Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

Getting an injured child to hospital is not the time for faffing around with Google Maps and street layouts you aren't sure off.

Google maps is wonderful for collecting random stuff from Facebook marketplace, not for getting a seriously injured child to hospital

Or have heard of Google maps. It's an app that gives you directions. Apparently not everyone has heard of it...

It also assumes the friends know exactly where his mum lives.

Keep in mind he probably made the decision "Yes Mum I'll be there just now" in the space of 20 seconds. While friends have said 'we'll stay with baby'.

It probably never entered his head that Op would be upset by him leaving the baby with his friends who he clearly trusts.

I’m just giving my opinion 😂 I said I could understand why OP was upset. You feel differently, that’s fine. I’m not going to make the same point 1,000 and argue the toss until the end of time.

@ByWarmShark
I know what you mean, 3 of them, including a woman, it reduces the chances of something going wrong.

I do get Op must have had a bit of a shock to get home, finding 3 friends with her baby and no DH.
I just hope she's vented on here and not to DH who did the right thing and probably made a snap decision but trusts his friends.

I'll stand by him, hes a keeper with good mates, who took great care of baby.

Yes that could have worked, assumes of course that the 3 friends could all drive, that they all had their respective car with them (might have walked to the house or got public transport), or that the sister didnt want her brother for comfort and support.

But good outcome all round, baby safe at home with routine not disrupted, sister treated in hospital, OP enjoying her lunch without interruption

Why are you trying to minimise his sister’s injury?
You sound ridiculous.

That would have also been a good solution.
Doesn’t mean the one Dad chose was a bad solution though.

Such fertile imaginations!

Oh God don't suggest a simple solution, the girl with the 'multiple broken bones' <an arm and a collar bone> would have apparently been screaming non stop and would have needed 'emotional and physical support', not just some paracetamol and instructions to sit still.
Far better to leave a baby who for reasons the op and her dh had agreed on, had never been left with unfamiliar faces before..

I would probably have offered to run the sister to A and E if I were one of the friends. Seems more sensible for the baby to remain with a parent and a friend help with the emergency.

So the child with two broken bones in the back of a car with the baby in her car seat. And if for some reason the man’s mother needs help getting the girl into A&E he has to take the baby with him? Right. And all because the baby’s mother might have been a little irrationally anxious. Wow. Some people have very warped priorities.

The baby was massively safer at home with 3 known adults than in a car on a busy road with a driver who is possibly distracted by a sobbing and in pain relative. Who would also be more uncomfortable squashed in beside a car seat. Baby could also get upset by crying making driving even harder. He def made the best decision imo

Maybe since this was the first time she'd been out without the baby, he was reluctant to call her to come home. He had willing, capable people who he trusted there to watch the baby, which they did, with no problem. I get being anxious leaving the baby, but everything was fine, which should have assuaged the anxiety.

And I think we can all empathise with that anxiety. However, that doesn’t mean her husband wasn’t capable of making a decision about childcare in an emergency situation. It also doesn’t mean he made a poor decision either.

I suggested he could have taken the baby with him. And told OP so she was aware and could come home early, which she said she would have happily done.

Clearly I have a different opinion to some posters here, there isn’t a right or wrong answer, but what I’m saying is I understand why OP feels upset about this.

I don’t mean that the baby doesn’t have two parents, but it’s not a stretch to assume that OP has been on maternity leave and has been looking after the baby more than her DH, which therefore means she’s more anxious to leave her alone for the first time.

(No shade on single males - I'd leave my kids with my child free, single brother in a heartbeat - and would have 100% trust in him (not least because he looked after me often enough as a kid) - but statistically the risk would be higher if looked at on a population level)

I also think the fact there were 3 of them including a woman makes a massive difference. It probably shouldn't but to me that's a much safer situation than leaving a baby with a lone male. In fact it makes it so safe that I think it's ridiculous to be worried. If it had been 1 male friend who didn't have kids I could understand the discomfort (that'd probably be fine too, but I would find it easier to understand why the mum might be uneasy)

I accept that the OPs anxiety about leaving her baby is understandable.

But the solution to that is not to allow that anxiety to perpetuate two-tier parenting, it's to adapt to trust her DH and allow him to make (responsible, safe) decisions solo.

Primary carer?
The child has two equal parents. There shouldn’t be a hierarchical decision making process.

Primary carer?

She has two primary carers because she lives with both of them.

DH is a parent, so is OP. There is no order of hierarchy.

I do feel that being primary carer is not as relevant as you feel it is. Is the DH equally her parent? Does he have parental authority? If so, then he should be able to make decisions regarding the welfare of his child in the same way that OP can.

OP has decided that she doesn't like being away from baby - fine, that's her choice. DH made a reasonable and rational decision in the moment as a parent. That's equally as valid.

We infantalise men in respect of their ability to make decisions as parents and then complain when they act like infants when it comes to parenting.

Shoe on the other foot, if the OP had left DD with her childhood friends for an hour to resolve an emergency while DH was off out with his mates and DH had kicked off, it would be a bloodbath on here as to what a twat he is.

So what do you suggest should have happened about the 11 year old with two broken bones?