Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

This is mad. Husband was looking after his own child. An emergency situation occurred where he would have had to think quick. He made a decision- a decision that worked well. Sister got to hospital safely, baby was safe at home (no indication that anything untoward happened and the chances that the OP’s husband had three child abusers visiting at the time this happened would be vanishingly small) and OP got to finish her brunch and wasn’t called home.

What exactly is the problem?

It's his daughter too, not just yours.

As a mum, especially remembering how it felt to be a ftm to my pfb at 6 months, I completely understand where you are coming from. However, take a step back and think about it from DHs pov, he probably took a phone call from his distraught mother and was worried about his sister. DD was probably being cuddled or maybe napping with one of his friends (who he trusts). I can absolutely see why he made this decision.

I think it’s fair to say ‘DH I don’t feel comfortable with this, in future please don’t do it’ but I don’t think you should guilt-trip him for a decision made in the moment.

It was something you weren't expecting you are upset, that;s OK to be upset. But your DH did what I think I would have done. I would have left the 6 month old with my friends and gone to help my 11 yr old sister.

His mum probably rang in a panic 'little Gem has fallen off her bike and is in agony can you take us to the hospital'. It sounds like baby was going to need a bottle, possibly a nappy change, get a bag, etc. Time wise you are talking a few mins to grab the car keys and show friends where the baby things are. vrs 30 minutes to feed/ change/ load

Are his friends paedophiles?

What has this got to do with the OP post?
FYI I always had friends coming round when my babies were little,for adult company etc. Daughter and SIL as well…it’s really not that unusual!

lol at the posters criticising him for having his pals over. Clutching at straws, much?

it’s an exceptional event. Shit happens. It’s fine.

Why didn't he phone OP? Are you being serious?

So the first time he has the baby on his own, there is an emergency in the family and he rings OP, interrupting her much needed time out away from the house to do what exactly?? It's not like she could do anything other than come home, or demand he deal with it in a specific way, she'd most likely cut her outing short, so why she be guilted into coming home, when he has sorted it, there and back within an hour.

I think it's great he didn't ring you and make it your problem, it's not ideal that he left baby with his friends that you don't know, but assuming they are capable people and he knows them well and trusts them, why would there be a problem? Taking a potentially screaming baby in the car with an 11 year old with broken bones is definitely not the right solution to the problem, so he made a judgement call.

I think he did the the right thing given the circumstances.

I would have expected this too

It's not hard.

Sometimes there is more than one child present with needs to meet, as is the case here.

The older child needed to go to A&E, nevertheless the father was also responsible for his own baby.

It's not obvious that the DH couldn't have called time on the meeting with his mates and gone to A&E with the baby to meet his mother and sister.

It's not obvious at all that the only solution for the DH was to leave the child with these people, many people would not have done that, and that would be their choice and their call.

I think the OP would have said if the victors had good experience with babies. Even if they did I would have expected him to let OP know the plan in advance (given her a 2 second phone call) so she could have started home immediately.

It's quite telling that you've ignored those asking if you would leave your daughter with a friend in this situation. The silence suggests you would so why is it not ok for him to do the same?

I take it you never had any visitors visit you while you were on your own LOOKING AFTER YOUR OWN CHILD?!

He knows his friends and was happy to leave his child with them.

I have no idea how this is relevant?

No, that's why I asked the question???

Its not necessary to call an ambulance, there is someone there that can drive her and they'll be waiting hours and hours for an ambulance.

This is what family do for each other dont they?

He made a choice to arrnage emergency childcare for his child. And he has the right to do that. Unless OP is going to drip feed that they were all drunk or something

Do you know that the friends don't have children of their own? I don't see that in the OP anywhere.

So he should make his life harder than it needs to be because...why, exactly?

Do any of the friends have children? Before I had DS I had never had experience of babies

What are you on about ?

This isn’t a run of a mill situation is it?

I’m a pain the arse when it comes to my kids and leaving them with people. But I think I’d be ok with this. I’d expect a heads up (but equally he may not have wanted to disturb your brunch if you don’t get out much)

We also don’t know it isn’t the case. You launched straight into ‘nope. Mum doesn’t know them so no’ but you acknowledge if it was someone you knew and trusted it would be fine.
so you don’t trust a DH to have a clue but think mother’s do?

Your comment makes no sense?