And why does he need company, can he not be on his own?

Why is that such an issue? Please explain to me.

I left my kid with friends of mine that my H didnt know quite often, he never batted an eyelid because he trusted my judgement.

Why do NONE of you TRUST your HUSBANDS?

Well it clearly upset her that’s why

What good was going to come from letting Op know?
She was out to lunch with friends, a rare treat, it would just have made Op want to cut lunch short.

OP would have wanted to be home before he took his sister to hospital, which would have delayed the sister getting to hospital.

The priority has to be the sister who's still only a young child. Who needed urgent medical attention. His mum was probably also stressed when she called for help.

OP, you say your issue is that "he left DD with friends I don’t know, the first time I properly left her."

Objectively speaking - this isn't a big deal. You're making a bit of a situation here. DH knows his friends. It was an emergency. Who cares if it's "the first time you left her" ... Hooray that she was fine. The first time I left my baby DD she cried and wouldn't take a bottle 🙄

DH didn't do anything unsafe.

Does he drive a minibus now?
Why shouldn’t he have left his child with his friends who he has known pretty much his entire life and obviously trusts?

This car's pretty big by now isnt it?

@28loloie he could have taken one of the friends with him. However he shouldn’t have left the baby with them .

In honestly I think 6 months is as good a time as any for this to have happened - 6 months old are fairly robust but typically haven’t developed significant separation anxiety so will likely not be distressed for an hour with an unfamiliar caregiver.

Completely batshit post.
There is zero evidence that he resents the OP going out. And inviting friends round to your house is perfectly normal, especially when you have young children and going out is tricky.

It’s exactly the sort of thing I did when my DS was young and DH was out with his friends.

He’s been friends with these people since he was a child. They probably want to spend time with his child and have an opportunity to get to know her.

Is the OP her Husband’s boss? Why does he have to run everything past her? Isn’t he an equal parent?

But she does know them. Just not as well as the child’s other parent.

Team DH.

Stop being controlling.

Sounds like DH is a great guy and not one of those feckless layabouts we often hear of on here.

I still don't understand some posters fixation with the OP not knowing these people. She's admitted she does actually know them it's just she hasn't socialised with them much.

Not that it would matter because this child has two parents and the other one has known them since he was a toddler...

I don’t think it’s an issue at all because he’s known them since he was a small child and clearly trusts them. If this was a group of friends he’d just met then you’d have a point but he’s known them since he was a little bit older than your DD. It was obviously an emergency and he acted on instinct, your DD is also fine.

Better than leaving the baby with people the mum doesn’t know.

I’d be a bit uneasy and understand where you are coming from. Especially when it’s your first baby and you haven’t left them alone before , it’s a big milestone for a new mother. He should have let you know.

the alternative , bringing a baby to a&e during flu season isn’t a great idea. A&E is full of bugs and not somewhere I would want to being a 6 month old unless absolutely necessary.

Definitely an over reaction to a managed situation.

I might feel differently if a complete newborn but the baby is 6 months, they are robust usually able to sit up and eat solid food and assume not one who screams at the sight of strangers or DH probably wouldn’t have made that choice. What DH did seemed the obvious solution to me. Of course if necessary he could have spent extra time getting baby organised, squeezed them all in the back
of the car - probably making things more uncomfortable for poor ds who was likely distressed so not pleasant for baby to experience, but it wasn’t necessary as he had people there he knew and trusted who between 3 of them, as adults, likely do have baby experience while he did the round trip

WTF to those suggesting an ambulance- she’d wait hours as a non life threatening case and then potentially take a vital resource from someone that does had a life threatening condition. Crazy suggestion

@28loloie Sorry but I think you are over reacting. When my DD was six weeks old my DM died. She'd been terminally ill with cancer throughout my pregnancy but had willed herself to cling on to see her first grandchild. When it was sadly obvious that she really only had days left I flew on my own with my DD to my home city to be with my Mum. DH stayed behind. He came up for the funeral but we had no-one to look after the baby. A very old good friend said she had a good friend who wouldn't mind looking after her while we were at the funeral. I thought then it was a good solution and I still think it was. Maybe I should have given it more thought (I'd obviously never left her with anyone before) but I trust my friend and she trusted her friend and that was good enough.
Trust is key - your husband trusts his old friends and all was well - as it was for me.
Not how you expected it to be I know, but accidents happen and young sisters need to be dropped off at A and E.

Totally overreacting. Your husband had an emergency situation and left his daughter in the care of adults he has known since he was a toddler for a maximum of a few hours…

Thousands of teenagers get pregnant and manage to raise their babies to adulthood, let alone keep an infant safe for a few hours.

I think it was more Ops going out there's an opportunity to get the other language friends round have a gibber without having to think about which language we are using.

I bet that is something he'd have done with or without the baby.

Leaving with friends isn't the issue here, why does it sound like a state occasion that your husband is being left alone with his own child for a few hours and why on earth did he need company for it, that's weird, he needs to get used to one on one time with his own baby ASAP

YABVU, he's knows these people since he was a TODDLER, they are in no way shape or form strangers. And a 6 month old baby is not that hard to look after for an hour.

For people who come from a family oriented culture it would considered extremely normal to leave the baby with a friend for an hour while you attended to an emergency.

I thought you were going to say he went to the pub or something. He went to take his 11 year old sister who had broken bones to the hospital!!!

I honestly can't believe any of the replies saying he was being unreasonable.