Husband left his friends who I don’t know alone in our house with our 6 month old

Exactly, so he prioritised his sister over his baby and his wife.

But not to dad who was making parenting decisions at the time.

Let's face it, whatever this man did was going to be wrong. It's Mumsnet and some posters will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to ensure that the man is always wrong in any situation.

If he'd have phoned the OP, interrupting her brunch that she was really looking forward to to ask what he should do, he'd be called all the names under the sun for not being able to use his initiative and sort out alternative childcare.

At the end of the day, there was a child who'd had a nasty accident and needed hospital treatment. He made arrangements for their baby that allowed his sister to get to hospital and also meant that the OP got to enjoy her brunch.

Let's face it, whatever this man did was going to be wrong. It's Mumsnet and some posters will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to ensure that the man is always wrong in any situation.

If he'd have phoned the OP, interrupting her brunch that she was really looking forward to to ask what he should do, he'd be called all the names under the sun for not being able to use his initiative and sort out alternative childcare.

At the end of the day, there was a child who'd had a nasty accident and needed hospital treatment. He made arrangements for their baby that allowed his sister to get to hospital and also meant that the OP got to enjoy her brunch.

So I’m not sure if I’m over reacting.

DD is 6 months old, I haven’t left her alone with anyone properly yet, I’ve left her with DH while I go a walk but the longest I’ve been away from her until yesterday was maybe an hour.

Yesterday I went to brunch without DD for a few hours, it was my friends birthday and I really wanted to go. DH said he would have DD and invited a few of his friends who I don’t know super well (they live in the city so we don’t meet them often) to keep him company.

I got back yesterday afternoon, his friends were still there. I asked how everything had gone and DH told me he had to nip out for an hour as his little sister needed dropped to A&E, so he left DD with his friends. Apparently she was fine. 1 of his friends is female, 2 were male. He reckons he was gone for just over an hour and his friends said that they gave her a bottle but other than that she was happy just getting cuddled.

We have never left DD with someone who wasn’t me or DH before. I always figured our parents would be the first people we left DD with. I don’t know these friends and while I’m sure it was fine, I can’t feel certain that they are good people. DH thinks I’m over reacting, she was perfectly safe. I feel he made a unilateral decision which could have been easily avoided if he just took DD with him.

AIBU to feel he shouldn’t have done this.

I think he should have taken dd with him in the car.

I think he should have taken dd with him in the car.

He's not... they are lifelong friends.

It isn’t irresponsible at all.
It might shock you but child free people are capable of caring for children. Some are better than actual parents!

Strangers to the baby, who has never been left. Pretty much strangers to the child’s mother too.

Trusts them for what, childcare? And what exactly is he basing that decision-making on, since none of them are actually parents or have provided childcare in the past? I would trust DH's friends to help build some furniture, but not look after our tiny baby alone.

Because in 6 months it sounds that he's not looked after his child on his own for longer than an hour.
So maybe he doesn't know what child care actually consists of?

Strangers to the baby, who has never been left. Pretty much strangers to the child’s mother too.

But she’s a stranger don’t you know??

Friends that dad has known since he was a toddler. Not strangers.

I'm sure mum isn't running every decision past her husband - can you imagine, "hi darling, sorry for calling you at work but I'm at playgroup and desperate for the loo and one of the ladies who runs it has said she'll hold the baby for me, what do you think?"

Gosh quite the tangent, my issue isn’t that he had friends over or that he helped his mum, it’s that he left DD with friends I don’t know, the first time I properly left her.

His mum did call an ambulance but was told there would be a long wait, his mum isn’t particularly well off and we live in a village the hospital isn’t super close, his mum probably couldn’t afford a taxi as January is a long month and she likely only has what she needs to see pay day left.

I don’t mind that he had his friends over, why would I? I have friends over but I wouldn’t leave DD with them without consulting DH. I don’t speak the same language as these friends (DH grew up speaking two languages, I’ve learned one of them but not the one his friends speak), so while they do speak English they prefer talking native language when together and that’s obviously easier if I’m not there, if I was they’d speak English and enjoy it less.

My issue isn’t either of these things.

Yes it was an emergency but...

First time he has to care for his child for longer than an hour his mates come round.

Which is lucky as apparently he was incapable of just bringing his child to the hospital when his sister needed to go to a and e. 🙄

What if he had needed to be with his sister longer? Did his friends have any way of contacting you if there'd been an emergency with your child?

Ha! LOL!!! Like a six month old would give two shits about an 11 year old with a broken collar bone. Too busy eating her own sock and dribbling.

My child also broke their collar bone last summer. There was no distress, no screaming. Just sat in minor injuries waiting for an x-Ray and then a sling.

At least she would be with a parent. Not left with strangers.