Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

You said he was gone for an hour and she needed a bottle during that time

No doubt he had to go quikcly and not faff about planning bags and bottles for baby

Could he have contacted you first to see if you could come back?

I think for future reference I would say to him to always call you first should another unexpected event happen. All my friends are mothers so I would have no issue leaving a baby with them, but I wouldn’t be happy about leaving them with anyone who had scant experience of looking after a baby.

They were friends of your husband, three adult people. I would imagine between them they could manage to look after a six month old baby for an hour. I would have been more concerned if it was just one friend who might do something silly or if the baby was much younger when they are very dependent and you have to be very careful holding them. I assume your DH had a phone if they had had any problems.

And perhaps his friends wanted to see the baby, not just that he didn't want to be alone with her.

Where would baby car seat go if the mum was sitting with her daughter (who would have been probably crying/screaming in pain )in the car? . Mum supporting arm and clavicle etc
My 10 yr old broke her arm falling off a bike and absolutely no way would she have been capable supporting her arm .pin car. She also vomited on the way to AE .
I have also had similar injury and the pain is absolutely terrible. .

Have you left home with a 6 month old recently @OVienna ?

No big deal IMO

Had it been me, I would have done the following:

1. Put DD in the car seat
2. Driven to A&E to support the little sister
3. Called OP to say what was happening, please meet at the hospital to collect DD instead of going home first, in the event I'm not back.

I would not have left a 6 mo with my friends. Not because they're fundamentally flawed but just not at that age. Sometimes the baby has to come with, if the OP and her DH have more children, this could happen too.

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And made his sister wait in agony while he packed the baby into the car, and then taken a 6 month old into A&E? Perhaps left the baby in the car?
BS. I think he made the right choice in a tough spot, and the baby is fine and nothing untoward happened... so he's vindicated.

It was an emergency and the fact that one of his friends is a female kind of makes it OK for me. Not ideal but he must have stressed out by his sister getting hurt. Tell him to call you next time @28loloie but be nice to him. It wasn't as he went out to the gym leaving your baby with friends.

Bit shocked at some of these responses. Does the idea that at six months, the baby’s major bond is with the mother mean that the mother should never leave the baby? Or is it OK for them to leave the baby with the baby’s father? How about a nursery or childminder?

My first two DC were with a CM and DH (their father) from about 4 months old as my mat leave was only 20 weeks (back in the day). They were fine.

OP I think in extremis, your DH made a decent decision. He knows his friends, there were three of them, presumably he briefed them and they were happy to babysit. Certainly to me it’s better to leave the baby in familiar surroundings with people the parent trusts than take them in the car to hospital A&E.

He could have called you but maybe didn’t want to worry you when you were enjoying some precious time for you. It’s OK to leave the baby even at this age (ignore those suggesting it’s not). It’s OK to have some time of your own, doing your stuff. Maybe discuss with DH that you would like a heads-up about any changes to the plan, next time.

I assume you also feel that OP can't have friends round when she is supposed to be looking after her own child?
And you would be totally ok with OP's DH telling her that?

Did the friends have any experience of dealing with tiny babies?

Possibly just about OK if they did and big fat NO of they didn't.

I don't see the issue. He left his daughter with people he trusts while dealing with an emergency. Your child was likely safer at home with his friends than she would have been during a car journey with a stressed driver trying to get to hospital quickly.

I speak from experience. I broke my collarbone as a teen. My Mum drove me to hospital, the route to which involved a cattle grating. Driving over the grating really bloody hurt and I groaned (my Mum claims screamed). She promptly panicked and drove off the road, which really didn't help matters!

I think he made the right call in the circumstances

Bottom line is, if you're going to leave your baby with anyone you have to trust them to make the right decisions in an emergency.

He might have done things differently to you, although you have considered the decison without the pressure of an emergency to deal with, but he took steps that kept baby safe and dealt with the situation at the time. He also did it without disrupting your afternoon.

But his friends were there, obviously didnt mind. I wouldnt want to take a 6mo baby to A&E when I didn't have to

Sounds to me like the man and woman that came over to see him were visiting him to see his new baby.

Rather than having mates around for a knees up)

Taken the baby with him as he would’ve had to have done if his friends weren’t there.

He told you voluntarily

I hope you didn’t kick off at him (suspect you did) because he’ll just learn not worth the hassle being open with you

Personally I think it’s odd that he invited three friends round while he was parenting his own child for a few hours for the first time.
Why couldn’t he just spend time with his daughter/run the hoover round /prep dinner/iron etc?
Why did he feel the need to have three mates round? FOMO because you were ‘out’?
If he hadn’t had these friends round he could have just done what the rest of us would have done and taken her with him.
I personally wouldn’t like my baby being left with people I don’t really know but I wouldn’t like my husband having to have three mates round when he is supposed to be looking after his own child.
Any money he is one of these ‘parents’ who says he is ‘babysitting’ when it’s his own child??

Maybe he should have called to let you know but otherwise he did nothing wrong

Same for if you'd done the same

The pain that his little sister must have been experiencing is horrific…I have had the same injury! It was an emergency and your husband had to make a quick decision .

But the Dad has to make judgements too. Assuming he hasn't left her with his dealer it all sounds ok really.

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