Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

Good god, how do we think baby's form attachments, by spending time with people.

It was a hour. An hour!

These were trusted friends. Who have no doubt met the baby before.

Calling Op would have been a complete waste of time. And delayed getting the girl medical help

The other options involved delaying the taking of a badly injured 11 year old child to hospital, FFS.

The baby was safe and well. That is what mattered.

Of course I know that babies form attachments! Pretty sure that being left with kind people in their own home for an hour is damage their attachments. Not rocket science.

I think YABVU, but perhaps that's because it's your first child. The baby is 6 months old, not 6 days. "First time being left with someone other than one of its parents" really isn't a milestone, and even if it was, this was an emergency.

I assume the reason your husband didn't call you at the time was because he wanted you to continue to enjoy your precious day out and not have to cut it short or be worrying. I would expect my husband to do the same thing, and so would I if the situation was reversed.

I trust my husband to make the best call in any specific situation with my child, if I am unavailable or otherwise occupied. If we are both there then it would be a mutual decision, but my opinion doesn't count more than his just because I'm the mother.

If I didn't trust my husband to make good decisions with the welfare of my child (which yours did in this situation), then I would think we had real problems.

Do you not know that babies form attachments? This is not new news. They like familiar faces. You maybe left yours with unfamiliar faces but the op clearly isn't happy with that which her dh would have been well aware of.

There were other options the df should've at least had a conversation with his wife, we do all have phones nowadays it isn't rocket science.

“Abandoned”??? Don’t be so silly!

We mostly all manage one way or another then we have no choice. How much nicer and easier when there's a friend or three to step up and help.

I am sure if the DH had been home alone with the baby he’d have managed the hospital run with the baby in the car - we don’t know if the sister was in pain or not, she might have been perfectly comfortable or in agony.

However the DH could easily have spent 20-30mins
fading to get ready with the baby by which point she could have been at A&E.

Why are you using such emotive language?
The baby wasn't abandoned. Don't be so dramatic.

And I recall taking a 5 year old to a hospital with a broken arm; I left youngest DC at home with DH. He screamed all the way there, and flailed about to the point I was concerned he would get out of his car seat and cause an accident.

They weren't strangers, they had known the dad since the dad was a toddler. The child was not abandoned. Why use such emotive and incorrect language?

There was child care on hand, no need to take the baby to hospital.

Did you not want to hold and support your injured child? Much like the sister's mum would have wanted to.

Have some empathy

HOnestly I think your DH has managed a tricky situation quite well. DD is fine and was looked after fine. The sister made it to hospital, he dropped them off and went straight back. If he had called you nothing you would have told him to do would have speeded up the delivery of his sis to the hospital so I guess that is why he didn't contact you - you couldn't help as you were away and waiting for you would mean just that ... waiting.

DD never left the house, was with people he has known all his life and he is obviously happy to leave her with them in an emergency.

Not a great situation but I think he has done well.

it wasn't just a broken arm, they'd also broken their collar bone.

Would your 13yo like a cookie for being so stoic?

I recall taking a 13yr dc to a hospital with a broken arm, I took youngest dc too it was all very doable there wasn't any screaming or abandoning dc with adults totally unknown to her. The 13yr old had paracetamol and sat still as you'd expect?

The injured child would have needed physical and emotional support, and couldn't be in the back with a baby. Broken bones hurt.

Try again

Unless it's a 2 seater sports car how do you think they fit in? Dh driving, dm front seat 2 dc in the back..
You tend to just pick babies up and go tbh. It was a quick drive to a hospital they weren't going away for the weekend or anything.

Another poster ignoring the fact that this was about getting a badly hurt 11 year old to hospital as quickly as possible. If DH had fucked off to the pub OP that would obviously be different.

Fannying around phoning the OP for permission would have taken time, as would have getting a baby ready to go into a car as would potentially having to stop if the baby needed attention on the way. Imagine you had an 11 year old, had reached out for help and the person you called dithered for 20 minutes before coming over for trivial reasons. Imagine how shit that would be.

How would they have fit in the car? Injured child, mother of child, baby in car seat?

And that doesn't even take into consideration the delay in getting the baby ready.

Well, I'd have made sure my 6mth old was used to being left with people first but the op and her dh had chosen not to and that is up them. However the dh should have thought about that whilst making a decision what to do.

I'd have taken the dd in the car rather than leave her with people she'd never clapped eyes on before.

You're quite determined to point a finger of blame at the dad aren't you.

He made the best call he could.

What would you have done?

That might matter if the OP and her DH were planning a night out and sorting childcare in advance and choosing the best option, but not for an emergency. In an emergency you just need something immediate and safe. His friends were already there - immediate. And both OP and her DH know they are good with children and DH has known them since young - safe. It was a no-brainer.

Well those people had been in the house with dad before he left the baby so obviously baby had seen them. Probably visited in last 6 months also

It’s really not like he left the baby with them for a weekend. It was an emergency situation where he had to decide whether to stick the baby in the car for an hour (which would have been difficult as the 11 year old had a double break and would have likely to have needed support in the back of the car) or leave the baby (who needed a bottle) with friends for the hour.

Obviously in an ideal world we’ll gradually introduce our babies to their care givers/ babysitters but sometimes kids fall off their bikes and you need to make a quick decision.

It appears the baby was happy and didn’t scream for the hour. If they did scream for the hour it wouldn’t be ideal but ultimately it would be a lesson that they’d need to do something different next time. What they have learned is that if they do need to leave the baby with friends at the moment, it will probably be fine.