Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

OP explained why his friends were there that afternoon.

I don’t mind that he had his friends over, why would I? I have friends over but I wouldn’t leave DD with them without consulting DH. I don’t speak the same language as these friends (DH grew up speaking two languages, I’ve learned one of them but not the one his friends speak), so while they do speak English they prefer talking native language when together and that’s obviously easier if I’m not there, if I was they’d speak English and enjoy it less.

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Good lord.

Put 'them' to sleep on a sofa? It's just one baby and a she, the op has said.
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whatevenarethey, all those things could have happened but hardly likely and they didn't. I get how you feel but the guy had to make a quick decision and presumably he knows his friends even if you don't. Trust his judgement, it's over now anyway with with no harm done and I doubt such a situation will arise again while your daughter is still a baby.

Draw a line and move on.

Ugly attitude

Even if your husband doesnt have family, you can surely understand the value and benefit in society supporting each other.

This why we're going to hell in hand cart quite frankly

This thread also highlights why the cycle continues of useless men. So many posters who expected the husband to call the OP instead of dealing with the emergency (which he did). So many think that the men shouldn’t manage and the woman has to deal with everything child related. It’s depressing.

The mother is widowed. Perhaps she doesn't drive. Perhaps she is on medication that forbids her to drive.

Oof… there a way to vote the OP is being reasonable and the posters in this thread are being the unreasonable ones?

@28loloie yo sound perfectly normal here. Of course it was a shock when you came home and found out what happened. Honestly would have been if there was no 6 mo old baby. You’re also not unreasonable to have feelings about your baby being left with the friends. I think once the shock wears off a bit you’ll be able to understand how this all unfolded and how quickly it went down.

It’s done now and the best thing going forward is to to talk to your husband about what happened, share your feelings, and move on after having a few more what if planning sessions with your DH.

There are plenty of useless men out there who don't deserve to me married. But there are also some men who push themselves beyond their comfort zones, and yet get nothing but criticism for any perceived imperfection. Then they disengage and withdraw, and we'll question why.

Taking a child who has broken two bones to
hospital is a bit more than ferrying people about. It was an emergency for one hour.

I know they say "charity begins at home" but I'm baffled by some of these attitudes. People who wouldn't help their sister in an emergency because they wouldn't leave their baby with trusted friends. Honestly I despair.

Every now and then there is a MN thread where the responses feel completely alien to me. This is one of them. I can't belive so many people think this was somehow wrong and irresponsible. Very interesting and makes me understand why people won't have kids.

I’d prefer my 6 month old not to have to witness an 11 year old in severe distress during that car journey. Distressed adults too no doubt.

Ok, I get it! This is why I married a man without dependent family, good lord.

Read the thread. It might actually help you understand.

@28loloie

How's his sister now? Is she coping OK?

I think this thread should be flagged under some category like 'reasons why the divorce rate is so high'

From the OP:

I’ve left her with DH while I go a walk but the longest I’ve been away from her until yesterday was maybe an hour.

DH said he would have DD and invited a few of his friends who I don’t know super well ... to keep him company.

This is the first time he's spent more than an hour alone with his child on his own, and he needs company? It says in the OP that he invited them over, they could have come when everyone was home but he invited them to come when he was on his own, having quality time with his 6 month old.

When does a trip to A&E get done in an hour? Did he leave his sister there? How did she get home?

what new father needs to be kept company the first time he had sold charge of a new baby?

a man opting out of parenting, that’s who.

"couldn't manage this without company"

Do you know him? Were you there? Or are you just making stuff up in your own head and then getting cross about it?

I don't think anyone would particularly "like it". But occasionally, extreme circumstances dictate that we put aside a preferences and comfort to help our fellow human in a moment of need. At least some of us do.

Well, apart from the injured child

I would not be happy at all about this. At six months, I would have popped her in the car, dropped off the sister and driven back. No way would I have left her.

Yes, I’m seeing. So much unnecessary spite in the world. It’s sad isn’t it?

Because it's his eleven year old sister? Bloody hell.

Because she’s his sister. A child who he presumably loves who had a number of broken bones.