Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

It does. "DH has known them since he was a toddler"

Exactly! The baby I’m sure would’ve been much happier getting attention at home than sitting in the car for an hour. I think it would also have been quite a stressful drive for the DH, never mind worrying about the baby too.

These responses are nuts, and I’m known for being quite over-protective and risk averse.

People are triaged on clinical need ! Age not the priority.If the patient is safe they are bottom of the queue.

Absolutely nowhere does it say these were "lifelong friends" of the father. In fact the OP says she barely knows them.

Again, how do lone parents cope? Or parents with three or four kids to cram into a car? They just get on with it, don't they?

And a broken arm isn't quite as dramatic as everybody on here is making it out to be, is it? Neither of mine even knew they had broken bones until we got to hospital!

I would have even expected DH to make a decision based on the fact that the baby HAD to go along. Leaving the baby with his mates shouldn't have even entered his head as a possible option.

As an aside, there was a thread recently about a husband who was sulking all day because he couldnt get a Premier Inn breakfast

OP was annoyed at his sulking and it turned out through the thread that she suggested they dont eat at PI but instead go off and find a nicer cafe

The emphasis was that HE AGREED with this plan

But later was pissed off at the faffing around trying to find somewhere they all liked and wanted and then apparently said to her, words to the effect of, 'you always make all the decisions'

Lots of comments from other posters saying why didnt he just say 'no I dont want a nice cafe, I want a PI breakfast', he didnt 'use his words'

lThis is how it starts people, having to check out everything, ask permission, your suggestion of what you want to do is undermined, disagreed with etc etc

So then you learn not to disagree and use your words

And then you decide you cant put up with this lark and check out of parenting all together and take up golf or cycling.

What's wrong with having some friends round? Nobody has suggested he needed them, but it's nice to see your mates, isn't it?

Fucking hell, people are weird on here at times.

They called an ambulance and said it would take a long time (read the OP’s replies).

You can find it weird but that doesn't mean they haven't or wouldn't do it again. You never know what you'd do until you find yourself in the situation.

You don't even need checks if you're not going to be alone with the children, which these three adults weren't.

I can also confirm this is total nonsense and is in no way applicable to children as a population.
Additionally, a fractured collar bone can be excruciating. This was an 11 year old child with multiple fractures (arm and collar bone). A fairly significant injury.

I wouldn't have liked this either when my baby was 6 months old, I'd expect my dh to call me first and discuss what to do and I probably would have come home in this situation. Maybe he didn't want to disturb your lovely time out of the house though, playing devil's advocate.

Side note but I'd also call an ambulance if my child broke their arm. I thought you weren't supposed to move a broken limb until paramedics arrive.

There must be an underlying issue here, like the friends being irresponsible types, or the husband having weird untrustworthy friends or something??

Personally, I'd be fine with it. It's OK that you aren't but also OK that your DH didn't realise it would be an issue. A 6 month old isn't a newborn, many babies that age are in childcare, with several different care givers that the parents don't personally know. An hour at home with your DH's life-long friends, in an emergency situation really doesn't seem like a big deal.

His little sister needed to go to the hospital, even though it wasn't a life or death situation it was still probibly stressful for everyone and he will have had to make an in the moment decision. It's not ideal that he didn't consider your preference for parent only care, but I can totally see how that may not have been forefront in his mind in the moment.

May e not, but that doesn't make what DH did wrong, just different.

Arguably insisting on staying with baby, delaying getting care for the 11yo would have been a less good decison, although again understandable, and if it had been OP in charge at the time, her decision would also have been fine.

Exactly this.
Both equal parents

I find that very weird!!

Leaving your baby with three people he's known his entire life to take his 11 year old sister to A&E is hardly leaving the baby with some randoms from work.

He's her father. He gets to make some decisions about what is appropriate for his daughter. He doesn't need to ask permission.

And me when I fell off my bike as an adult and discloated (not even broke) my knee

Well several have done exactly that and said as much on this thread...

Again, those are all adults. We've waited hours and hours for ambulances for elderly relatives.

Ambulances for children, especially ones in severe pain, seem to be prioritised and always come fast. We're out in the countryside too.

I dont think a mother would leave their young baby to drive a sibling to hospital.

You are not being unreasonable Op. At all.

There's a reason why childcare is the most regulated and everyone who works with children has a police check.

I reckon those yelling YABU would be the first to yell at a mom who left her baby at a nursery knowing they didn't check their staff.

Your baby is totally dependant on you and DH for her care and safety. You should think twice, three times and then again before leaving her with anyone. There were alternative ways of managing and talking through these will help you both feel more confident.

Best way forward is to have a conversation and plan for next time. Then if an emergency happens DH will know how to manage and what works for you and keeps your baby safe.

Best wishes for you and your family.

Yup.

YABU. He’s the baby’s father and should be able to make decisions in exactly the same way you can. He trusts his friends and he had to make a judgement call. I’m not sure what else he could reasonably have done. A&E waiting times can be up to 12 hours here if it’s not life threatening, and it’s no place for a baby. Better she was safe at home with people he trusted.