Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

I would have expected him to call me in this case! Or taken the baby with him…

This would have been the obvious thing to do. Even with good friends I wouldn't have left my 6 month old with them as they would have been pretty clueless as to what to do if they started screaming etc. At that age your baby goes pretty much everywhere with a parent.

Suppose it depends on where you live then, but we live in the middle of nowhere and whenever we've needed an ambulance for one of ours, they're always super fast - I got the impression they prioritise children.

I would have wanted a phone call too, and would have been shooting off home as soon as I was told my baby was in the care of a bunch of randoms I barely know.

Again Op has explained. The ambulance was going to be 4 hours. You'd have left an 11yo waiting for an ambulance for 4 hours whan you could help?

How does injured child get supported in the back seat with car seat there?

Baby isn’t a newborn. And mum doesn’t get to call all the shots.

You aren’t getting an ambulance anytime soon for this and what hard hearted person would prefer a child to be injured for longer than necessary and why shouldn’t her brother be asked for help? I help my family

They have said it would have been ages, to be fair. I'm finding it strange that I'm being interrogated when I just said I would want a phone call though 😆

Or instead of those dramatic scenarios, he could have stuck the baby in her carseat and taken her along.

I would he fuming if DH left my newborn with his mates. I wouldn't care how long he'd known them.

To be honest, I find it weird that he was called to drive over to his Mum's and then drive his sister to hospital instead of them just calling an ambulance. Unless they live next door or something, it makes no sense to me.

I’m asking you as you said there was better options. And you would be happy to make an injured child wait longer than necessary while you finished your eggs Benedict and made your way home?

I dunno mate, I don't know any of the details or distances. I know I would want a phone call. That's it!

I think you're being extremely unreasonable. His sister had a fall that broke multiple bones and the friends were nice enough to mind the baby while he took sister to the ER.

So you don't know them. He does and he's ok to make a parental decision that she would be ok with them while he dealt with an emergency.

I used to watch a friend's baby when she worked and I didn't know the dad.

Would you expect him to wait until you got home before taking his sister? If so that seems unnecessarily cruel on the poor 11 year old.

I must have a heart of stone because leaving my baby for a short time really wasn’t a big deal to me!

Why is the baby being in car for on hour, half of that time with a distressed child better than being at home with long term family friends?

Ask the OP? She clearly didn't think this was the right one. If it were me I'd come home, but I haven't said she should have, just that he should have asked her whether she was ok with him leaving the baby.

None of that is relevant - she didn't get to say whether she agreed with any of those things, or was fine for baby to be left. Which is precisely what my first comment said.

What were the better options?

He should have told you. And even then, why wouldn’t he just take your baby with him, if he was just driving them to A&E? Lack of communication on his part has made this a bigger issue than it should have been.

Absolutely this. How anyone thinks its a better option to drag a baby out for this I do not know

Makes me question these people's judgement in their parenting.

Ultimately what they're suggesting is to ring the wife, not just to 'check' with her, but to get her to direct what should happen, even though he had already decided

Thats how women end up parenting their husbands and being mentally exhausted and then resentful of being the one in charge.

And then a single parent.

Regardless, if it was me I would want to know. OP clearly wanted to know, too. We aren't all the same. I just expressed how I would feel in these circumstances.

It makes all the difference in the world!

It's a really big deal the first time you leave your baby and for such a massive thing to happen during that time must have been really upsetting for OP.

My girls are teenagers so it's been a very long time since this would have worried me but I can remember how emotional ALL the mums were when our babies were small.

Why is leaving the baby for one hour with long term family friends a bad option? Why is baby being in the car for an hour, half of which with a distressed child better? Why would making the OP leave her brunch early (or worry for the rest of it) better?

And you’d say no-sorry-the child with broken bones will have to wait hours for an ambulance. Right.

Personally I'd be more annoyed if my husband had the option to leave the baby with very good friends and instead decided to take them in the car with a very distressed 11 year old with multiple broken bones.

But he does know them, the parents dont have to know each others friends equally

He's known them from childhood, almost like family.

Women are sometimes their own worst enemy. There is a lack of ability or downright refusal in many to confront where traditionally patriarchal beliefs, assumptions and expectations are still being permitted to influence behaviour and treatment of others.