Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

You’d have been happy to have a child wait in a lot of pain whilst you came back?

I never had a child... until I had a child. A 6mo needs watching. There was 3 adults present for an hour..bloody hell

You have no idea what would have awaited him at A+E, sometimes you cant just 'drop off' near to where you want, no doubt his sister needed physcal support to move around and their mum might not have been able to manage that on her own, your daughter did not need to be disrupted and unsettled to the degree that shes dragged out, bundled up, dad then has to try to manage her while supporting sister.

You cant just make assumptions about how the drop off would have been, he was aboslutely right to leave your daughter in safe care.

How long would it have taen you to get home?

I think it's normal to feel a bit funny about this as you leaving her is a new thing. That is always going to be a thing you have to get used to emotionally, and it will feel funny at first.

But I just see the situation as the unexpected happened, he reacted, helped his sister and made sure the baby was looked after. Assuming these are decent people - and there's no suggestion they aren't - then that's fine. This situation isn't about providing perfect early years education like in a nursery, it's about keeping the baby safe and entertained for an hour while a parent deals with the unexpected.

You can ‘wow’ all you like.
The fact is, that the OP has never left her first born child with anyone else, apart from her partner. Not even relatives.
On that basis, I think she’s justified in being pissed off and upset.

They never had children so not clear how much they know about looking after a child including changing nappies. Not everyone you know all your life is a trustworthy caregiver to a baby.
He clearly didn’t think that through.

Definitely nerve touched 😂

Indeed!

Yours is 'resilient' remember?

I think there should be a KPI for that, don't you, for the under ones?

The next time I come across a GP friend, I'll raise that.

They’re not ‘whoever’. The OP’s husband has known them all his life.

Gosh.

Is your husband unable to make any independent decisions at all?

Hope no one in your extended family has to ever rely on your compassion 😬

Important information here - he has known them since he was a toddler.

You trusted your DH enough to have a baby with him, so surely you trust him enough to decide whether his friends that he has known his entire life are OK to look after a 6 month old for an hour??

It's not about YOU knowing them. The important thing is HE knows them, and clearly made a sensible decision.

I thought you meant some blokes he'd only known for a few months that he didn't know well.

Taken the baby with him.

I think people like you are truly bonkers.
but maybe you have lots of spare children so happy to leave them with whoever.

Wow.

His sister had a legitimate reason to need to be taken to A&E. He needed to go.

You need to start working as a team. He has as much right to make decisions like this as you and if he is looking after the baby, you need to accept that he is able to make a decision like this without your approval. Wait until In Laws start babysitting and god forbid do something you dont approve of. I alsways worked on the principle that if i trusts someone enough to look after my child, i trust them to make the difficult decisions in their best interests when i am not there even if i dont agree with them. Nothing happened. They arent just strangers off the street and it was a mix of friends. It wasnt just a couple of blokes he knows.

Life throws curve balls into family situations. He made a reasonable choice in a difficult situation

YABU

Can you imagine the uproar if DH had rung the OP at her brunch and told her to come back?! Everybody would be outraged saying how useless he is and how he can't cope on his own!

So you wanted him to leave an 11 year old in agony while you travelled home?

Wait till your pfb is 11. I know you feel like it’s all grown up now but she’s just a wee girl and she needed help.

For everyone saying you are BU clearly don’t understand how much of a big deal it is to leave your baby for the first time.

It's his baby too...

It is not the fact that the people she was left with were totally “fine”, it was the promise he would watch DD for the duration that OP was out.

And if the OP was "watching" the baby (although let's face it, nobody would ever say that about a mum) and needed to leave the baby for an hour with a good friend to attend to another family, would she need to run it by DH....?

No, thought not. Double standards as usual.

Nerve. Touched. 😂

Yep, what an arsehole for taking one hour out of his day to help family while his baby is being looked after by family friends.