Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

Because in 6 months it sounds that he's not looked after his child on his own for longer than an hour.
So maybe he doesn't know what child care actually consists of?

It isn’t irresponsible at all.
It might shock you but child free people are capable of caring for children. Some are better than actual parents!

Child free friends who have grown up around children and managed the one hour of childcare fine.

I babysat for my friend, all alone when I was child free. She had a same day doctors appointment and her husband was at work. He didn’t know me well. He didn’t lose his shit. There was no accusations of paedophilia or that I’d shake the baby.

But why is that irresponsible?

'Their' baby....

I rather suspect you don't actually have any children given all your sensationalist posts.

Ha! LOL!!! Like a six month old would give two shits about an 11 year old with a broken collar bone. Too busy eating her own sock and dribbling.

My child also broke their collar bone last summer. There was no distress, no screaming. Just sat in minor injuries waiting for an x-Ray and then a sling.

At least she would be with a parent. Not left with strangers.

Yes it was an emergency but...

First time he has to care for his child for longer than an hour his mates come round.

Which is lucky as apparently he was incapable of just bringing his child to the hospital when his sister needed to go to a and e. 🙄

What if he had needed to be with his sister longer? Did his friends have any way of contacting you if there'd been an emergency with your child?

The baby isn't a "newborn" nice job with trying to sensationalise it though.

If your 11 year old sibling had an accident, broke bones and were in significant pain, 4 hours wait for an ambulance, no money for an Uber. Are you REALLY saying that your DH would be angry at you that you left your 6 month old safe in your house with someone you have know your whole life for an hour while you nipped there and back quickly?

He sounds like he doesn't trust you at all.

I do trust DH. He wouldn't have left any of ours as babies with a group of his childfree friends, he's not that irresponsible.

Yes this is dramatic and is only really applicable if you don’t trust your husband to make decisions about the welfare of his own child.

Your issue then is that you have married someone but don't trust their judgement.
Most people can trust the judgement of their children's father, or they wouldn't have had children with them.

I think he did the right thing by his injured little sister. It’s his baby too and he has the right to make decisions. And everyone is fine. It was an emergency, it’s not like he left her to go to the pub.

I'm sure mum isn't running every decision past her husband - can you imagine, "hi darling, sorry for calling you at work but I'm at playgroup and desperate for the loo and one of the ladies who runs it has said she'll hold the baby for me, what do you think?"

Dramatic is an absolute understatement. If you really feel as strongly as you come across in your post I genuinely urge you to get some support for anxiety.

They weren't strangers, they were his friends, whom he obviously trusts, and it sounds like it was an emergency. I think you were overreacting.

Trusts them for what, childcare? And what exactly is he basing that decision-making on, since none of them are actually parents or have provided childcare in the past? I would trust DH's friends to help build some furniture, but not look after our tiny baby alone.

You know that thing where women complain about carrying all the mental load. Do you think this is how it starts?

You have to let people take responsibility if that's what you want them to do.

I don't think it's weird to have friends round at all but the one time you have a chance for one in one time with your baby?

I wouldn't have unnecessarily taken my 6 month old to A&E if I had trusted friends at my house willing to look after them for an hour. Surely no one would??

Once more, with feeling.

DH has known them all his life and obviously trusts them. That should be good enough for any reasonable person given the circumstances.

Then it's a good job

a) the baby wasn't a newborn and
b) they weren't just random friends

If you've got to continually use such silly emotive language such as newborn, random and dump to make your point you don't have much of a point...

Oh yes the 'low bar' insult.

What exacty was inappropriate or unsafe about this childcare?

In the real world, men don't dump their newborns on random child free friends that their wife barely knows, they just don't.

DH would have been angry if I'd left either of ours with friends he barely knew, and rightly so.