Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

But who he had known since childhood…

I'd expect a call, and him to take the baby with him if that was the right call for her. Come on. He had better options.

I honestly don’t think he did anything wrong.

Luckily my husband and I have always trusted each other’s judgment and been able to make independent decisions when needed. It’d be a pain in the arse calling each other every time something new came up.

I’m imagining his sister was screaming in agony. A good idea to put a baby in the car with her? If the mother had done this and left the baby with her three friends would think this was off?

He left her baby with people she barely knew. Not the same as 'which brand of bum cream would be better' ffs.

And you would leave a child with broken bones to go to hospital in an UBER or wait hours for an ambulance? Seriously?

What difference does it make if its the first or 15th time

The husband had care of the child, he decided who he sought childcare from. A he should

YABU. If you can't trust your DH's ability to make safe childcare choices you shouldn't have had a DC. I'd never consult with my DH about who had to have my DC in an emergency and visa versa, we both can trust the judgement of the other.

JFC 🤦.

At 6m old? Yeah I would! At least, if he were out and I needed to leave the baby with friends to take someone to hospital... It's weird to me. Just is.

Do you run everything past your husband about children? What decisions can he make independently?

I said I'd want the choice if it was the first time I left my baby.

Do most mums of 6 month old spend all day on the phone to the father having a discussion about each decision they're making that day?

Why would this be necessary

On this basis he was reasonable. They aren't brand new friends from the pub they are lifelong friends he trusts, who are from a family friendly culture as you've described and who you have met more than once despite not knowing them well. It was an hour, baby was fine. I don't think you would've got a car seat his mum and his sister in the back and his sister may well have needed someone next to her to support her arm given the severity of the injury and her age. The only thing I would've wanted DH to do would have been to tell me so I could choose whether to come home when expected or cut my brunch short.

Read the thread. She was with mum who didn’t drive. He didn’t stay with them. Just dropped them off. Why should the OP’s brunch be disturbed when he had trusted friends to support for the hour?

I haven't rtft but I read your posts OP. I wouldn't be ok about this. I would at least have expected a phonecall so I had the chance to be a part of his decision. That's the thing that's bothering me the most, I think - you weren't given any say.

Read the OP replies,all the answers are there 🙄

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Did you really mean to make that blanket statement?! Holy shit.

And why haven't you RTT? 🤣 All of that has been explained multiple times.

I'd expect a call so I had the choice of whether to return immediately or trust them with my baby.

And since when did A&E take an hour and why didn't whoever was looking after his sister take her to A&E.

Everything sounds suss. I wouldn't be happy.

It’s shocking that people think he shouldn’t have prioritised his badly injured little sister over a 6 month old who was totally oblivious,happy etc ! Not one person has explained how they would transport baby in car seat,badly injured 11yr old and Mum safely in his car !!

Presumably DH had to leave in a bit of a rush and just made the split-second decision to leave the baby with friends who were clearly trustworthy, as the baby was absolutely fine. He probably didn't want to bother OP when she was getting what will be a well-deserved break as well.

Personally, I don't really see what the problem is at all.

Would you divorce him if circumstances change then? 😂
Like his mother had an accident and needed help for 6 weeks? Or is he an orphan or something?

Sounds like sister would have been in a lot of pain, very distressing for his mum and sister. I think leaving baby with his very close friends is ok. I wouldnt expect a phone call or discussion as it would delay him leaving. Same as packing bag, bottles etc. Also he dropped them off and went straight back so he was away as short a time as possible.

If he left baby for a non urgent reason, or if he left baby with a neighbour or collegue he didnt know well i would be furious. But sounds like quick and stressful decision and although you may not know his friends well you do know them and he has known them a very long time.